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anonymous
writes:Recently, I've developed an unusual hobby of seeing how many married men in the area I live are cheating on their wives. I have always been a really great snoop and considered being a private investigator at one point. There is a site I found which basically encourages affairs. I couldn't believe such a thing existed so I made an account and was shocked at how casual the men are about hooking up and cheating. I will NEVER mess around with a married man, EVER! I did talk with a few of them online just to get some general info about each one and surprisingly they were pretty open about their personal information. Well, I have found 3 men all the way down to where they work and the address of their home. I feel compelled to tell their wives what is going on. I would want to know if I were them if my husband was sleeping around on me! But then again I feel it is not my place and I do not want to be involved while having them (the wife) assume I am the home wrecker that slept with their husband when I was just trying to gather information to HELP them. I really do not want to be involved but their wives do need to know. Should I just let them find out in their own time or let their husband's scum bag cheating continue until they end up giving their wife an STD?
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reader, peapod +, writes (11 February 2013):
This is being nosey to the extreme. Do not tell the wives because you will likely get yourself into more trouble. And find a new hobby!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2013): There will likely be backlash, but seriously, I wish more women would speak up and stand up for fellow women with cheating men as should men for cheating women.
Way too many people get away with this and it's so unfair to those who are faithful and in their relationships for the long haul.
I would want to know if my man was cheating on me.
Maybe if people took more of a stand on this problem and calling these losers out instead of "minding our own business or not getting involved" and allowing them to get away with it, it would not be so easy for them to do it and they will think twice...maybe...a few at a time...
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reader, Serpico +, writes (11 February 2013):
You need to be playing a less dangerous game. I dont think you realize the risks you are taking for very little reward....
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reader, CANDY61 +, writes (11 February 2013):
I wouldn't do that if I were you because it could cause someone to get physically hurt. The wives may already know or have an idea that their husband is cheating.
Have you actually seen these men in the act with your own eyes sleeping with other women?
I would take So_Very_Confused advice and get a new hobby.
Think about it!!!!!
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (11 February 2013):
Im with DV1, but make sure you do it ANONYMOUSLY. this could be in the form of a letter addressed to the wives, preferably with information in the letter such as the name of the website and the husbands username,even a screenprint if you feel such a thing is not too hard/doesnt take too long to do. yeah sure many people would say its none of your business but if I were them I would want to know and so would you. just make sure you dont reveal who you are! take care
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 February 2013):
 Well.... aren't you just one of Jesus's chosen few???
What do you hope to accomplish by sticking your nose in to other peoples' business????. ... business in which you have NO standing????
I suppose that, if you want to get in the HOV lane to Heaven, you could justify it. Otherwise, I would say that you are more of an unwelcome snoop who really doesn't add anything to the human condition....
But... who am I to judge?????
Good luck... and, have fun screwing with other peoples' lives....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 February 2013):
 It's really none of your business to be honest.
and if you feel a compulsion to tell complete strangers something that they may or may not already know I think that this may require some professional intervention.
to these women you are not a reliable source.. just a stranger making trouble.
it would be different if you were friends with them.
in addition the fact that you created the account can be viewed as entrapment and you will be blamed.
get a new hobby.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (10 February 2013):
 I would break the news to the wives, but be prepared for denial, and being accused of being a liar, and possibly being shunned in your neighborhood... Try doing it anonymously somehow...
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