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writes:Do you think i should tell this boy that i love him or just keep it to myself?my close friends know, and my parents have guessed.he's involved with someone who is also very close to me. although i don't intend to try and break up them (and i doubt i could even if i did try), i was just wondering whether or not it would be fair to tell him or not. i kind of think it's always nice to know somebody loves you, but i dunno if he shares this view and i don't really know how awkward this will make our friendship afterwards.any advice from anyone would be really helpful. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): well i was in the exact same situation, and it was killing me! So I told him, it was good because afterwards I got over it! Don't know if you believe the bible or not, never the less there is a verse in proverbs that says "It is better to have an open rebuke than a secret love" that is what inspired me to tell him. then i could move on. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): It's always better to express your feelings so that u dont repent in future that he might have said yes. True friendship is beyond any hard feelings.even if he prefers to stay friends accept it that God meant u two to be so....gudluck!
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (28 April 2007):
 I don't think that would be a good to disclose your feelings about this guy. And since he is involved with someone who you are very close to...that is another reason why you should not tell him. It could turn out to be very disasterous for you, the guy and the other person!!! It is much better to keep silent in this case!
I know if a friend of mine had her eye on my guy, and she told him...he would tell me, and that would change my feelings of her!!
Just worship him from afar! Good Luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you very much everyone!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (28 April 2007):
 I don't think you should tell him if he's with someone else. It'll only confuse him and jeopardise a relationship which likely makes him very happy. If you were both single I'd tell you to tell him asap but if you were to tell him it'd be a selfish gesture on ur part to get it off your chest and the shockwaves could cause huge problems for everyone else involved.
CD
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reader, Girl Pants  +, writes (28 April 2007):
 Well, there's always a saying that it's not wrong to love someone. But if you wanna confess your feelings, you would have to see the situation.
It happened to me once when a good friend of mine confessed his feelings to me. We've been friends for 3 years already and he's really close to my family. One thing is that he doesn't know that i have a boyfriend and thought that i liked him too; just because i treat him well. So, it kinda affect our friendship and his relationship with my family when he confessed.
What i'm trying to say is, it's best not to confess when he is attach. What's more, he's attached to someone close to you.
If both are you are meant to be, then you are. Don't hurry in finding 'The One'. Just take one step at a time.
:)
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