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writes:i started seeing this guy a few months ago and we started as mates going to the pub and talking , anyway we did eventually sleep together and after we decided to stay mates . anyway i had feelings for him and he kept saying i dont want a seriouse relationship so i left it and kept it as mates , so this month i found i was falling for him again , and he said he was also and wanted to be more and didnt see me as shag mates ,and that he will phone later so he told me he will be busy a few weeks ago and i didnt contact him as i was alo then , i phoned him this week and hes sooo cold to me now , he now told me hes met someone else and he really likes her , should i stay mates with him or should i end it Reply to this Question
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (22 February 2007):
 I don't think that it would be a good idea to keep being mates since there is another woman in the picture. It will only hurt you more to see him with her, and she would probably be jelous of you!
I would stay away from any contact with him if I were you. There are other men that will be alot better for you and treat like a queen!! You deserve that much!!!!
Good Luck! HUGS!
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reader, Uncle Stu +, writes (21 February 2007):
 I agree with both of the above. Just break away from him and just make a fresh start. Don't do the wedding if you don't feel like it, but it sounds like this boy has used you. My mate did the same to another girl and now, three years on, no girl will touch him. leave him. get away. be your own person. Good luck xxx
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reader, NuttyGooner +, writes (21 February 2007):
 Hi there,
I'm sorry, this might not be what you want to hear but:
He used you as a f**k-buddy, you wanted more, he said he wasn't after a serious relationship, when he said he was falling for you, he was probably trying to keep you sweet so he could continue getting his jollies, and now you are no longer convenient he has gone all cold.
I wouldn't stay mates with someone who would mess me around like that - you deserve to be with someone who won't play games or screw you around!
Good luck!
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (21 February 2007):
 hi
i think staying mates with this guy will hurt you even more because how are you going to pretend you are happy with him dating another woman while all you want is him? dont torture yourself like that, you have a choice in all this, move on go out and find someone else.
jovial
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