I feel like he's digging into my stomach!
Q. During sex is it normal for the guys penis to feel like its digging in ur stomach n make it a little bit uncomfortable?...
A. 13 November 2010: Ask him to try doggy style - his penis will have farther to reach and this may be more comfortable for you . And he may enjoy trying a different position.... (read in full...)
We're going hiking on our second date!
Q. Went on a first date with a guy awhile ago (a few weeks ago), now we're going to go hiking in a couple of weeks. It'll be slippery and snowy! I tend to be a little cautious but he really wanted to hike this mountain. On one hand, he can't r...
A. 13 November 2010: If there's snow you're going to end up joining your sleeping bags together for warmth and then your vagina \ penis connection will just happen.
So just enjoy ...... [ Maybe get on the pill if not already on it. ]
Report back after the weekend.... (read in full...)
She has to tell me her every move!
Q. My girlfriend texts me continuously throughout the entire day, I wouldn't mind it as much but the stuff she says is completely pointless and is a play by play of her day. Things like I'm leaving for New York, I'm in New York, oh wait no we're not. I ...
A. 13 November 2010: Well are you getting anything out of this relationship other than annoying texts ?
Eg great sex and if so how often ?
Do you even reply to the texts ? If you do that will keep 'em coming so don't.
Only you can balance the positive... (read in full...)
5 o'clock shadow!
Q. Why do I shave everyday, when I was a teenager I could shave and hair wouldn't grow back till 3 days later but now I shave everyday, it seems like every mid-day, hair starts growing back in?...
A. 13 November 2010: Some of us have to shave twice a day ( to feel cool in the evening, after showering ) .
So once a day is totally normal. Slightly odd it's taken you so long to reach this point but just enjoy it : spend money on expensive, multi-bladed razors a... (read in full...)
Going limp during sex!
Q. embarrassing question....a few times ive gone soft while having sex, Is there a reason for this, or is there anyway to prevent it from happening, tip tactics anything?...
A. 13 November 2010: You would have to give a bit more context - eg are you talking about one or more than one sexual partner ? ; how long was it since your last erection \ successful penetration ? have you had enjoyable penetrative sex with the same partner either ... (read in full...)
His actions don't make any sense. Should I wait or move on?
Q. Okay this may be a little long but bear with me please. My ex boyfriend is 9 years older than I am. I am 21 he is 30. He has a pituitary tumor and low testosterone so he pretty much looks and acts 21. Anyways, it took us a long time to get together...
A. 6 November 2010: Well the sense it makes to me is that he has left you. It's sad and all but that's what's happened. If you got some great times out of it while it lasted well that's something. But now accept that it's over; stop with the messagin... (read in full...)
Is my co-worker being friendly..or is it more to it?
Q. I have this really cute co-worker who i think might like me but I just don't know if I'm reading to much into things. we work in retail so we are in the same building but different areas. I started to notice that he often comes over into my area for ...
A. 6 November 2010: Can't you have lunch together a few times, perhaps with other co-workers in a group ?
... (read in full...)
I think having a boyfriend might solve my problems
Q. I have a major issue. I'm a 16 year old guy and my problem revolves around my sexuality. For years I've tried to deny that I am gay/bi, I've tried to act straight, be straight and still do today. But, the difference now is that I've actually ...
A. 6 November 2010: Well where are you exactly ?
Doesn't your school have a lesbigay alliance / group ?
I bet if you google gay plus the name of your town you would find contact groups and individuals you could at least talk to.
I think the social isolati... (read in full...)
Why doesn't boyfriend stop wasting money on rent and move in with me?
Q. My boyfriend of four months lives with me and my two kids but I pay rent and utilities. He has his own place on the side which he never stays at. I just don't get why he keeps his place and wastes money on rent instead of helping me! He says he is ...
A. 6 November 2010: Why exactly is he supposed to help you financially ? They r not his kids right ? He wants his own place he's entitled to his independence not to mention a respite from noisy kids that aren't his ! If you keep banging on about it you'... (read in full...)
Why do they only seem to want to be friends with me?
Q. Hi! My situation is wired because I'm 22 and I'm still virgin. I'm not ugly but always I have problem to have relationships. Some of the girls are curious to know me but after we pass some time everything changes and most of them want to be only be ...
A. 31 October 2010: Well have you thought of asking her to be honest and tell you why exactly she rules out any idea of sexual activity ?
The truth might hurt but at least you could then do something about it.
Also by now maybe you are so desperate to hav... (read in full...)
I don't know which of the two men to choose from!
Q. So here's my problem, 5 months ago I met this guy (GUY B) at work and at first I didn't really get attracted to him. But after like 2 weeks of working with him I got attracted with his physical appearance and personally I usually get attracted to ...
A. 31 October 2010: Maybe you need to look for Guy C .... (read in full...)
Boyfriend physical with me, it always involves alcohol
Q. I love my fiance more then anything! We plan on getting married and having babies together. We have been through so much together and I know he loves me dearly! I have never been in such a loving relationship but the other day he beat me up quite ...
A. 30 October 2010: You BOTH need serious help.
If it is not available at minimum split for a trial period of 6 to 12 months.
My instinct is that his physical violence SHOULD BE the motivation for you to split with him on a permanent basis - becaus... (read in full...)
What distinguishes boy from man?
Q. This is a question mostly for guys but input from the ladies is also appreciated. My question is: What distinguishes boy from man?...
A. 28 October 2010: Be specific about why you are asking.
And be honest.... (read in full...)
My life is a reflection of the movie "The Notebook"...I'm torn between my ex and my husband
Q. My ex and I had a child together and were together for 10 years. We divorced for stupid reasons and neither of us felt right about it but for some reason we went through with it anyhow. We were on again off again for 3 years until he finally married ...
A. 28 October 2010: I feel enormously for your husband . It seems you married him for bad reasons. You even dislike him so much you don't want a child who might share character traits with him ? You need to do the right thing by yr husband and tell him that you... (read in full...)
Has my relationship got a chance of lasting?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for a year now. In the last five months or so, alarms bells have been ringing; saying somethings not quite right here. I am in love with him. I worship the ground he steps on. I am in full time trai...
A. 28 October 2010: You are describing character traits which WILL NOT ALTER.
If they worry you enough to write to dearcupid you should basically let him down as gently as possible [ he's not doing anything WRONG you are just not suited ] and move on, and let... (read in full...)
Should I let my wife's relationship with Matt bother me?
Q. Should I let this bother me? My wife is in nursing school. The past two days she's mentioned having lunch with the same guy. Matt. When she first mentioned him back when school started I casually asked about him. She said he's married but havi...
A. 28 October 2010: DON'T let this slide. It's already gnawing at you - and I think for good reason . WHY does a work colleague need to buy a co worker lunch ? WHY ? Lunch at work is meant to be a re fuelling rather than a social, exercise. Eve... (read in full...)
I don't know which of the two men to choose from!
Q. So here's my problem, 5 months ago I met this guy (GUY B) at work and at first I didn't really get attracted to him. But after like 2 weeks of working with him I got attracted with his physical appearance and personally I usually get attracted to ...
A. 28 October 2010: Get real : guy B is in a sense a fantasy guy : he is abroad for one thing and you can''t get into his pants except in your dreams.
Guy A is around and available for sex and companionship.
FORGET guy B while you try and make a go of... (read in full...)
I don't like my gf's guy friend, but I don't want to overreact . Help!
Q. I'm feeling jealous. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half, and for the past 3 months our relationship has been long distance. I will be visiting her in about a month. When we weren't apart, it was obvious that one of her male ...
A. 28 October 2010: I can't see any obvious reason why a non sexually active str8 male would want to stay at your gf's house : none.
Unless she is his 'fag hag ' what exactly is the friendship all about ?
I am not saying he is obviously doing it with yo... (read in full...)
What should I wear to go and see my bf ???
Q. My bf always looks soooo amazing but I never know what to wear when I got and see him coz I don't know what boys like to see girls in can u help ???...
A. 23 October 2010: T shirt [ any color , but not tight ] with no bra always turns me on......
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I am afraid a guy I met online will tell all and the life I have built will crumble
Q. Hey everyone heres my problem . i started at a different college for the second time . quite quicky i was put on the rugby team . for many years i had / still am unsure about who i am - seeing as so many people have played cruel mind games...
A. 23 October 2010: If you think you're bi come out as bi - then he loses any power of disclosure he might otherwise have.
Anyway didn't I read somewhere that British rugby players have come out as full-on gay ?
It's all starting to get out anyway so really... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend notice that I am a virgin?
Q. i'm 22 yrs old and i'm a virgin by december im going to cabo to be with my bf and he thinks im not a virgin ive masturbated and donde sexual things but never had a man in my life and im freakin out and im scared to be with him will he notice im a ...
A. 23 October 2010: He might not notice [ how sure are you that he is not a virgin as well ?] but in any event you should stop worrying and let him know he's your first .
It's a privilege for the man to be a woman's first so he'll prob appreciate being told. ... (read in full...)
We want to have fun but should I tell him I'm a virgin?
Q. heya, I've been chatting to an old friend recently and found out that we've had sexual feelings about each other for quite a while now. We've agreed that when he comes to visit me we'll have some fun. The only thing is I havn't told him I'm a virgin...
A. 20 October 2010: It's a privilege to be the first : it should turn him on so tell him . [ And enjoy the sex - have some lube handy in case you need it and ask him to try and take his time. ]
Report back to us on how it was.... (read in full...)
Am I being insecure or is he being insensitive?
Q. I feel really insecure about how attracted my boyfriend is to me. We were having an conversation about how women r sexually attracted to men when they love who they are and men r sexually aroused more when the woman is "hot". This was in the cont...
A. 20 October 2010: Well.............to go to your last sentence I don't think it's anyone's 'fault' but it's a situation which has arisen which you and maybe he have to deal with. He may be insensitive in the way he expresses himself but at least he seems to be b... (read in full...)
B/f won't have sex, says I don't turn him on!
Q. I'm 25, and my boyfriend doesn't like to have sex with me, he says i don't "turn him on" what do guys like while having sex?...
A. 20 October 2010: The mechanics aren't really the issue [ anyway different men like different things ] - but what you describe is more fundamental.
If he doesn't feel sexually attracted to you in what sense is he your 'boyfriend' as opposed to just any old frie... (read in full...)
In the navy I can sail the seven seas ....
Q. This is not a relationship question... But I need some advice. I'm 22 years old, not going to school, working but not somewhere I want to be long term. I'm seriously considering joining the navy. The only thing that's holding me back is fear of the ...
A. 17 October 2010: I'm only guessing but I would be surprised if the Navy do not have orientation sessions either before or during the selection procedure to see whether applicants are indeed suited to Navy life.
They are not going to take people whom psycholo... (read in full...)
I've developed feelings for a man that's still in prison!
Q. I'm 21 years old and the daughter of an Alabama all-men prison's warden. I'm a junior in college studying to be a psychiatrist for prison inmates. For the last two months, I've been working with a 23 year old white male accused of raping an 18 yea...
A. 17 October 2010: Nobody in their right mind will believe this question is genuine.
... (read in full...)
My fiance will not help me clean!
Q. Mod note: Titled by poster okay, ever since i started dating my fiance he has always been VERY messy.. i knew that getting into it but i never thought he could be as bad as i know now i make little notes for him on the fridge of a little li...
A. 22 August 2010: You will never ever change him.
If you can't live with having to do all the housework then leave now. He will not change.
Live on your own or with your Mom till you find a guy who likes house -work tasks [ tho' I suspect the s... (read in full...)
Terrible University experience...
Q. I am having a terrible university experience! All the people i know that go to university are having a great time and love it. I find myself very lonely and sometimes not enjoying what im taking either. I'm a music student and though i love music, ...
A. 8 August 2010: Follow the advice in the posts below. No point in changing schools - that would be a time wasting distraction. You must have some interests or hobbies which lend themselves to joining a like-minded interest group ? Can you live in a co... (read in full...)
Why is it so hard to find a man with Catholic values?
Q. Why is it so hard to find someone with Catholic values? i.e. a guy who is waiting til marriage to lose his virginity. i know many guys want to marry a virgin but if they are not virgin themselves, no deal. Are there any virgin male out there wh...
A. 8 August 2010: Because virginity ( after about 17 or 18 yrs at least ) is totally unnatural - esp. for men whose bodies impel them to ejaculate sperm on a regular basis - if we don't have a gf to orgasm with we have to masturbate ( and if I'm not mistaken the ... (read in full...)
Should I give this a shot and how should I go about doing this if my only chance to see her is at work?
Q. I have a crush on my dentist and want to ask her out, just for lunch for starters. I'm a 55yr. old male and she looks to be early 40s'. I'm not married and am financially ok so it's not about going after her money I'm doing alright on my own. My pr...
A. 8 August 2010: So you lost nothing by asking - and if you hadn't dared you would have wondered forever whether...... etc etc..... Congratulations on getting up the courage to risk rejection. ... (read in full...)
My friend is always late and it drives all of us crazy!
Q. Frustrating! The only word to describe my friend! Everytime we organise to do something she runs LATE!! And what's even more annoying is she never has any real excuse as to why!! Now I can understand people being 10, 15 minutes late etc.. ...
A. 7 August 2010: This is a terribly controlling person trying to emphasize her superiority over you and your mutual friends - ie she is the 'VIP' in the group on whom all others must dance attendance. I had a friend exactly like this : eventually I worked out tha... (read in full...)
I want to love her without being disgusted at her past and where she has been.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for a few months now however we have known each other and been close for 3 years. She has had 4 claimed sexual partners including me, I have had 3. Were both 23. She had sexual relations with her much older ...
A. 3 August 2010: Well surely you must have had all these thoughts before you became an item ? So what are the positive things you get from the relationship ? Is it just great sex or is there more ? She does sound a bit of a nightmare morally but what's s... (read in full...)
Circumcision the best answer?
Q. I'm uncircumcised, I have a bit of a problem with pulling my foreskin back when erect/hard. I can pull the skin all the way back when soft/not erect but when I'm erect it's like I don't have enough skin and it's going to rip. I can pull it halfway ...
A. 3 August 2010: There are conditions which require adult circumcision but equally it may be that topical ointments may correct it w/o circumcision .
ONLY A DOCTOR - and maybe a specialist dermatologist for that matter - can diagnose and prescribe tr... (read in full...)
We wants to bring another man into the bedroom! I don't know what to think of this!
Q. I have been Married for 12 years and with my husband for 14 years. we have 4 wonderful children together. Friday night in the midst of our sexcapade in the bedroom out of the blue he asked if i would be ok with him bringing his male friend into the ...
A. 3 August 2010: I think you need to discuss with him in some depth exactly what the scenario is which he envisages.
He says you would not be having sex with the male friend - so what would the male friend be doing ?
Would he be clothed or naked ?
Would... (read in full...)
Circumcision the best answer?
Q. I'm uncircumcised, I have a bit of a problem with pulling my foreskin back when erect/hard. I can pull the skin all the way back when soft/not erect but when I'm erect it's like I don't have enough skin and it's going to rip. I can pull it halfway ...
A. 3 August 2010: Only a doctor can say.
[And when s/he does report back to the site to help others in the future who report the same prob.]
If lube doesn't help then it definitely does not sound normal.
How do you find intercourse ? ... (read in full...)
Addicted to masturbation and exhibitionist. Am I normal? What can I do?
Q. Ok, I'm a 18 year old guy and I've been wanking about 3x daily since I was 14. It used to be just when I was bored or in my room, but lately I have been feeling horney all the time. I've tried wanking more often (in school even) but that did not...
A. 2 August 2010: Masturbation once or twice a day fair enough. But more than that plus the broadcasting really is an addiction which has to stop.
Main defect is it is stopping you from inter acting normally with others [ both males and females ] and finding ... (read in full...)
Do I leave my family and my life to go be with my cousin?
Q. I've always felt attracted to my cousin she's 18 now and I'm 20 but ever science we were little we've always hung out together and I always had to fight the urge to reach out and kiss get. But that changed when she was 16 and we where at a party ...
A. 2 August 2010: Stop the nonsense thoughts and stay in Texas.
Some States are even getting round to making cousin marriages illegal because the offspring have a considerably greater chance of deformities and a miserable life.
So forget it and stay where y... (read in full...)
How do you kick an mastibation habit?
Q. I m 19 yrs guy..i started masturbating since 15 yrs of age..at tht time it was jst a fun for me,but now it had become my habit..now i masturbate once in 2 days..i have become lean and skinny..i cant control this habit..i want to get rid of this ...
A. 2 August 2010: With all due respect you can ignore answers from girls who don't need sexual release in the same urgent physical way that boys do. I doubt you'll get a single response from a male telling you you need to cut down.
From my discussions with oth... (read in full...)
I'm too shallow to overcome her sexual past
Q. My girlfriend of 9 months has slept with lots of partners and i am finding it hard getting over it. I am 20 and she is 18. She has slept with 9 people before me. Her first was when she was 14, she's slept with someone who was 21 when she was 15,...
A. 2 August 2010: Well first 9 ppl in 4 years is approx 1 every 6 months : is that all that many ? It's not as if it was 1 a month or every two months.
If it was you or some other boy you'd just say he got lucky ! Or even that 2 a year is a smallish number! ... (read in full...)
Homesick...
Q. I feel a bit stupid for writing this but would like some advice. Over the past few months I keep getting homesick. I live at home and am used to always having people around. Whencwork sends me away for 1/2 nights or on a course for the day I ge...
A. 1 August 2010: Use the time to read improving works of literature / watch films in the hotel room you might not otherwise see / talk to fellow attendees at the programs you're attending or whatever.
See these very very short trips away from the parental... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him want me and find me sexier?
Q. been with my boyfriend for a year, we love eachother very much, always cuddling. our sex life use to me so good, we had sex up to 4-5 times a week, sometimes 7 days a week (everyday) i know that in relationships sex will become less, but these past ...
A. 1 August 2010: Not enough sex sucks. Interesting it's you the woman complaining - most such complaints come from the men.
Couldn't you try organizing one day off a week completely without any work in the apartment - total relaxation for a whole day ?
... (read in full...)
Should I give this a shot and how should I go about doing this if my only chance to see her is at work?
Q. I have a crush on my dentist and want to ask her out, just for lunch for starters. I'm a 55yr. old male and she looks to be early 40s'. I'm not married and am financially ok so it's not about going after her money I'm doing alright on my own. My pr...
A. 28 July 2010: I think you will end up with a rejection because I think the ring on the chain ( not on her finger) is there for health reasons.
But you are too far gone mentally not to find out and I don't see what harm can come from asking her for a lunch da... (read in full...)
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