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Be careful of predators and perverts online

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Article - (27 November 2013) 2 Comments - (Newest, 7 December 2013)
A age 51-59, writes:

I have been doing the online dating for a while now and there are a lot of predators who are waiting to take advantage of gullible women. I have been a victim and you think I would know better by now. When you are lonely and vulnerable you will keep making bad choices in men. Guys who ask for naked pics, your phone number so they can have phone sex with you, money, skype, webcams, and the list goes on. These creeps are obsessed with sex, the kinkier the better. I was dumb enough to give my cell number a phone I rarely use to a stranger on a dating site and he gave me his email address to get a picture of my ass. He claimed to be a pitcher for the Pittsburgh Pirates. Probably was lying.

Are there any guys who know how to have a decent intelligent conversation. Ladies, all of you that do the online dating take it from me, it is crucial that you tell these guys where to stick it if they get too personal. It is like a double standard they think they can just say or ask for anything the filthier the better. If we give into there disgusting demands they call us sluts, whores, and bitches. It's like they are testing you to see if you respect yourself, or they get mad if you won't give them the time of day. And don't tell me that these perverts don't know what they are doing. In the back of their minds we are the ones they don't bring home to mom and dad. I'm sure a lot of them have mommie issues too. When men hate their mothers they will act out and treat women disrespectfully. Why all these games?

The nastiest thing a guy has ever done on the site is jerking off right in front of me. I was so stunned I had to delete

him and block him. Do they think this is sexy? Do they think it turns us on? Or are they extremely nervous around beautiful, attractive women? They get turned on by photos instantly. Men are visual creatures I know this and maybe women too. Now I am not saying that's not normal because men will be men right. As women we notice when a man is attractive. But how many women ask

a man to strip on a webcam, ask for naked photos, masturbate in front of a guy on dating site, ask a stranger to have phone sex, and talk about the size of her breasts and vagina? Why would I wanna know that you are 10 inches and I haven't met you yet. Shouldn't I be the one saying, "Hey I will never introduce you to my parents."

My point is basically this, report anything that makes you feel uncomfortable and get the police involved if you have to. As long

as we are on these dating sites, we have to weed out the bad

ones that make it hard for the guys who are respectful and want to date and have a real relationship.

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A female reader, Pr3tty_in_pink86 United Kingdom +, writes (7 December 2013):

As women we notice when a man is attractive. But how many women ask a man to strip on a webcam, ask for naked photos, masturbate in front of a guy on dating site, ask a stranger to have phone sex, and talk about the size of her breasts and vagina?

I don't believe this is common behaviour for women who are not emotionally involved, as we know men don't need emotions when using people as sex objects.

Asking for full body pictures is the one that annoys me.

On some of the sites they have an option to weed out people looking for intimate encounters so they don't show up on your searches. I once posed as an easy woman online and I was sickened and appauled at the amount of men that were willing to travel for a woman they had not even seen a picture of. These men sit online all day looking for people to sleep, with it is saddening. I have their usernames now and I can block them. Some of the guys shockingly were looking for relationships but claimed they can have some fun inbetween.

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