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writes:Ladies and men...have you ever fought for the one you loved even if they were in another relationship? If so, how did it turn out? I ask because I am currently in that situation. Some may think I am crazy, but would you really let the one you loved go? He is very receptive of me and is willing to see where we go. We were together before but it ended and he began another relationship. Any tips to help me along the way? Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (10 November 2010):
 There would be no passion in the world if we didn't have to fight for what we love.
Just be there for him, don't overwhelm him, especially since he is in a relationship and don't cross boundaries.
If you love him and absolutely need him that much and are willing to fight for him, then fight. I fought and I won. :) Best fight that I ever fought.
The greatest mistakes we make are the risks we don't take. Never say goodbye when you still want to try. Never give up when you feel you can still take it. Never say you don't love that person anymore when you can't let go.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (5 November 2010):
PatientlyWaiting1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIn response to Anonymous. When I read your post I could not help but become confused, then smile and various other emotions. Wow, is all I can say. Your input was very well recieved. Thank you..I am going to always keep that quote and remind myself of it when needed. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010): ~If You truly are in Love with Him, You will crawl naked-knees across a road paved of shattered, spikey glass which streches east of the Equator to its west smiling all the way knowing that You will sustain and elevate His happiness when You arrive hand over to Him the very Rose longs to give His Special Someone but cannot afford~
You are in love with him?.....
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (3 November 2010):
PatientlyWaiting1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys all your answers were great. I think I am going to fight for him. Btw, I am not at his beck and call lol. But I thought about it and look at it like this: he is not married... Why would I walk away and allow him to get closer with her and possibly marry her? Only, later to kick myself for not trying? But, great advice!
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reader, Serpico +, writes (3 November 2010):
Hate to put it this way, but to me, relationships are a dime a dozen. Ive had many in my life and I dont look back on a single one with regret that I wasnt there anymore. IMO, running a business and/or making money is tough. Relationships are easy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010): If he is telling you 'he is willing so see where we go'
then he could return your feelings.
However in this case I wouldn't push it. Be there for him when he needs it, but try not to let it dominate you. The closer you get with him he could reconsider how he feels and it could result in a relationship. I wouldn't purposely try for him to end his current relationship though.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 You can't seriously think that a guy who is in a relationship would love you as much as you love him if he's still in it. If he respected you or loved you more than his girlfriend then he would leave her for you. Period. (though admittedly- kids can make that more complex)
Funnily enough- by waiting around endlessly- jumping at the chance to get back with him whenever he feels like, you're making him respect you less.... again, making him less and less likely to run away with you.
WHY, WHY, do some women convince themselves that he'll "come around" if you answer to his every beck and call... ?! The odds really aren't stacked in your favor.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (3 November 2010):
PatientlyWaiting1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you FI_THE_TREE! I appreciate your advice. Things are hard and it is nice to know I am not the only one. I do try to be there for him as much as possible. I am just scared he is going to get comfortable with the arrangement. I know at a certain time if a decision has not been made I am going to have to walk away. But, I will not make him chose, I think that is a bad choice so you keep that in mind with your man too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010): I personaly would fight if i felt he was feeling a little confused and i truly knew he wanted me,but if i felt he did not want me then no i would walk away
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (3 November 2010):
PatientlyWaiting1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand where you are coming from EYESWIDEOPEN I wonder that myself. Thanks for your response.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 PatientlyWaiting1, I am also in this situation. I didn't give up hope on my man, and we still talk, he actually sits and tells me that he just can't be bothered with his gf at the moment coz they keep arguing about stupid things all the time. We do meet up sometimes and we miss each other, but we're still not giving up on each other. We spent such a long time together and even though i hate the girl he's with, and could potentially say whatever i wanted to about her, i still have the respect for him to remain impartial and just try and give him some sound advice if i can. Just be there for him if he needs to talk to you about anything. Sometimes men and women just don't realise what they had until it's gone.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 November 2010):
 Sounds like you are playing right into his hands. A guy can't have TOO many women at his beck and call now can he?
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