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41-50,
*iso32
writes:If you've been dating someone for a little over a month, and you've noticed they've sort of cooled off (not sending sweet little text here and there, not as passionately kissing, less "rapturous) - would you just give them space to figure things out and not say a word OR ask "I'm still really enjoying getting to know you? how do you feel things are going?" He had told me about a week ago that he hasn't gone on any other dates while we've been seeing each other (neither have I) but he had to switch nights seeing me last night because "I forgot I had made plans to do something with someone." That vagueness leads me to believe it's a date or out with an ex he remains very close with. I'm certainly not going to ask about it because he deserves his privacy and also to date other people at only a month. But I'm trying to protect myself from getting hurt. I don't want to date someone who's lost interest and is hanging on to me until he finds something better or because he's lonely. Should I play it cool and not say anything or non-emotionally ask "what's up?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2011): Yes I think you should date others, that way it will limit your chances of being hurt by pinning all your hopes on this guy, who seems to be dating other women.
Going on other dates will take your mind off the situation with him, however after awhile if things were still the same there I would move on.
Good Luck.x
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (16 June 2011):
 Since he has not declared you an offical and exclusive couple, then yes it is possible he is dating others and is slightly less interested.
Do not stop seeing him if you enjoy his company, however you should not be waiting for him to come around.
If he has a habit of canceling and resceduling dates with you, I would take him off your potential list and tell him he is not being respectful of your time.
As you said, it has only been a month-you should be going out with others too:)
Best Wishes
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