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writes:Hi! My best friend is trying to break up with her boyfriend and i dont know what to tell her. She has been going out with this guy for a year and a half, and he is far away in med-school. She has been recently going through some medical procedures and he hasnt been confronting her. Because of that he broke her heart by not calling and showing that he cares. What can i tel her to comfort her, and help her make the right desicion.
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reader, rammsteinfan +, writes (24 March 2007):
 Just be there for your friend, and don't bring up what has happened in her relationship with her bf. For one thing, he is going through med-school, and it is very tough and hard on him with all the classes that he has to attend and do tests and finals! I know, my Dad is a doctor, and he told me how tough it was and all the nights burning the mid-night oil! He is probably under so much stress that he forgot to call. Also you stated that your friend has been going through medical procedures...you didn't state if it was life-threatening....but maybe he's afraid of losing her. You do not know...so that is why you shouldn't interfer in that.
Just be there for your friend!!!
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reader, livi  +, writes (24 March 2007):
 hey there
tell your firned that guy was a pathetic loser and that she could of done ten times better.
perhapse you could ring him and ask him why he did what he did,
Be there for your friend, support her as she would you.
Good luk with it all :D
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (24 March 2007):
 I think Mitch is right. You should be very supportive because she needs you right now. Remain neutral about her boyfriend, it is her decision to make. He may seem callous and unsupportive, but he may not have been learned how to take care of anyone else but himself yet. Guys tend to mature a little slower in this respect. Girls have been encouraged their whole lives to become caregivers. Althought you would think that he would pick up on this himself - some guys just don't. My apologies to all the sweet guys out here who know the right thing to do when your girlfriend is sick, but I know you all have a friend like this at Uni. Another factor is Med-School, it's pretty intensive and he's probably run off his feet. You could comfort her by telling her that, and let her make the decision on her own. Your a good friend and I hope that your friend is better soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2007): Tell her that he doesn't deserve like her and that she can find someone better than that. Also tell her that it is a waste of time being upset over their split.
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