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Do I leave my family and my life to go be with my cousin?

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Question - (2 August 2010) 5 Answers - (Newest, 2 August 2010)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I've always felt attracted to my cousin she's 18 now and I'm 20 but ever science we were little we've always hung out together and I always had to fight the urge to reach out and kiss get. But that changed when she was 16 and we where at a party when my best friend graver her and tried to rape her when I saw it to beat him till he couldn't bleed no more. Ever since then every time we meet she grabs me and makes out with my and asks me go away with her to Georgia to get married (we live in Texas) I really want to go with her to be with her to love her and protect her but I don't want to leave Texas,and all my family. I know I want to do this because befriend the incident galloped I dumped countless girls because all I could think about was her. And she did the same think after all that happened. What should I do? Leave my family and never see them again and be happy with her or stay in Texas and live every day with the pain full tought of longing for her every day.

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A male reader, dirtball United States +, writes (2 August 2010):

dirtball agony auntHow do you expect to run away and start a new life when you can't even compose a coherent sentence?

For god sakes if you do run away together, do the world a favor and get a vasectomy so you can't reproduce with her. That's just what the south needs, more inbreeders...

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A female reader, cocoqueen88 United States +, writes (2 August 2010):

cocoqueen88 agony auntnope not a good idea at all.

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (2 August 2010):

Fatherly Advice agony auntTo throw cold water on this, I'd like to say that neither one of you is mature enough to make that kind of decision.

Both of you are suffering from the effects of that "incident" 2 years ago. She is not emotionally healthy enough to start a new life. And you are not able, for some unstated reason, to stand on your own without family. You are not ready to support a wife who doesn't have that kind of baggage.

I know you two have a desire to escape the memory of that terrible event. It is a natural reaction, but it is not the way to heal. You both need help to cope. You cannot run far enough to escape the feelings.

FA

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A male reader, rivi United States +, writes (2 August 2010):

Stop the nonsense thoughts and stay in Texas.

Some States are even getting round to making cousin marriages illegal because the offspring have a considerably greater chance of deformities and a miserable life.

So forget it and stay where you are. She can get whatever protection, if any, she needs from others or the police.

Now concentrate on meeting a gf where you are.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010):

stay with your family , there'll be other girls , it's not worth riskign total isolation from your family on a whim.

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