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writes:Hi.. Simple and short question..I'm dating this guy and I've wanked him off a couple times but when I do it there's nothing about the act that actually turns me on.I just like the fact that he's happy and he's being pleased..Is this normal? Or should I feel somewhat turned on when I'm doing it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2011): It turns me on but every woman is different what's a turn on for one woman won't be the same for another
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2011): I find anything a turn on if it's arousing him and making him feel good. what turns me on is the fact that he is turned on, so it doens't matter what it is I am doing to do that. I love turning him on because I love him and respect him and trust him.
with my ex it was the opposite, I didn't feel turned on much by him at all because I didn't like the way he treated me in general so I just felt turned off to him all the time and really could care less if he was enjoying sex or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2011): Every woman is different.
I personally get turned on by seeing my man enjoying himself. I even like when a guy masturbates in front of me. its something about the act. But everyone is different. To me other parts of normal sexual activity dont do much for me.
If you dont like it, then theres nothing wrong with it! As long as you both are feeling your sexual needs are met then all is good!
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reader, desirewhitefire  +, writes (24 November 2011):
 I don't know, I get pretty turned on when I'm touching my boyfriend and I get him all aroused and moaning. :) I love watching his face when he has an orgasm.
I'm just into that though, I like watching him touch himself in front of me. It turns me on like nothing else. I love touching his entire body, and nothing makes me happier in bed than when he lays on his back and lets me touch and kiss his whole body.
But again, that's just me. The thing that I think you should worry about is if you aren't getting turned on when he's touching you. If he's caressing you, kissing you, touching you in sensitive areas that are meant for arousal and you're getting nothing out of it, maybe he's not the one for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2011): It would seem you are just discovering sex/intimacy? So you don't know that much about yourself, your wants, your needs.For now, its your norm to feel this way. Nothing wrong with feeling satisfied if your man is. But I wouldn't be doing something I don't want to do if only to keep a man.I think the media has sexualized young girls that we now have young women who honestly think if they just give into sex and give it freely to any guy who wants it, it will keep him. It angers me because it should be about love, trust, and should only be done within the bonds of a long term, committed relationship ESPECIALLY reserved for marriage.Not causual dating, not FWB.The whole turned on matures as you do.If you are not that in to it- then don't do it.
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reader, Shadow Rose  +, writes (24 November 2011):
 That's how I feel too, I dont feel turned on when I do it, because honestly, from a woman's point of view, rubbing your hand up and down something repeatedly isn't very sexy XD
It's completely normal.
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