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... Send *oftballplaya a private message | | | *oftballplaya's profile:my name is Kalynn, Im here to help people on their relationship problems mainly but ill help with anything. Im 14, yes I am young but NOT young minded. I hate when people degrade my advice just because I tell it like it is. Get over it! I know what I'm talking about. I probably went through more than most adults, so dont say I dont know what I'm talking about because you would be suprised. I dont really put alot about myself out there, but what I do try to do is inform people so they dont make the same mistakes I made. Well thats basically the run-down of myself=] |
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Why can't I make friends?
Q. I've never had much luck when it comes to keeping friends, and i kow it's all my own doing. But if i knew exactly what i was doing wrong, i would change, but i don't. Even though i have quite alott of mates, nobody seems to get close or want to...
A. 20 May 2008: school is very rough, trust me im going through the same things hun. Keeping friends seems to be a constant battle because when you finally the trust of one your losing the trust of another..=(. One sure fire way to keep friends is to not be ... (read in full...)
The girl I've fallen for has lots of male friends.
Q. This girl who ive been seeing who ive really fallen for likes to have lots of close male friends. Why does this make me so uncomfortable? Is there anything i can do to make it better?...
A. 19 May 2008: alright, well i can answer this because me & my ex had this problem too. Dont control her. major rule here..she will prolly be upset if you tell her whom she can and cannot talk to. Your uncomfortable because unless these guys are gay then in your ... (read in full...)
I thought he really liked me, but then he told me it was just a fling for him. I'm so hurt right now and don't know what to think or do?
Q. Hoping someone can help. I am so hurt right now. My ex left town three years ago and moved back to his hometown. He was with someone and they split about six months ago. He called me in February and I stopped in and visited with him in March.We have ...
A. 19 May 2008: Alright hun, I know how you feel.
Especailly when you put everything into a relationship and find out that to them it was meaningless. It hurts alot. But what you need to do is hold your head high and walk away. You said it yourself that he alwa... (read in full...)
I can't get my ex out of my head. Does he still have feelings for me?
Q. This time last year i was with this guy. I was with him 7 months n then we broke up. I took it pretty hard but eventually managed to get back to my normal self. However the past month or so i keep thinking about him, at night i cant sleep. I get ...
A. 19 May 2008: okay well my advice for this is to call him
if he wont meet then talk to him on the phone
if this loser wants to date a 14 year old when hes 18 then thats really messed up on his part. girl dont let this loser get to you, move on and find someone ... (read in full...)
Can you explain sex?
Q. I am wondering besides humping what is sex? I am only 11 years old so, do not make your answers that detailed or gross. Thanks if you answer nicely....
A. 18 May 2008: well, for starters your 11 years old.
Why are you so concerned with the explanation of sex?
this is a question you should prolly ask your mother or your guardian. If your that interested in what exactly sex is then look it up....... (read in full...)
I can't get my ex out of my head. Does he still have feelings for me?
Q. This time last year i was with this guy. I was with him 7 months n then we broke up. I took it pretty hard but eventually managed to get back to my normal self. However the past month or so i keep thinking about him, at night i cant sleep. I get ...
A. 18 May 2008: ask him if you can meet somewhere and juss lay the cards on the table.
tell him it would be better for the both of you, tell him its important and its something you need to do for closure. He will more than likely respond by agreeing, Find a plac... (read in full...)
What do you think the stuff he is doing means?
Q. okay well im having a problem here. my ex seems to show some signs that he likes me, but he has another gf. Idk if he does so im asking this, he gets really red around me and I catch him looking at me and he kept all his myspace comments from me ...
A. 17 May 2008: did i mention that he treats his new gf nothing like how he treated me...idk if that helped any but its some more information i guess... (read in full...)
We have dated on and off over two years, help me - I am scared of him
Q. Every time I go round to my Boyfriends he always tries to have sex with me - we broke up because he found someone else but we are now back together again and the first time we met he demanded sex again. I also think hes cheating on me as he has a ...
A. 17 May 2008: walk away girl, walk away with your head high and your pride still attached
dont let this loser ruin love for you! I know what thats like when all a guy wants is sex. To me thats a very high offence to a woman. Its even worse when you refuse i... (read in full...)
Is the saying 'true love never dies' really the case?
Q. Is it possible to re-unite with an ex after being apart for awhile? Is the saying 'true love never dies' really the case? I am apart from my ex and miss him dearly.....just wondering if anyone has some positive stories. thanks!...
A. 14 May 2008: yeah It deff could be true, if you two were meant to be then you will find a place and time for your love to grow again. I dont have a good story because i ended up with a druggie so there really isnt much positive about an off/on relationship with ... (read in full...)
Did he break up with me over sex?
Q. ugh=( heyy everyone! I have been so stressed out lately, you see me and my ex split up about idunno 2 weeks agoish and drama seems to circulate me whereever i go. People have told me that he broke up with me due to me not letting him hit it...He ...
A. 14 May 2008: we kinda both ended it and he texted me later and said he needed to tell me that it wasnt over sex and all that, but it was 4 months he put into being with me surely a person that just wanted sex wouldnt put that much time and effort into it right??... (read in full...)
I don't love her as much, what should I do?
Q. What should i do if i don't love my girlfriend as much as i used to? Should i break up with her or just stay with her?...
A. 12 May 2008: Well I would break up with her because if you dont do this soon then it will break her heart so much worse down the road in time. Let her know your feelings now because the sooner you tell her the sooner you could possibly even fix the relationship. ... (read in full...)
He says he needs space...so why is he seeing someone else?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend told me he needed space and is seeing someone else. He still calls me, comes over, we go to dinner, etc. I love him so much and I don't know what to do. Should I just let him go? My heart seriously hurts everyday that I ...
A. 12 May 2008: Hi girl!
i know how you feel, my boyfriend told me that he needed to focus on school and sports but like a week later he got a new girl. It does seriously hurt and I can only imagine how you feel actually being with him and not being emot... (read in full...)
Why have I still not got a boyfriend?
Q. hey, Okay... I feel like a pathetic 17 year old- ive never had a bf.. I used to be a bit of an ugly duckling, but I've grown into myself more, gained some confidense ect, that was 2 years ago...why have I still not got a bf? There have been so ...
A. 12 May 2008: okay dear what you need to do is be bold and ask them out!
once highschool is done and over with you will never have to see those people again so be bold, be daring and make a move!
there is no harm in doing that, the worst that can happen is being... (read in full...)
He's broken up with me for good this time, how do I get over him?
Q. How do I get over a broken heart, my boyfriend broke up with me 6 weeks ago and since then I've sunken back into a depression. This is the second time he has done this but we got back together the last time. he says this time we won't.... I have ...
A. 12 May 2008: hun I know how you feel, to lose someone you care for imensely. But let me reasure you that you cannot die from a broken heart no matter how bad it hurts life will go on and thats a promise. I know what your thinking and how you feel. Keep your head ... (read in full...)
Where does your confidence come from? Any tips on improving my self-confidence?
Q. Hi, I know this is going to seem like a really random question but it would really help to have some ideas. I have always suffered from confidence issues and have low self esteem, though I have no reason to feel underconfident or inadeq...
A. 12 May 2008: thats a very good question
to me being confident is defined as being happy with ones self, so it can come from either always feeling this way or by making a change and being happy with that change. I had confidence issues as well until I dieted and ... (read in full...)
Help me with subtle flirting
Q. Does anyone have any good advice on flirting, it needs to be quite suttle tho. Thanks...
A. 9 May 2008: for sure. You could smile, laugh, touch them, all flirting is is basically gesturing to a person that you like them but without flat out saying it. Anything out of the ordinary friend zone will be flirting.... (read in full...)
He treated me MUCH BETTER than he treats her!! He still cares, right?
Q. okay well me and my bf broke up and he now has a new gf. We dont really talk but once in a while we will. but anyways, he kept all my comments to him on myspace and they say how much i love him and all that. Why would he keep them on there, Everyone ...
A. 8 May 2008: he broke up with me, He even admitted to still likeing me after he did it. People tell me all the time that they can see that he treats her nothing liek he treated me, He actually admitted to loving me. Yeah but he keeps my comments on his profile ... (read in full...)
How old do you think is old enough for teens to be alone with their boyfriends/girlfriends at home?
Q. How old do you think is old enough for teens to be alone with their boyfriends/girlfriends at home? I know if they really want to be alone chances are they’ll find a way even if parents don’t allow them but what are your views on allowing your kids ...
A. 7 May 2008: my parents let me have my bf over and im 14. But then again it all depends on the persons background (I.E are they trustworthy?) ... (read in full...)
How do I get my mind off my ex?
Q. I am having trouble getting my ex off my mind. It is strange because we haven't been together in over a year, and I don't feel sad about it anymore, but still I think of him all the time even though we don't talk and I am in a new relationship now. ...
A. 6 May 2008: okay hun. I totally understand and its normal, What you need to do is find a couple flaws in your ex and focuz on them..Do you really wanna be with someone who is like this or that? those are a few things you could ask yourself. See the positive in ... (read in full...)
How should I tell my teacher that he made my life worth living?
Q. My chorus teacher (who I'm in love with, but forget about that right now) is the reason why I'm still here today. I was suicidal in eighth grade and was going to follow through with it if ninth grade didn't go well. Obviously since I'm in twelfth ...
A. 29 April 2008: write him a note, dont tell him that you love him and thats why he made your life worth living (it will come off wrong) tell him just that he has changed your life with his attitude and any other good characteristics about him that you might want to ... (read in full...)
I wonder why my boyfriend is with ME since this girl is more beautiful!
Q. When my boyfriend was at college he met a girl who he became good friends with as they were in the same class, he had to draw her alot for his project as they worked together and I got really jealous of the girl as she was really beautiful, and he ...
A. 29 April 2008: okay hun, well all guys will flirt. you cant stop them. I dont see a problem with him fancying her, its just a phase really. Obviously if he is with you and loving you then your who he wants to be with. Dont stress out over this. I wouldnt be too ... (read in full...)
We are very much in love, but we fight constanly, what should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, i have a question that has bugging me. I love my boyfriend to death, and i'd do anything to see him happy, and that's how he is with me. We get along perfectly, and we are 110% comfortable with each other. We do almost everything toge...
A. 29 April 2008: alrighty, well instead of arguing ask him to make a compromise with you. Find a middle ground and get there together, it helps if your on the same page so know where he is coming from and make sure he knows too. Express yourself, get all the cards ... (read in full...)
I'm a bit shy, so how do I ask this girl to go to the movies with me?
Q. Hi, i need some advice, i really like this girl, how can i ask her out to go watch a movie? Also when i went out with my last girlfriend we were not very close, and it didn't help that i was a bit shy. If i was to go out with this girl, how can i be...
A. 29 April 2008: okay sweetie here is what to do, think to yourself...your young and you wanna have fun, dont look at her as a girlfriend thats gonna watch every move you make. RELAX be friends and get to know eachother, talk with her a bit and bring up what movies ... (read in full...)
I just can't find my girl. I've never even had a first kiss and I just get so depressed every time I think about it!
Q. Hello, I'm new here and was just looking for some advice. I've just turned 28 and am seriously worried because I've never had a girl friend. I just feel like everyone around me is able to move on with their lives but I just seem to be stuck at the ...
A. 28 April 2008: hmmm good question, parties or meet up with friends and have them bring girls!
get a group going. Have fun mainly, thats what life and dating is about=]... (read in full...)
I have several marks from cats' claws, people believe I self-harm though! How can I stop them?
Q. Heya! I have a problem, no i do not self harm dont worry! I have loads of cuts on my arms, from cats claws... and loads of people think i self-harm because of it, i try and explain to them, but they dont listen, what can i do to stop people cal...
A. 28 April 2008: okay hun heres what to do
tell them that you dont self harm, say its cat claw marks. honesty works the best i believe. ignore them, they are immature kids who want to bring others down so they feel better about their selves thats all. Let them know... (read in full...)
How do I let him know I've changed?
Q. What if your boyfriend tells you that you still haven't changed, but you know your self that you have. How do you show him that you have?...
A. 28 April 2008: well this is a toughie because there are many forms of "change" do you mean in a positive way or negative??
well for positive I would tell him straight up, let him know what your a better person that how you used to be. Tell him that you dont do t... (read in full...)
He borke up with me but now he wants me back-what should I do?
Q. i am confused. i had this boyfriend and then he broke up with me (a while ago). i still liked him for a while and then all of a sudden my friend came to me and told me he was regretting breaking up with me. then i got a note from him saying he was ...
A. 28 April 2008: well my advice in this particular situation is to do what you feel, if you still like him then persue a relationship (when your ready) dont let this boy sweet talk you into going back out with him. Stand your ground and if he will respect your ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my husband-to-be finds out my hymen has been broken, please help!
Q. hi, i broke my hyman whilst dancing. i know this because i found out when i saw blood and felt pain too. im getting married soon n im very worried.will my husband be able to find out. i mean will he able to 'feel' that i dont have hyman.....please ...
A. 27 April 2008: well from what i know about all this, no he proably wont be able to tell. Be honest with him and tell him that your hymen broke while dancing, im not sure if he will be able to tell. being honest with him may help you in the long run, it may seem ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date your friends ex?
Q. I have a friend she went out with this guy somtime this year but it's been over for a while ok. Now I think I'm starting to like him a bit .... I want to know if it's ok to like your friends ex and if I do tell her about it how do I tell her .I do...
A. 27 April 2008: its perfectly fine!
your young, date who you want to date.
But...ask your friend first and get her opinion on this because she might still be hurt, you never know.
Friends always come before guys, so keep her interests at heart somewhere to... (read in full...)
I just can't find my girl. I've never even had a first kiss and I just get so depressed every time I think about it!
Q. Hello, I'm new here and was just looking for some advice. I've just turned 28 and am seriously worried because I've never had a girl friend. I just feel like everyone around me is able to move on with their lives but I just seem to be stuck at the ...
A. 27 April 2008: heyy listen you will get yourself a girl and when you do it will be great. Go out there and find her!, talk to some and get to know them. You will never find her if you dont look and test the waters. There is someone for everyone, there is a girl ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dumped me after telling me he could see us together for a long time!
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up last week! its been really hard because 5 days before he did it he told me that he could see us being together for ages and then his reason for breaking up was that his feelings had changed towards me! he ignored my ...
A. 27 April 2008: hon its the same thing with me. He promised me the world then took it all away from me. Dont let this guy stress you out. let him see what he is missing out on. No guy is worth it. It will be awkward for a while so prepare yourself. Eventually you ... (read in full...)
Get back together with him and risk going through all that stress or try to move on?
Q. I had this boyfriend for a year. On and Off and went through all this bullshit. We're in love. Even though we're young. We always went back to each other no matter what. The last time we broke up, Christmas even 2007, i wouldnt get back togethe...
A. 27 April 2008: heyy girl
i know exactly how you feel. exactly. Well if you still love him and you feel that you need him in your life then my advice for you would be to go back, but if your heart still needs to heal then take a break and focus on you. You have... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but he has a girlfriend ?
Q. Dear cupid ... i really like this guy but he has a girlfriend and he said he likes me alot but he still likes his girlfriend. i told him i would wait but not too long and that i wouldnt ruin their relationship. he always say i love you when its just...
A. 27 April 2008: leave them alone. if he wanted you he would dump her and go with you. obviously he wants to be with his gf, or clearly he wants to play you by keeping you dangling in reserve. He gets all the love from his gf and by tellin you he wants you will also ... (read in full...)
I want to be able to move on or get him back?
Q. okay i have been on this site with lots of questions and i have recieved alot of help that i am grateful for. I have a new problem tho, my life seems to be full of them lol MY boyfriend and me split up like 2 weeks ago, he is moving on and its ...
A. 27 April 2008: did i mention that he has a new interest now...hes moving on but im stuck in this rut that i cant get out of.=[... (read in full...)
I've eaten some raw meat without realising you had to cook it first!!
Q. This might not appear much of a big deal to you guys, but I've eaten some raw meat without realising you had to cook it first! What's the likelyhood I'll get food poisoning? I'm kinda worried because I got an oral exam on Monday and MUST attend s...
A. 26 April 2008: how could you eat meat without realizing it had to be cooked...?
anyways like koga said, depending on the type of meat it was you could or may not get sick. If it was chicken you will most likely get sick. Im not sure about pork or beef though, be c... (read in full...)
I am always falling for the wrong guys, is there something I am doing wrong?
Q. I have just turned 16 and I have come to realize that I am a fairly attractive, confident young lady and I have been getting plenty of attention from the opposite sex. But I have realized a pattern: either I like a guy and he has no idea that I e...
A. 26 April 2008: i think its all in a matter of you over thinking things. You put too much thought into a certain guy and it takes the fun out of dating. If you like a guy that dont know you exist then you must change this by making an effort to talk to him=] As for ... (read in full...)
We live in different countries, am I being paranoid about his not returning my calls in the past week?
Q. my boyfriend hasnt called in a week and he used to call daily.does that mean he's not interested anymore.I have dropped messages,called him but he wasnt picking the calls,or am i being paranoid,he could be sick or out of the country? Didi i mention ...
A. 26 April 2008: be patient and wait a little bit more, afterall this is a whole nother country we are talking about. Give him a little bit more time, anything could happen that he is not returning your calls. When he does return them and he has a valid reason then ... (read in full...)
I want to be free of her, but I'm worried it'll break her heart.
Q. I have a girlfriend which happens to be my officemate. She is very possessive, a very jealous type of person, and always talks about my past especially my ex so we ended up fighting everyday. I can't be myself whenever i am with her, my family don't ...
A. 26 April 2008: you really need to tell her that things have to change because if not then it will affect you in the long run. If your unhappy then you should end this relationship, your office realtionship will be affected a little bit. All relationship endings ... (read in full...)
Why are all these catty bitches getting on my sh*t about my boyfriend? He said we'd get back together!
Q. okay, well my problem is that me and my bf broke up like 2 weeks ago, but thats beside the point. He told me that once he gets school and baseball fixed (we broke up due to him not focusing on school work and feelings did change for us) we are 14.. ...
A. 26 April 2008: thank you so much, your advice was great and helped me out... (read in full...)
This is a stupid question but how do I get girls to notice me?
Q. I'm kind of posting this to kill time. but maybe someone out there knows something i don't. but it is a stupid question. ok. Basically what can I do to get girls to notice me? im 15. Rather unattractive and socially awkward. But I suppose...
A. 22 April 2008: alrighty hun, well i will speak on behalf of myself here; girls like guys with a great personality, truly we do. We dont want that sexy beast that has good looks but treats us bad, thats a ticket out! Be yourself also because it shows your ... (read in full...)
He's the cheese to my macaroni, I think I love him or am I just attached to him?
Q. hi all i have a question that most people have problems with figuring out. i feel that im in love with my boyfriend but could it just be that i have an attachment to him i feel like the happiest when im with him. ive had many boyfriends and each...
A. 20 April 2008: you could very well be in love. i know that feeling and they say that you ar your happiest when your with the one you love...But only you know your true feeling so its kinda hard to decipher feelings that only you can feel. It could also be a ... (read in full...)
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