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25 February 2013: Here are a few ways you can spot a porn addict. I've had it happen to myself. 1. They pick on your appearance, they try to change your appearance. "Can you not wear your hair like that tomorrow?" "Why don't you wear fake tan?" 2. They think r...
Some dating mistakes to avoid.
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24 February 2013: School Girl Errors There seems to be a flood of questions associated with infidelity etc, I have compiled a list of common mistakes I have noticed I have also made, not sure if some of them are obvius but here goes; - If a guy is acting cold...
Tips for dating and insecurity
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16 December 2012: Hi I have noticed alot of insecurity going on, I have complied a list to help people; Porn If you don't want this in your relationship, discuss it a few weeks into dating. Do it in a light hearted manner. If they are a user try not t...
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Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 1 May 2013: STDs should be disclosed even if they are cleared up
Not sure if I entirely agree as they have been cleared up and not going to cause harm to the other person.
I think alot of women forget to express their concern about the porn thing at th... (read in full...)
Am I the most beautiful girl in my BFs life? Not according to his Facebook messages ...
Q. Help I am having self esteem issues now. A couple of weeks back I got a hold of my boyfriends Facebook messages (we made an agreement that we would delete both of ours months ago). Anyway, when I read the messages I saw things that were sweet that ...
A. 23 February 2013: "You ARE beautiful to him, just not his "ideal". He loves you for who you are, and decided to overlook the fact you aren't what he normally prefers in the looks department. I would also like to add that it doesn't mean he thinks you're ugly or ... (read in full...)
Am I the most beautiful girl in my BFs life? Not according to his Facebook messages ...
Q. Help I am having self esteem issues now. A couple of weeks back I got a hold of my boyfriends Facebook messages (we made an agreement that we would delete both of ours months ago). Anyway, when I read the messages I saw things that were sweet that ...
A. 23 February 2013: The same thing has happened to me, one of my exes would say things to other people and not me, if it bothers you that much dump them and get someone who appreciates you more. My last ex appreciated other people more than me physically aswell. My ... (read in full...)
What's your opinion on his actions on Facebook? we are dating but he "likes" girls on FB.
Q. I noticed theres a girl that my boyfriend works with and he "likes" a lot of her photos on facebook. Should i ignore it or ask why does he always like her photos and tell him i dont like it? (even though it may start a fight) I dont "like" or comme...
A. 22 February 2013: Hmmm, from a woman's point of view this is annoying. I think it's an incompatability issue, some people will say you're insecure, others will say he is wrong. I personally think he is wrong, for a start he knows you can see it.... (read in full...)
Some thoughts on retroactive jealousy
Q. I was thinking about my wife's past (again) and experiencing retroactive jealousy. I'm trying to root this out of me. It is the wise thing to do. Anyhow, I want to know what others going through this think of what I'm about to write. Recen...
A. 22 February 2013: "If she had sex with a person with a vile personality, which I don't believe to be the case, it would be all that more painful."
No, she will appreciate a better personality more, some women don't find out until they have made the mistake of sleep... (read in full...)
Co-worker does not speak after sex
Q. Ok so, this guy started working with my company about six months ago. Very cute I'm very attracted to him and he is also younger then I am, I'm 38 and he is 26. We would see each other but not talk, Im shy I'm not sure if he is the same way. One ...
A. 16 February 2013: It's possible he lost respect for you for sleeping with him easily (I don't mean to offend.) Some men do lose interest after sleeping with a woman because the challenge has gone.... (read in full...)
Some thoughts on retroactive jealousy
Q. I was thinking about my wife's past (again) and experiencing retroactive jealousy. I'm trying to root this out of me. It is the wise thing to do. Anyhow, I want to know what others going through this think of what I'm about to write. Recen...
A. 16 February 2013: I think you should only be bothered about a person's past from a moral point of view.
Funluvver was spot on. A good sexual experience is completely irrelevant if the person who it was with had a vile personality.... (read in full...)
He tells me it is my fault that he abuses me. What causes people to become abusive? And is the receiver of the abuse to blame?
Q. Dear Cupid Why do people become abusive after being few years in a relationship. Is this abuser's fault? Or the fault of the person being abused? My bf of 3 years was good to me for 2 years but now has become so emotionally abusive. I cry m...
A. 16 February 2013: It ISN'T YOUR fault. That is manipulation, it is a common trait among abusers. I'd get out now.... (read in full...)
I had a fantasy about another girl and now I feel so guilty
Q. Bit embarrased about this, but i just need to tell this little thing somehow. I'm together with a girl wich i love with all my heart. We're together since a year now and things go well. Now, this is a long distance relationship so we only see each...
A. 13 February 2013: Wow, this post makes me sad. I wish my ex-boyfriend thought like you. He was looking at porn and didn't feel guilty. Still trying to figure out why he didn't feel the same way as you and me about fantasizing about other people. All I can say is at ... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting when I notice my Bf likes pics of other women on his Facebook?
Q. This really bothers me. My boyfriend is always on Facebook liking pics of other chicks. They're not like sexy pics or demeaning pics or anything. But it's a constant thing that a chick who he may or may not know puts up a cute pic of herself and ...
A. 9 February 2013: That is annoying, does he like your pictures aswell?... (read in full...)
We tried to move past his cheating but I'm recently starting to resent him for many things, how do I approach this situation?
Q. I don't even know where to start with this be here goes. So I have been in a 3 and half yeah relationship with my boyfriend. He cheated on me but we decided to move on together and move past the situation. We have gone on to have a little boy and...
A. 6 February 2013: "I don't think he takes care of himself and he had the audacity to tell me a few years after he cheated that the other girl looked after herself more than me. But he's the same I'm not a girly girl but I do look after my appearance."
I would of... (read in full...)
Does anyone else feel cursed?
Q. I wonder if anybody has the same experience I do? It is very hard to find any info on this subject, and Im hoping someone might knows the right resources for me, So I have this strong feeling, that I have been ''cursed'' or something like that. So...
A. 4 February 2013: I feel I am unlucky I was crying last night because of it. I am so unlucky in love it is beyond a joke. I keep thinking if karma is real and what have I done. I did one bad thing but I was punished for that already. Apparently you make your own ... (read in full...)
If the Past is the Past with regards to Sexual History, why do some keep in touch
Q. Hello, this site has been great for me and my relationship over the past months. Been reading many other post over many months and one thing seems to stick out or contradict each other. So just wanted to hear some thoughts on this. My ques...
A. 4 February 2013: I am friends with all but 1 of the people I have done anything sexual with on Facebook. I have some that I still speak to but rarely. I cannot see any of them in that light anymore, the romantic feelings have gone, so I don't desire any sexual ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my boyfriend over this situation. Was I wrong?
Q. If you get confused about the situation, please ask me to clarify. I need as many opinions as I can get. My boyfriend's aunt never met me before, so she told him to invite me over to her house for the super bowl. When we went to her house, they ...
A. 4 February 2013: I personally think that what he did wasn't that bad. It isn't worth splitting up with someone over. I wish my ex had of done that to me instead of what he did. "But the fact that he feels like he's done nothing wrong is what makes me not wan... (read in full...)
Her past relationships haunt my thoughts but so does my mistrust for her. Is there hope for our relationship?
Q. Hello, I am currently in a major dilemma. My fiancé and I are close in age. Until I met her and never had a serious relationship. I saved myself for the person I honestly thought I would marry. She told me her past a month into the relationshi...
A. 4 February 2013: I think talking to friends about your sex life is something some teenagers and young adults do. Since I met my ex I didn't want to talk about our sex life. It's something that people grow out of.... (read in full...)
Please, somebody help me. I found out about my boyfriend's affairs and I don't know what to do.
Q. Hey... well, I couldn't be in worse shape right now. My "boyfriend" and I are in a very dark place. At first, I would defend him whenever people would talk bad of him. And I would just like to say now that my friends have always said that my ...
A. 4 February 2013: Do not trust a man who makes you go on birth control. One of my exs kept trying to sleep with me without using protection, he ended up cheating. He was as selfish as they come.... (read in full...)
Would you end a relationship because your partner is untidy?
Q. Would you end a relationship because your partner is untidy and unorganised ?. My boyfriend is lovely. He treats me very well, but one thing i don't like is that his house is a mess a lot of the time and unorganised. He doesnt have a bed. He has ...
A. 2 February 2013: This wouldn't bother me I am more interested in someone's emotional flaws. ... (read in full...)
Tips for dating and insecurity
Q. Hi I have noticed alot of insecurity going on, I have complied a list to help people; Porn If you don't want this in your relationship, discuss it a few weeks into dating. Do it in a light hearted manner. If they are a user try not t...
A. 30 January 2013: I need to add to my article,
When a boyfriend tells you he masturbates, assume he is looking at porn, I think alot of women think their boyfriend is thinking of them during.
Assume he has a digital collection automatically at the beginning of... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 29 January 2013: Well he did seem very open about showing me his collection lol. Yeah people will keep it quiet if they have cheated, it's a sh*tty scummy world out there. ... (read in full...)
Why did my B/f have three naked pictures of the same girl on his phone?
Q. I have been with my partner nearly two years now, he has never been the type to admire any other girls ever.. he got a new phone and when he had it I said would you like some pictures of me to get off to when I'm not around he refused and said he ...
A. 29 January 2013: 1. If you do give pictures don't include your face on them.
2. As someone said check the date, if it was before he was with you it is not a problem.
3. The main thing is why would a man leave a phone knowing he has porn (professional or... (read in full...)
Why did my B/f have three naked pictures of the same girl on his phone?
Q. I have been with my partner nearly two years now, he has never been the type to admire any other girls ever.. he got a new phone and when he had it I said would you like some pictures of me to get off to when I'm not around he refused and said he ...
A. 29 January 2013: I think it's strange too, if it is a real person it is worrying, if it is profesional porn at least he has not contacted them. It would annoy me if he turned down pictures of me. It has got on my nerves in the past when they prefer a picture of some ... (read in full...)
Tips for dating and insecurity
Q. Hi I have noticed alot of insecurity going on, I have complied a list to help people; Porn If you don't want this in your relationship, discuss it a few weeks into dating. Do it in a light hearted manner. If they are a user try not t...
A. 28 January 2013: To be honest I don't think I have encountered the exs problem but I have encountered the close friends annoyance. There was one guy who would not stop talking to this girl on the internet, the same guy also hung out with a girl he had previously ... (read in full...)
Is looking at porn the morning after you've slept with your girlfriend, a bit odd and uncalled for?
Q. Would anyone else agree with this? Looking at porn the morning after you've slept with your girlfriend is a bit odd and uncalled for? Why would they want to look at someone else that soon?...
A. 28 January 2013: He was 36 at the time. ... (read in full...)
Tips for dating and insecurity
Q. Hi I have noticed alot of insecurity going on, I have complied a list to help people; Porn If you don't want this in your relationship, discuss it a few weeks into dating. Do it in a light hearted manner. If they are a user try not t...
A. 27 January 2013: I still talk to some of my exs, I am fully over them. I would never see them in real life or have a phone conversation with them.... (read in full...)
Is looking at porn the morning after you've slept with your girlfriend, a bit odd and uncalled for?
Q. Would anyone else agree with this? Looking at porn the morning after you've slept with your girlfriend is a bit odd and uncalled for? Why would they want to look at someone else that soon?...
A. 27 January 2013: I wasn't there the next morning, the thing is he had to finish with his wrist in the early days.... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 23 January 2013: I would like to say this, my ex was 36 years old and it should of been obvious to him at his age to know that porn is upsetting to some women in a relationship.
I also think if someone was truly meant for you, you wouldn't have to tell them how... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 4 January 2013: I guess you're lucky Ceberus. It still hurts me that my ex boyfriend used porn whilst dating me, I thought he was different but he wasn't, but for those who don't like it there are definately people suited to you.... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 29 December 2012: Ceberus don't be offended by this but you seem a little too interested in porn considering you're in a happy relationship. I don't even understand why you are so struck on defending porn use in a relationship. ... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 16 December 2012: One of the things that got to me was, my ex didn't make a fuss out of me sexually enough, that's possibly the main reason I dumped him. I even said to him one night if someone broke into my emails they would not know he was my boyfriend. Who knows, ... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 15 December 2012: Cerberus some of us aren't that secure unfortunately :(
I did have a boyfriend who although he cheated (he was depressed and she was more supportive) adored me physically infact he was almost obsessed. He told me he didn't watch porn when wit... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 15 December 2012: I believe women get upset mainly because they thought were the only one their boyfriend was looking at, if I had known about the fact he owned porn from the beginning and used it all along life would of been very different now. ... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 15 December 2012: I would hate to realise I was spending my life with someone who had been using porn all along but saying they weren't and gad stopped. That is horrible.... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 14 December 2012: This whole porn thing is difficult, it is not proper cheating as we know... I think some men just assume a woman isn't going to bothered because they wouldn't be bothered if their girlfriend did the same. It's a thing people do assume everybody ... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 14 December 2012: It would of been nice though if my ex-boyfriend hadn't of done it, but there's nothing we can do now. It was difficult for me to believe he didn't know it was going to upset me, that was the part that angered me. He claims he thought I knew about it ... (read in full...)
What goes through a man's mind when he watches porn?
Q. Can some actually explain to us women what happens when watching porn? Does it make the man feel like he is having sex with the woman on the screen? Apparently I am told they are not watching it to pretend they are the man in the video. I am ...
A. 14 December 2012: Most women I think will automatically assume their boyfriend is only looking at them because they make the mistake that their boyfriend will also think it's bad to look at others. ... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 14 December 2012: Part of the problem lies with the woman not letting it be known near the beginning. I didn't express my hatred loudly and clear at the beginning and it ended up that I could not forgive me, truth is if I had informed him how much I detested it he ... (read in full...)
Porn rears it's ugly head, again!
Q. Hi everyone i have been with my bf for 6 yrs now. About 6 months back i found porn on his laptop.he apologized, we broke up and patched up again. He promised he would not watch again. I posted here regarding that and i got many answers which helped ...
A. 5 December 2012: Anyway the porn issue is no longer an issue as that person has gone now. The next person will be different. ... (read in full...)
Porn rears it's ugly head, again!
Q. Hi everyone i have been with my bf for 6 yrs now. About 6 months back i found porn on his laptop.he apologized, we broke up and patched up again. He promised he would not watch again. I posted here regarding that and i got many answers which helped ...
A. 5 December 2012: ...because every night my husband comes to bed and kisses me and cuddles me and loves me.
I've read that before it still doesn't sink in and I'm guessing the OP will possibly be the same I noticed she had the same mindset as me. ... (read in full...)
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