Would I be living in a sexless marriage if I was to marry this girl?
Q. My problem is very specific. I love my girlfriend and we are together for almost 4 years now. I have plans to marry her and to start a family with her in about two years and she agrees. We have been living together for 2 years, so we know each other ...
A. 28 July 2010: I don't think there is any more you can do - you are throwing good time after bad.
She just doesn't seem to be physically attracted to you and whatever else the relationship might bring that's a deal-breaker.
Better luck with the next gf.
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What does a women look for in a man?
Q. What is one of the first things or characteristics a women sees when looking at a man for the first time(potential boyfriend)?...
A. 26 July 2010: Masculinity: strength of character; sense of humour; openness; a tight ass.
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I'm worried about being clumsy in sex, having had only one partner before her.
Q. I'm starting to date a girl who I have been friends with for a while. I seem to click with her well and we have no problem talking to each and have good fun together. However I'm nearly 26, I have only slept with one girl when I was 20 and sex tbh ...
A. 26 July 2010: well it may well not be perfect first time but for heaven's sake just get on with it - get those pants off and get it inside her and ejaculate.
Take plenty of time with foreplay though.
I wouldn't bang on about how inexperienced / ... (read in full...)
It would be nice if he was more confident in our relationship!
Q. Hey guys. About 5 months ago me and my bf came out to each other. We were best friends and did everything together...and about a month ago we started being a couple. We get a long great and everything flows but he's a little shy. When it comes to ...
A. 26 July 2010: Well to be honest it sounds to me like he could be a closet straight boy.
Or he could be totally conflicted about being gay ( if he is, in fact, gay).
Your best bet i would say is to stop trying to initiate physical touching / hugs / whatever ... (read in full...)
All I want is to meet somebody! Will I be alone forever?
Q. I'm 30 years old and a single father. I've been single for four years now. I'm not good looking - some might say I'm ugly and although I'm not fat I don't have a great body. My ex cheated on me then walked out on me and my kids for another man. ...
A. 26 July 2010: You totally lack confidence.
One simple thing that it is within your power to do is to work on your body. Map out a one year program to become really buff. The ladies love a tight ass so work on getting your pants size down to 30" or 32" wais... (read in full...)
Would I be living in a sexless marriage if I was to marry this girl?
Q. My problem is very specific. I love my girlfriend and we are together for almost 4 years now. I have plans to marry her and to start a family with her in about two years and she agrees. We have been living together for 2 years, so we know each other ...
A. 26 July 2010: Frankly it's time to call it quits.
You have given her the best years of your youth and all you are getting out of it is sex 1 to 3 times a month - NO WAY is that enough - maybe for couples in their 70s or older.
Have you really not been ... (read in full...)
My partner can't satisfy my sexual needs, but everything else is good. Is it a deal breaker
Q. Ok , if u were n a relationship and everything Is good except for the sex, and u even expressed to ur partner Tht ur not happy sexual and even tried to explore new ways wit Ur partner 2 try 2 make it work but they jus can't satisfy u Sex...
A. 26 July 2010: Well you have to be much more specific about what it is with the sex which is unsatisfactory - ie is it the frequency; or what he actually does with you; or how long he lasts before he orgasms / or what ? do you want him to do things he ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's dad died a while ago... how can I get him to talk?
Q. My boyfriend's father committed suicide two years ago. I know the story of how and why.. but I want to know more about him. Like what he was like when he was around and their relationship. But I don't know how to get him to open up and talk about ...
A. 26 July 2010: Let it go. I would say it is almost none of your business and you have no right to stir the pot. You are not - you cannot - experience the heavy pain that bereavement by suicide is for those left behind. Not all terrible experiences are ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't do anything new in bed!
Q. Can you help me my girlfriend doesn't do anything in bed that we plan to try for fun yet will bite my head off if I ask why I could understand if she was nervous because she hadn't done it before but guess what her exs got to do it all with her ...
A. 26 July 2010: If doing sex beyond the classic penis-in-vagina mode is important to you ( and personally I don't think you are wrong to want some variation ) then you just have to tell her straight - she either lets you do it those other ways or you're going to ... (read in full...)
How to meet and date when I'm overweight and underconfident?
Q. I am looking for advice please, about meeting and dating girls. I am very overweight, and sometimes can be very underconfident. I know it is possible that my weight won't put someone off, as I have been in a relationship, but now I am uncertain a...
A. 26 July 2010: Well you know the answer - you're just putting off acting on it. Meanwhile, maybe there are dating websites for persons of heavy build and you could try and meet someone off there for whatever - who knows if you hit it off you could do a joint... (read in full...)
Why will my wife not have sex with me more often?
Q. Why my wife won't have sex with me more often? We've been married for five years and together for six, apart from the first heat when we've met, she never asks or offers to make love! and when I ask or make a move she says why? it's like a chor...
A. 26 July 2010: No, once a month isn't remotely normal or enough - you are entitled to a lot more, just on a physical needs basis let alone psychological closeness. If you didn't have the daughter my suggestion would be call it quits now and move on - you are too... (read in full...)
Is it possible not to like sex?
Q. Is it possible not to like sex? I lost my virginity to my boyfriend a few months ago and we've done it somewhere between 10-20 times but I still don't like it. Sometimes it hurts a little but at other times it's just uncomfortable or I can't feel ...
A. 26 July 2010: There may be more complicated answers to do with psychology and so forth - but for something very simple to try buy a tube of KY lube ( you can get it at Walmart ) and put loads of it in your vagina before your next session with the bf. You ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 25 July 2010: I so often find myself in radical disagreement with the responders on this advice website but I have to say I agree SPOT ON with Tisha 1 a few posts below. You're 'wife' has made plain over a prolonged period that she no longer wishes to... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant from him rubbing his penis on me?
Q. If me and my boyfriend were messing around and he rub his penis on me up around the top of my virgina. Like the skin near my waist, and he didn't cum, and there was barely a trace of precum. Could there be any chance I could get pregnant. Plus I'm ...
A. 24 July 2010: IF you are on the pill why are you only allowing his penis to rub around the outside area of your vagina / vulva ?
Why don't you let him put it all the way in ?
Must be incredibly frustrating for the guy - I can assure you you are not satisfyi... (read in full...)
My Shy Boyfriend
Q. Ok well my boyfriend is extremely shy around me i talk to him and txt him and he expresses his feelings then but not in person...he can french kiss me but he cant hold my hand....hes shy and i know its kinda wrong to make the first mov but he was so ...
A. 24 July 2010: Well if you want him to go all the way and have full sex with you why not send him a text message saying that's what you want and does he want it too. ?
Since he's less embarrassed expressing himself in texts you might get a straight answer. ... (read in full...)
Unable to finish
Q. my girlfriend and i have been having sex for some time now, we have done it 15+ times now and i haven't came once by our estimations i could go for over 3 hours. i have no trouble becoming aroused and her performance not a problem either. i have no ...
A. 24 July 2010: Well you are missing out not orgasming into her vagina so it needs dealing with.
Prob is you are now in a mindset where you can't enjoy the actual thrusting in and out because you are obsessed with being able to spurt your load at the end of i... (read in full...)
Does he sound bisexual?
Q. This guy has been in the same class with me for 2 years. I reckon that no-one but I would doubt his sexuality: he appears totally normal. However, when we are close to each other he would get really touchy-feely with me. Maybe it is just a playful ...
A. 24 July 2010: If you are so upfront about your own bisexuality why don't you ask him outright if he wants to have some pants-off activity with you ?
And why do you say no one else suspects him of not being str8 ?
He's checking out other guys' asses / pa... (read in full...)
I need to know... is he using me?
Q. I have been going out with a guy for a few months now, I like being with him but I can't help think that he is only using me for sex. We only usually meet at night, there is a small distance between us (a train journey) so he always comes to me. We ...
A. 24 July 2010: From how you describe it yes it's just a NSA sexual connection as far as he is concerned.
And as it's not every night he's prob seeing other girls as well [ at least insist on condom usage if you continue to see him.]
My q. is : are you yourse... (read in full...)
I feel as if she's just taking me for granted now... help!
Q. Hey guys, i'm in a bit of a pickle. I've been dating this girl for nearly 8 months now, and she has been starting to not care. I ask her questions, simple, mediocre questions and she replies with "meh" or "i don't fucking care" and frankly has ...
A. 24 July 2010: Give her up before she dumps you.
Sounds a nightmare.
There's plenty more fish in the sea.
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My boyfriend is inconsistent, irrational, confused, irregular, and indecisive, and wants to leave for another man.
Q. When my boyfriend and I met it was just total curiosity. We didn't know what we were getting into, but we made a life together. We had our trials and still had trials. Every time we made it through a problem I felt closer to him. We both had a ...
A. 24 July 2010: It's maybe not v original advice but you need to FORCE yourself to see other people - both sexes - in sociable occasions like dinners together / movies / whatever.
FORCE yourself to take up a new hobby / evening class in a language... (read in full...)
I don't see myself falling in love with him, how do I tell him that?
Q. There's a guy I went to school with that I had a minor crush on, which eventually led to us meeting after parting out seperate ways and us starting a relationship. He's, or what everyone would consider, the perfect kind of guy. Here's the problem, I ...
A. 24 July 2010: Unclear from your question: are you having sex with him and if so is that something you are both enjoying ?
If so no need to jettison that in a hurry.
Can't see why you can't tell him the truth about how you don't see it developing into ... (read in full...)
I'm taking a gap year from university, but my parents and my ex aren't supporting my decision. I can't take the pressure! Please help!
Q. Hi, I feel like I'm making the wrong decisions in my life. I'm only 21 years old and I feel like any decision I make is going to drastically alter my life. I've just spent 2 years at university studying music. During the course I worked with peop...
A. 24 July 2010: There is a lot of uncertainty in yr mind about what you really want to do - to me this strongly indicates that the better option is to take the year out.
Meanwhile could you negotiate with the uni over the 60 % thing - ie ask if having the year... (read in full...)
What can I do to kick start my life?
Q. Ok so I dont know how to really put this but im male, 17, rather intelligent and not the worst looking but not the best :S basically my childhood sucked. i used to live with my great grandmother and my brother. my great grandma died and me and ...
A. 19 July 2010: You may have been dealt a poor hand in life in some ways but the important thing is to accept that the past cannot be changed but on the other hand you CAN influence your future : ie you do have options.
Particularly if you are intellig... (read in full...)
I'm taking a gap year from university, but my parents and my ex aren't supporting my decision. I can't take the pressure! Please help!
Q. Hi, I feel like I'm making the wrong decisions in my life. I'm only 21 years old and I feel like any decision I make is going to drastically alter my life. I've just spent 2 years at university studying music. During the course I worked with peop...
A. 19 July 2010: Well is your University guaranteeing to let u come back after a year's gap and resume the course w/o probs ?
If so you can't come to any harm just acquiring an extra year's maturity and experience. Plus sounds like you have plenty of time to ... (read in full...)
I have never been in a relationship in which girls were threats...
Q. Well, to start off, I am a twenty-three-year-old gay male with an extreme amount of insecurity about my appearance when compared to others. I have an anxiety disorder (mainly social anxiety), and quiet, shy, reserved, do not like big parties, and ...
A. 19 July 2010: Well for starters you can't be that bad looking or he wouldn't be still with you.
But more important - you have to accept that there is nothing you can do to stop him having sex with girls on the side.
All you can do is decide whether that is ... (read in full...)
How do I fix these problems and spice up the bedroom activity?
Q. ok i have several questions.... my boyfriend broke up with me in october but still calls me and texts me and we sometimes hook up. I asked him why he keeps comming around. he says he loves me/ What should i Do??? also we have awsome sex but i can't ...
A. 19 June 2010: More answers or more awesome sex with the friend ?... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love, but shes married!
Q. Hi folks, I have known this woman online for 4 years, she is happily married with a 1yr old daughter. Over the last few months our reletionship has changed dramiticly, the normal talk of hows you and little un turned into full on flirty and v...
A. 17 June 2010: Get well away from her and this situation.
End it politely and then block her emails / texts etc..
You have no right to cause the unhappiness of her husband and child just for your sexual pleasure.
Go for someone who is free - put t... (read in full...)
I'm only attracted to men in the military!
Q. I have an attraction to military guys and that seems like all that I want, why can't I seem to like/date anybody else?...
A. 17 June 2010: Why is this a problem ?
Plenty of young men are in fact in the military - so why not just date them and enjoy ?
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I like giving men blow jobs - am I gay?
Q. I have always wanted to know what it was like to give another man a BJ. I answered an ad and got to know this guy. I went over to his house and gave him a BJ. I did enjoy it! Now my problem is, I want to do it again. I like giving the BJ pa...
A. 15 June 2010: God the judgmentalism ! The insistence on Labels !
If you insist on a label the nearest would prob be BI.
But why insist ?
Why not just enjoy doing what you-re doing with willing partners male and female ?
Only thing I would worry abou... (read in full...)
How do I fix these problems and spice up the bedroom activity?
Q. ok i have several questions.... my boyfriend broke up with me in october but still calls me and texts me and we sometimes hook up. I asked him why he keeps comming around. he says he loves me/ What should i Do??? also we have awsome sex but i can't ...
A. 15 June 2010: Well there you go then - just take plenty of precautions with pill and condoms and enjoy ! ... (read in full...)
How do I know whether to believe my fiance?? I found 100's of porn and dating sites, but he blames a virus!
Q. Well basicly last night i accidently stumbled across porn that had been viewed on the computer...I had to know where it had come from so i looked and it was from my fiances acount...hoping i'd made a mistake i checked again and to my horror found ...
A. 15 June 2010: Yes he-s not the perfect being you seem to have imagined - but now you have 2 kids with him you have to try and make it work nevertheless.
You need to have a big discussion with him - not argument - about what he gets from the porn he can-t... (read in full...)
Why don't I attract the right type of females?
Q. I seem to have run across a few questions. I need some female opinions on these... Not to boast about myself (I am quiet humble actually) but I am always refer d to as a "nice guy". I put the feelings and well being of anyone in front of me an...
A. 15 June 2010: You sound a bit *Goody Two Shoes* to me : girls like all that caring stuff in theory but in reality they like a bit of maleness - aka naughtiness - as well.
Let me guess : you wear smart casual; preppy type jacket and tie ?
In Glee... (read in full...)
Demanded my boyfriend gets a paternity test on a potential child..am I in the wrong?
Q. Am I wrong for tell my boyfriend that we won't live together or take any big steps in our relationship until he gets a dna test on a child he doesn't know is his or not? We've been together for almost a year....
A. 15 June 2010: How can he NOT want to know ?
Irrespective of whether he is the Daddy or not there-s something not right in his head.
You need to worry about his general mentality as well as the daddy business.... (read in full...)
Is taking a paternity test of my brother's child crossing the line? I have evidence to suggest his girlfriend has been lying for 7yrs!
Q. Okay this is a weird story and question but here it goes. When my brother was 16 he got this girl pregnant and she was 22 at the time (which i find very gross). No one in my family knew the child or even the girl for that matter existed until the ...
A. 15 June 2010: A majority of the males here - incl this one - think you should get the DNA testing done; esp if the boy doesn-t look anything like your bro..
Also I can tell that now you have this idea in your head you won-t be able to let it go till you-ve s... (read in full...)
Struggling to give my boyfriend oral..
Q. How can I blowjob my boyfriend with out hurting him with my teeth and I can't get it all inside my mouth how can I get it all inside cause I feel I'm gonna vomit because its long ??...
A. 15 June 2010: Concentrate on just the glans penis - the purple helmet: use your lips and your tongue: you could see if he likes it when you use just the tip of your tongue to stimulate his urethral opening. Use a hand to grip the shaft fairly tight.
Anoth... (read in full...)
How do I tell him the child isn't his?
Q. hi, i am expecting a baby. now me and boyfriend have been together a month. it IS NOT his child. i am scared about telling him. how do i tell him ?? thanks :)...
A. 15 June 2010: Well how far gone are you ?
The longer you leave it the more trauma an abortion would be if that-s what you decide.
Sounds like at the moment you-re still in time for the RU pill to work. But maybe not for much longer.
The new bf has... (read in full...)
Why do most men like big boobs so much?
Q. Why do most men (especially guys my age...) like big boobs so much? As I see it, it's just extra fat! And last time I checked, for men, too much fat is bad. I have small breasts and feel so inadequate. Breasts are so "out there" (unlike a penis ...
A. 15 June 2010: There are plenty of men who prefer firm and pert to huge and bouncy.
I love it when the nipples get hard for me - makes me feel appreciated..... and even small breasts can do that !
Stop worrying or you-ll give yourself a complex for no r... (read in full...)
How do I fix these problems and spice up the bedroom activity?
Q. ok i have several questions.... my boyfriend broke up with me in october but still calls me and texts me and we sometimes hook up. I asked him why he keeps comming around. he says he loves me/ What should i Do??? also we have awsome sex but i can't ...
A. 15 June 2010: Don-t give up what you-ve got in hope of perfection knocking on the door......
Stop worrying about not making him orgasm with oral : clearly he is enjoying the sex otherwise he wouldn-t be coming round for more all the time.
And you are e... (read in full...)
Terminate pregnancy by unknown father?
Q. hope i can get some advice here as hav no1 to talk to and am a bit embaressed...i am a singal mother ov 2 kids who are 9 and 6 we have a great life go away all the time and very settled i work as an escort to pay 4 our gud life as there dad left us ...
A. 15 June 2010: In my view abortion as a moral issue really is a matter of degree - i accept some people sincerely believe that from the moment of conception it-s a child but I think that-s just nonsense: those of us who think that way don-t have a prob with ... (read in full...)
Should I be content to be the mistress?
Q. I am having an affair with a married man for 5 months now. He is older than me and has 3 children. I work with him for about an hour twice a day. We knew each other for over a year before anything happened. It started out as a bit of fun but ...
A. 14 June 2010: You are calculatedly taking the severe risk of ruining the happiness of three innocent children; quite apart from his wife-s.
Try and get a moral grip and run from this situation without a minute-s further thought.
PLus - if you can-t thi... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 14 June 2010: Well I don-t understand why a UK degree wd be accepted in NY but not NC but anyway that-s in the past :
Meanwhile for what it-s worth be glad you have your youth and there isn-t the complication of kids......
Try a new hobby - other distrac... (read in full...)
Help! I don't want to be a friends with benefits!
Q. This is a second part to my first question that i had asked before. So I dated this guy for a month..broke up..went out as freinds had a good time..next thing i know where in the bedroom. I woke up left his house wrote the note had a good time don't ...
A. 14 June 2010: Well why not enjoy it then ?
A great sex life is more than most people have got !... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 14 June 2010: I have a friend with a UK law degree and he passed the NY State Bar exams - supposedly the hardest of all US Bars - with an intensive summer school ie just 3 or 4 months of study :
So if she had really wanted to she could have devoted a year or ... (read in full...)
Help! I don't want to be a friends with benefits!
Q. This is a second part to my first question that i had asked before. So I dated this guy for a month..broke up..went out as freinds had a good time..next thing i know where in the bedroom. I woke up left his house wrote the note had a good time don't ...
A. 14 June 2010: Well do you or don-t you enjoy the sex with him # .
If you do why not have more of it; to mutual benefit #.
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