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writes:Why would my ex come back after break, then say he wants to be single, as seeing me confuses him?He came back to me saying we wants to be with me, then two weeks later says seeing me confuses him and that he wants to be single at the minute.. i know he really loves me. So what can be so difficult, mid life crisis on turning 30?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): Tell him to come back and see you when he has made up his mind what he really wants.
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (2 May 2009):
He seems VERY confused and until hes sure in himself it leaves you with a number of questions that only he can answer. He has rasons and maybe the fact that you have such a history is affecting your future? Some people can g through too much together and it kills any hope for a future but they only realise this after giving it that last shot, its unfair and painful but its human nature im afraid. Deep down he probably does love you but right now hes said he cant be with you so respect that, people can change for any reason and the crave 'space' its hard but you have to give him that and at the same time dont live your life in false hope. Tell him that you respect whats hes said, youll always be there for him but you undertstand he needs to figure out these next steps on his own, the balls now in his court so its all up to him. Dont wait though, that is unfair and he wouldnt want that. Wait for an honest genuine response, he owes you that, and then decide whats next. Let him be single and see the lifestyle that it provides him with, i doubt very much it forfills his needs and being single isnt what its cracked up to be! People dress it up in many ways but once the funs gone and everyones happily settled and matured being single is a lonely road, like a ride you suddenly want to get off and go home. I think he will come back to you, but let him do this in his time and whenever it may be, take an over view, see where you are at this point and like hes doing now put yourself first and never forget this current situation. best of luck
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