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writes:I am thinking of a conversation I had with a very pretty female friend. We got into an argument and I was your opinion on it.This guy was interested in her and they sort of began dating. He came to her home with a single rose and a card saying, "A beautiful rose for a beautiful woman."She said she got irate."He comes to me with a single rose. That is okay if you are in school or a student, but if you are grown man trying to woo a woman it is ridiculous. I mean, I don't like flowers, but if you are going to give flowers to a woman, you should at least give a bouquet of 40 or 50! One rose is insulting!""But it is the thought that counts," I said. "He was being sweet."She shook her head. "It is childish. I threw it away. It was the cause of our first fight."She is from Europe so maybe things are different there?In my mind, a gift should not be weighed by its cost but by its thoughtfulness. Or maybe I am spoiled myself and if I was more poor I would not think this way.Any feedback on which one of us is right?
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reader, Illithid +, writes (17 January 2011):
 One rose is more of a gesture than a gift, and a bit cliche, but not insulting. It's a sweet, classic move. If she throws a fit at anything less than 40 roses (really?! at least forty?!) then I think he'd better be wary. What happens when he gets her jewelry but didn't get it with several diamonds? What if he buys her a car but it isn't a mercedes?
She doesn't eve realize it was a gift and they he didn't even owe her ONE rose, he just wanted to make a gesture.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I should clarify that she threw the rose out in front of him and was angry with him. So it was a different attitude than Fluffy Pie's.
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (17 January 2011):
 Well you a right my friend. And your female friend is very spoiled and self-centered. And good move on behalf of her date! He barely knows her, why she beliefs that she deserves more flowers huh? It's not like she is the woman of his life, it's still too soon for him to conclude this.
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (17 January 2011):
 Well, she doesn't like flowers, so that explains it. When I was 18, my ex-bf gave me 3 red roses. They were beautiful, amazing but after the date, I threw them away. It wasn't because I didn't love him back them, it's just that I didn't like flowers that much and I found his gesture a bit too romantic, yet overrated for me. Now, if I receive flowers, they don't impress me at all, I just let them fade. There are people who doesn't like flowers. That doesn't mean we're spoiled.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): You are right. Anyone who thinks as she does is ridiculously high maintenance. And I'm from Europe and, trust me, it's not a European thing. It's just a greedy woman thing and that guy had a really lucky escape. Pretty she may be, but she'll likely end up lonely if she keeps that attitude.
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reader, SillyB +, writes (17 January 2011):
 I can see her point - one rose is cheap. She has very high expectations.
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