Is my boyfriend abusive???
Q. My boyfriend and have been dating for amost a month, we talked for 4 months before dating. My boyfriend and I are both sixteen... I would say my boyfriend and I are a lot more mature than most our age, being that we have both been through a lot. So ...
A. 19 December 2010: He sounds really mean.
Dump him now and go looking to boys who will appreciate you, and not just for the sex. [ Tho they will all want that of course.]
They do exist.... (read in full...)
The darker side of sex...
Q. I'm in this wonderful relationship with a guy I really like. He's awfully sweet and really cares about me. He does does everything in his power to make me happy, so when I told him that I wasn't so sweet an innocent and liked things to be darker, ...
A. 19 December 2010: Well be specific about what you want him to do to / with you. Has he done any of it yet ?... (read in full...)
He jokingly told me to get an abortion!
Q. Hello, I need some little help here. First of all, me and my boyfriend are together for about 2 years and we love each other very much. We haven't had sex yet, but we're about to (both virgins). One of my greatest fears is "what if the c...
A. 19 December 2010: Well if you did get pregnant and did NOT have an abortion that would equal having a baby right ? And are you in fact ready willing and able for that ?
You could do with a plan B for if it does happen : he was just being practical and male in ... (read in full...)
17 and not interested in sex any more??? What is wrong with me???
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for just under 2 years, I'm 17 turning 18 and shes 16, for a while now we've been sexually active, which is great but lately I've put no effort into it and don't even think about sex which is really strange for me ...
A. 19 December 2010: Well that's an unusual one....... I did never hear of a 17 y/o male losing interest in sex.
You don't masturbate at all ? If you do what you think about when doing that might be a good clue to your deep down sexual desires......
I think... (read in full...)
I cannot stand doing anything intimate with my husband of 3 weeks?!
Q. I don't know what I should do... I cannot stand doing anything intimate with my husband of 3 weeks?! I met my husband while in Iraq (he was inshape and so nice). We just had a baby and then he wanted to go active army. Since we had a child he ...
A. 19 December 2010: None of what you're saying makes any sense : why should having a baby out of wedlock stop him going to Iraq ?
Why were none of yr family also 'watching' the wedding ? They must know of his existence if they know of yr baby.
Doesn't... (read in full...)
Unwanted attention from a 6th grader, but how to discourage her professionally and gently?
Q. Hi, I'm a freshman and I do a lot of volunteer work at the BGCA. If I have 120 registered hours at the club, I get a full credit toward my highschool transcript. I have this girlfriend, "Dana" and we're very happy. However, there's this girl who goes...
A. 19 December 2010: You should just tell her you are flattered by her attentions but really you are only interested in girls as old as you.
Maybe Dana could tactfully make the same point.
It will hurt her feelings tho so the trick is to be as gentle as possib... (read in full...)
Nothing makes me horny. Does this make me abnormal?
Q. Is it normal not to find the act of sex enjoyable? It's nice for the first five seconds and then Im no longer in the mood. I know it's a "mental" thing but I cant even imagine anything while having sex. I really can't ....nothing makes me horny, and ...
A. 19 December 2010: I would think it's distinctly abnormal for a woman not to enjoy being penetrated by a boyfriend she really likes.
If you really can't get wet and excited for yr bf you need to either change the bf or seek medical / counselling advice. ... (read in full...)
Has he just grown 'used' to me now, after just eight months?
Q. When I first became sexually active with my current boyfriend, it was really easy to make him cum though sex, oral or by hand. But 8 months later and its a lot harder too. Obviously he still does, but it takes a lot longer. At first I thought it was ...
A. 19 December 2010: Well you would have to be more specific about how long it USED to take him to orgasm and how long it does now.
Maybe at the start he was basically coming too quickly [ that's what most women complain about ] and now he's taking a 'normal'... (read in full...)
Why am I having dirty thoughts about my friend?
Q. Let me start this off by saying I'm not proud of this. I have this cute friend she is very nice and smart. And very pretty But I did something I never have done before I masturbated to her picture. It was a pic her and some clevage was show...
A. 18 December 2010: They're not 'dirty' thoughts . They're just sexual thoughts - which you are expected and entitled to have.
Also you're entitled to relieve your sexual needs with masturbation - why not ?
Why don't you tell her you think she's smart and ... (read in full...)
Am I just his backup?
Q. Hello everyone, I am a mid-20 year old guy who has never been in a real relationship (kissing, etc,) with either a girl or a guy... however, I have been aware over the past several years that I am primarily attracted to men. Over the past...
A. 17 December 2010: I think you should totally back off and out of this one.
Accept he clearly does not have anything like the same feelings for you.
Go looking for other men.
Leave off any form of contact with him. You're just torturing yourself. To z... (read in full...)
Threesome considerations and do's and don'ts.
Q. I just want to know things to consider and do's and don'ts when having a threesome. My wife and I are going to have one with another woman. My wife has gone there before but I never have. Always wanted to and now I have the chance. We have been ...
A. 17 December 2010: Need more context - eg where has this 3rd woman come from ? What exactly will you all be doing together / to one another ?
Will it be you servicing the two women ? Or the two women doing things with one another ?
or what ?
... (read in full...)
In the hospital and my boyfriend was watching porn
Q. I am in hospital (pregnancy loss related) and had an overnight stay, whilst I was in overnight,I found out my partner masturbated to porn. I feel angry and emotional over this, am I over reacting? ...
A. 17 December 2010: How did you find out exactly ?
And yes you are overreacting. Men sometimes just need a sexual release of semen build up.
It's nothing personal.
... (read in full...)
I want to try anal but she's really against it. Can I convince her?
Q. So I have been having sex with this girl for a while. We jumped into bed together really from the start of things, but that was really the only quick thing about it. She for almost a yr never entertained the idea of her on top or doggie, she just ...
A. 16 December 2010: I understand your desire to try anal because it can be a fantastic sensation (always wear a condom of course and use plenty lube ) but the fact is she's said no and I would definitely drop the subject for a few months.
Meanwhile you could co... (read in full...)
Not getting enough sex, would you involve a third person?
Q. What would you do in this situation? I am married now for 9 years and I do love my wife, but I think we are more of friends than lovers. We had a strong sexual relationship before we got married, having sex 4-5 times per week, many time...
A. 16 December 2010: I totally second Liebes Kummer.
As it is your marriage is doomed - and yes, I think it is only right you get a decent helping of sex - I would have thought once a week min !
You need to point out to her that you're so aching to have sex that... (read in full...)
Am I just his backup?
Q. Hello everyone, I am a mid-20 year old guy who has never been in a real relationship (kissing, etc,) with either a girl or a guy... however, I have been aware over the past several years that I am primarily attracted to men. Over the past...
A. 16 December 2010: If he wanted to have sex with you it would have happened by now, let along kissing.
Accept it is not going to happen with him and look elsewhere for a proper boyfriend.
I would say don't even see him again on 'dates' - it will just prolong the... (read in full...)
He says he's gay but, I think otherwise.
Q. there was a guy in my life before he told me he was gay but i didnt believe him, he was so nice to me and brought med out in his car he had this cool car with tinted windows but nothing happened between us but he is such a lovely guy was he telling ...
A. 16 December 2010: Not many men will state that they are gay if they're not.
Even if he isn't, saying so would just be a gentle way of saying he's not attracted to you.
Either way, leave it alone and look elsewhere for a boyfriend.... (read in full...)
Is it normal not to feel anything while being fingered?
Q. is it normal to not really feel anything whilst being fingered? and how could i change that? any help would be great :)...
A. 16 December 2010: If you are wet, get him to use more fingers. He could try three fingers maybe inside a condom for example.
If you're not wet at first just use lube.
Meanwhile what's he doing with his mouth ? Suggest he uses it to pay attention to you... (read in full...)
Why is it that I find this one guy attractive?
Q. I'm a little confused. I've always been interested in girls, ever since I first started finding myself liking someone. But I met this one guy recently and I feel things about him that I've never felt for a guy before. I know people would likely just ...
A. 15 December 2010: Well I would just say why worry ?
If you're attracted to one another and want to take it to a physically intimate level [ ?that's what you mean, right, by 'feelings I haven't had for guys ' ? ] just go for it and don't even bother thinking... (read in full...)
Can anyone explain my bad luck with attracting women?
Q. Hi there, just wandering where i'm going wrong trying to attract the opposite sex. Its all been going wrong in so many ways pretty much all through my life online dating -Tried this and the girls seem sooo picky on there, even the average look...
A. 14 December 2010: All yr friends are married............. well can't you just ask them and thru them their wives if any of them know any eligible / suitable women . Almost certainly some in that group will know some single woman and could maybe ( if they like you... (read in full...)
Boyfriend pressured me into having an abortion
Q. Hi guys, please give me some advice. Iv been with my boyfriend nearly 2 years and about 6 months into our relationship I fell pregnant. I was on the pill at the time and think it must have happened due to a little tummy bug. I was head over hee...
A. 13 December 2010: First of all you DON'T 'love' him . I would say as you describe things you actually hate him and are still with him out of laziness / fear of loneliness or whatever : you basically need to leave him - maybe go back into student Dorm accomm if ... (read in full...)
Does she mean what she says about not having 'those' feelings for me?
Q. Ok I was seeing a girl that ive known since high school but just in the past 6 months did it get serious. about a week ago we had a video chat and she told me that she didnt have "thos feelings for me" but, she tells me im a great guy and I treat ...
A. 13 December 2010: Honestly and truly you need to back off from her : I would say even stop seeing her altogether.
It's just causing you a whole load of grief this thing that she - as she has made v clear - does not reciprocate your desires for a full-on ... (read in full...)
How can I encourage my unemployed boyfriend?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend has been unemployed for about a year and a half. He used to have quite a nice paying job, and saved about half his salary every month. I know he is looking forward to buy a house later on and the savings are for his down payment....
A. 13 December 2010: I think you should back off and stop the nagging.
He previously had a well paid position : that shows he is not work shy.
He needs to concentrate on his studies and maybe use the College professors to 'network' in his chosen field if ... (read in full...)
Is this a superficial relationship or are we just normal teenagers?
Q. Is our relationship just a physical one, or do we just find each other really atractive? We have been dateing for 9 months now and around month 2 we did everything but sex, and started having sex at 6 months. Were both in high school and when we ...
A. 13 December 2010: Well clearly the sexual activity is something you both are enjoying with one another ..... plus you do more than just sex: you talk etc.. So sounds as if u r good for one another. Does it matter whether what you are enjoying by way ... (read in full...)
Can anyone explain my bad luck with attracting women?
Q. Hi there, just wandering where i'm going wrong trying to attract the opposite sex. Its all been going wrong in so many ways pretty much all through my life online dating -Tried this and the girls seem sooo picky on there, even the average look...
A. 13 December 2010: Well the prob now is that whatever objectively you have to offer the ladies you're understandably giving off needy or nervous or 'loser' vibes .
As what you are currently doing by way of tactics isn't working you have to start doing differen... (read in full...)
Will she still be 'tight' for me?
Q. My girlfriend had sex one time before she met me for literally only 2 minutes and told the man to stop. She knew what she was doing was wrong theres a long back story to this. But I'm wondering will she still be tight when we do it? Tight as a ...
A. 13 December 2010: Yes you're lucky now get some lube and condoms and get your pants off and get on with it ! Be gentle and take as much time as necessary getting inside her. Try just one finger first, then two : once it's clear she's enjoying that you can upgrade ... (read in full...)
What am I involved in with this guy?
Q. Been involved for past 6-8 years with male partner with sex as the only reason for us meeting or communicating. He is more than willing to meet with me anytime at my request. This male is NOT married (confirmed)or in any other type of commited ...
A. 13 December 2010: Not sure what the point of your question is.
He's not stopping you meeting other men.
Only you can decide whether these no strings attached sex meets give you something you want . (How good / frequent is the sex ? Are you having sex with ... (read in full...)
I never get hit on!
Q. I am a 19 year old woman. I'm five foot four 115 pounds in very good shape. Have green eyes long blonde hair and I'm a model and a nurse. I'm friendly and I smile but men still NEVER approach me. I don't feel like I'm unattractive and I make eye ...
A. 12 December 2010: Sounds like maybe now you've got into some kind of bind whereby you give off anxiety / needy vibes which could be off - putting ; or ditto if you are as good looking as you say maybe men are assuming they'll just be rejected so they don't try.
... (read in full...)
My neighbor asked me if I would engage in a FWBs with him?
Q. My neighbour recently approched me online about the idea of friends with benefits. We had been casually talking for a couple weeks. At first I was totally offended he thought that way about me but lately I've really been warming up to the idea. He's ...
A. 12 December 2010: If he's your age he more or less won't be able to stop before going all the way and penetrating ( and prob ejaculating into ) your vag..
If you are attracted to him physically you'd be better off planning for proper sex - ie you on the Pill; h... (read in full...)
My wife has a list of rules and guidelines for sex!
Q. My wife insists on having rules for sex, no oral unless we are freshly out of the shower. No cumming on her face or in her mouth. And no matter what, I have not convinced her even once to swallow. I love her dearly but, I think this kills the s...
A. 12 December 2010: Well what was going on in these discussions BEFORE you got married ?
Has she suddenly dropped all the adventurous / dirty stuff you [ and lets be honest maybe most men ] want ?
How can you complain now if this was the deal before the weddi... (read in full...)
How is a girl supposed to act when recieving oral sex?
Q. my boyfriend wants to lick me out and i know this'll sound a bit stupid but where would i look while he's going down on me? And i'm the type of person who'd be embarrassed if it felt good enough to make me moan or something, how could i get over...
A. 11 December 2010: Why not get him to turn round and give u the benefit of his penis in yr mouth while he's dealing with yr mound of venus ???
Double pleasure for you both......
Enjoy ! ... (read in full...)
It feels like a stone in my right arm?
Q. hey guys , i just have a health question , its actually freakin me out lately . i have some kind of a STONE yes it feels like a small stone in my right arm . i can feel it when i touch it but it also appears when i work out and my arm gets tighter , ...
A. 11 December 2010: Get a 2nd opinion NOW.
If it's cancer every day wasted b4 cutting it out is another day when it could spread.
It needs x ray minimum and maybe biopsy as well.
See a 2nd doctor immediately.
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Pleasure without penetration
Q. how can my boyfriend and l pleasure ourselves without sexual penentration?...
A. 11 December 2010: Why would you want to ?
Go on the pill and use condoms and you should be safe from pregnancy.
As a male I can assure you your bf will only ever be unsatisfied and frustrated if he can't go all the way and get his penis inside you [ think abo... (read in full...)
Girlfriend 3 days late and freaking out!
Q. Hi, I am 18 years old dating my girlfriend of 19. Last month she got her period on the 8th. Between then and now we had sex once with protection on and I didn't ejaculate inside her. We checked the condom afterwards and there was no hole or a tear. ...
A. 11 December 2010: PS
When you say you checked the condom for holes etc after sex - does that mean you took it off while you were still undressed and close ?
If so you could easily have got some semen on fingers and touched them (or maybe your still wet penis ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend 3 days late and freaking out!
Q. Hi, I am 18 years old dating my girlfriend of 19. Last month she got her period on the 8th. Between then and now we had sex once with protection on and I didn't ejaculate inside her. We checked the condom afterwards and there was no hole or a tear. ...
A. 11 December 2010: It only needs one sperm [ out of hundreds of millions produced every time you ejaculate ] to get her pregnant so boxers etc or no she could be.
But it's not the end of the world. Check with a preg test from pharmacy or doctor's office. If she i... (read in full...)
I am not willing to fall victim to the risk he took when he was younger and single!
Q. i met a man who is older than me. a great man with all kind of good qualities that would impress any woman. but when time was passing by and i talked to him more he was playing the field when young and he has had unprotected sex before. i am not ...
A. 11 December 2010: Well then don't agree to it.
You are entitled to insist on condoms, every time.
He's entitled to decline - in which case part amicably.
... (read in full...)
Sex with an older guy!
Q. I want to have sex, but it'd be illegal? I'm 16 and I don't know how much longer I can hold out. These hormones can't be tamed for much longer, I can feel it. Except, I don't want to have sex with some young guy my age. I don't find them attractive ...
A. 11 December 2010: Are you sure it would be illegal ?
16 is legal in many states.
You could prob find out by googling .
If it's illegal forget it : you'd be sending him to jail.
If it's legal and he isn't married or in a relationship you both might get ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to try and pursue this relationship???
Q. My wife and I haven’t got on for years - she hasn’t slept with me for 8 years, and hasn’t even slept in the same room for 5! Two weeks after Christmas last year I was diagnosed with cancer. I couldn’t stay at my flat while having chemo due to the l...
A. 11 December 2010: If both you and the woman concerned WISH to pursue the relationship you WOULD BE QUITE WRONG NOT TO !
Who are your son and his gf to object ?
You are their elders and betters and you should politely tell them to f. off and let you both pur... (read in full...)
Importance of physical attraction for guys?
Q. i met this guy off an online dating website (im 21, he 22).. im quite shy and am rather intimidated by him for various reasons, but we;ve been on a few dates anyways.. just wondering whether guys would persue a girl that they're not physically ...
A. 17 November 2010: He wants to get into your pants.
You want to get into his.
What's not to like ?
... (read in full...)
It feels like a stone in my right arm?
Q. hey guys , i just have a health question , its actually freakin me out lately . i have some kind of a STONE yes it feels like a small stone in my right arm . i can feel it when i touch it but it also appears when i work out and my arm gets tighter , ...
A. 17 November 2010: Don't waste a MINUTE more time : of course it could be cancer so you need to see a doctor IMMEDIATELY who will refer you for biopsy / x-rays / whatever .
If it is cancer it can be treated but the longer you leave it the greater the like... (read in full...)
I want to get rid of these fanny farts!
Q. right well where should i start.... i know it is normal but also very embarrassing an all. but when having sex with my partner sometimes i "fanny fart" that is what they call it these days well, they dont happen all the time but when they do i g...
A. 13 November 2010: Sounds like you have a bf with a good sense of humor - plus he's getting what matters to him - his pants and his rocks off....... so just stop worrying and enjoy the sex. Dare say your bf'll fart at some point so you'll be evens...... (read in full...)
I feel like he's digging into my stomach!
Q. During sex is it normal for the guys penis to feel like its digging in ur stomach n make it a little bit uncomfortable?...
A. 13 November 2010: Ask him to try doggy style - his penis will have farther to reach and this may be more comfortable for you . And he may enjoy trying a different position.... (read in full...)
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