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writes:Question: I have a vibrator/dildo (and I'm a virgin), and when I insert it, it doesn't feel good. It doesn't feel (really) bad, just kinda uncomfortable. Am I do something wrong? Any advice? [i use some lube]
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reader, virginitee +, writes (30 July 2013):
virginitee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have hoping to gain some pleasure and enjoy the feel of someone/something inside me.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 July 2013):
 There's a BIG difference between masturbation and sex with another person. You'll still be a virgin by almost all definitions, because you still haven't had sex with someone else... Otherwise a man could for example "lose" his virginity by humping a banana... It doesn't actually qualify as sexual experience, sorry. You'll still be a virgin in every sense, apart from (perhaps) having a torn hymen. But not every woman has a hymen to be torn to begin with, so that basically leaves you with nothing but a sour experience with a dildo...
So, yes, why are you doing this? Perhaps sex the first time won't hurt so much, but perhaps it still will. My first time having sex didn't hurt, the part that hurt was me not being lubricated enough, so I was dry and there was friction. However, years later, after lots of sex with another boyfriend, I had a second boyfriend who was so thick that I cried (no kidding, I did) afterwards because it was so painful. I even bled once. That was frustrating... but nothing lube and good positions couldn't fix.
So yeah... exactly what do you think you will gain from inserting a vibrator/dildo?
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (29 July 2013):
Dear OP,
Vaginas are made for penises, not dildos. While a dildo mostly feels like a stick and is a dead thing, a penis is warm and smooth and adapts to the shape of your body. You can never get the same pleasure from a dildo than from a real penis. So, there's nothing wrong with you if you don't like the feeling of a dildo too much, that doesn't mean you won't like sex.
I'd recommend lube. Or just doing it with your hands. And I also agree, don't just insert anything unless you're really aroused and wet.
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reader, virginitee +, writes (29 July 2013):
virginitee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have been ~in the mood~ I don't just shove it up there.
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reader, Pr3tty_in_pink86  +, writes (29 July 2013):
I would recommend using a dildo after you become sexually active. A vibrator is external only, although you can get one that does external aswell as internal.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (29 July 2013):
The vibrator is to be used on your clitoris, not to be inserted. Try it out, hope you will feel better once you use it right.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (29 July 2013):
 You have to be very turned on before it's going to be comfortable. Women orgasm from their clitoris anyways (though many enjoy the sensation of internal stimulation as well), so I'd recommend using it externally until you can more easily gauge how turned on you need to be to insert anything. I don't know anyone who would find it comfortable, let alone pleasurable, to just put on some lube and push it in without a "warm up."
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reader, virginitee +, writes (29 July 2013):
virginitee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBecause I want to not be a virgin anymore. It's pretty much no different than if I were having sex for the first time.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (29 July 2013):
 Stop inserting, use the buzz buzz of the vibrator on your clitoris.
If it's not pleasurable WHY keep doing it?
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reader, virginitee +, writes (29 July 2013):
virginitee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have another one, but it was too small.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (29 July 2013):
If you're too tight get a smaller one.
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