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writes:hi everyone im hoping you can help me here,im currently in a relationship with a man whom im in love with yet he treats me bad most of the time,im going away soon an whilst im away im going to see a guy whom as loved an wanted me for the best part of 20yrs,i do love this guy always have,even though i have never kissed him or had anything sexual with him,he is kind reliable got a good job and i know i wouldnt want for anything if i was with him,whom do i choose the goodlife or the badlife? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Ask oldersister  + ♥, writes (26 July 2008):
 Only in the movies are we in a scenario of being stuck with a partner that doesn't appreciate us only to be rescued by the perfect guy that's loved us all along. It's far more likely, because this is real life, that you are just trading one unhealthy situation for another. Healthy people don't settle for bad relationships and will get out of them on their own, not through another person promising unconditional love. My suggestion would be to end your current relationship because you realize you deserve better, not because Romeo showed up. Get out on your own and make yourself a better person that doesn't "settle" and jump from one relationship to another in an attempt to fix yourself or them. I think you will find the good life this way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2008): First Have you told the Guy you are with how he makes you feel when he treats you that way and that if it dont change then you want out. If not you really havnt tryed to fix the relationship you are in yet. Other than that the guy that you have known for 20 years. What are your feeling for him and does he know how you feel and if so does he feel the same. Also if you are in love with him why are you with this other guy anyway, he and you need to be honest with yourselves. If you love this guy try to work it out. If not then pack your bags and leave cause if you dont you will resent him for the bad relationship and thats not healthy for anybody who is concerned.
Take care
Hope this helps.
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reader, AllyCat  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 mmmm...i understand the lure of the bad boy, so much fun and excitement, yet so much pain.
when i was a teenager, badboys were fun, they treated me really badly, but there were thrilling times, but now, love, respect, stability and safety are all i want, and i think all women are entitled to it. don't punish yourself anymore, go for the good life, you deserve it. go on be happy.
good luck and take care
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reader, Peterk5699 + ♥, writes (2 July 2008):
 The good life all the way.
Think about it. Do you want to be miserable with a guy who treats you like crap or happy with a guy who would never do anything seriously bad?
I know I'd go with the 2nd were I female.
Just go with your guts instinct.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): It doesn't take too much thinking to answer this question. In fact, you might even know what will be the answer. So the question here is, why are you asking here?
But for the old sake I'll just tell you the same old cheesie phrase: "Look into your heart and listen to it."
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