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writes:i have a big problem with my bf now, i am chinese, he is french, i have been lived with him for 9 months, few months ago, he began to get bored with our sexual life because he thinks my body is getting ugly, so i am in a diet program, and my body is getting better and better, he told me my body is pretty sexy now, but still, we don't get enough sex, most of the time, he finish with bj. After he wanted to stop realationship, because he thinks he lost freedom when i am with him, i don't like him go often out in the night with his friends for poker or bar.....So i tried to gave his space. Now he just wants to break up with me, the reason is nothing wrong i did, it's just he wants to be single, i enjoy flirting with girls. But i love him so much, in order not to leave him, i cried all the time, i told him to give me the last chance, now this chance is being with him 10 days, and if it's not working, he is going to break up with me. Can you please help me to save this realationship? How can i make him not breaking up me within 10 days?
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reader, SillyB  +, writes (11 February 2011):
 Well put blonde68.
Honestly hun, he is ruining your confidence. He is not a mentally healthy person and he is playing a sick emotional game with you. He's manipulating you and justifying his desires by putting you down.
He will do you a favor if he breaks up with you. You'll end up finding someone 100 times more loving and good for you. He sounds horrible.
chin up and be brave. You don't need a man like him!
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (11 February 2011):
Please.. please... retain some dignity here and let him go! He really doesn't sound a nice guy anyway, telling you that your body is getting ugly!!!
He has already stated that he wants to be single and flirt with other girls, so why has he suddenly decided to give you 10 days to improve...The fact is, he wants his freedom irrespective of you now losing weight and looking sexy? I would actually give him no more than 10 more seconds of your time hun, he seriously isn't worth it.
He also appears extremely controlling... and the way you are heading you will not have any self confidence left because he will have drained it all from you.
It will be hard to move on from him, it will take a lot of willpower, and you will cry a lot more for a while, but believe me, you will get over him and find a nice guy who will love you for who you are, not who you could be!
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