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writes:I need some advice, as I don't know where I am going wrong. I am 24 (Female) and I can't ever seem to get a boyfriend, I work with a mix of males and females, mostly males, and a lot of them comment on my looks, but no one ever asks me out.Anyway, there is a guy who I have liked for a while and he said he liked me, we exchanged numbers and we arranged to meet up, he didn't show, no explination, I didn't want to ask big mistake) we got over it and then we have been flirting for a while and one day we kissed and I get the impression he likes me a lot and in his messgaes he says he likes me, anyway I asked him if he wanted to meet up for a chat because we haven't seen each other for a while and he hasn't replied. So I get it he's not interested but I don't understand why guys won't be seen out with me, it's always ok if no-one else is around.A few years ago I did start seeing someone but he only wanted to see me at his place and we would never go out and he never introduced me to his mates, this went on for about four months before I finally thought, if I am that bad why do you want to be with me and it really knocked my confident. I also have to say that I am a virgin so he wasn't gettng any, but that was mainly his choice.I just want to find a guy who wants me, I might not looking like a model but I am not overweight, smelly or ugly, I am just normal but after this it has knocked my confidence again and I don't want to see him because I don't know how to act around him,.Help.
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reader, bman-95  +, writes (26 April 2009):
face it girls are just scary to meneven mature menespecially if there gorgeous like u seem to be, i think, lolseriously tho so take ur chance and if u see a guy u like and u think hes attracted to u then give him ur number.
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (25 April 2009):
Of corse a bad relationship past will affect your confidence, only you can rebuild that and sometimes that needs to be done independantly so embrace your single life for now and focus on sorting you and your head out.
It may just be a coincidence that guys apparently dont want to be seen with you, i dont tink thats the case i just think youve had a bad bunch that have been unsure on how to treat you properly.
You are normal, everyone finds themself in this situation screaming what the hell is wrong with me!? but nobody has the answer because its obvious, nothings wrong with you its all about timing it right and finding the right one for you. Im not saying a mr perfect just the right one for you, we all crave that!
Be yourself, remain honest, stay true to what you believe in and the more genuine you are with bloked the more likely they are to fall for the real you. The right one wont come knocking at your door, you too have to put the effort in, go out more and start building up your confidence by using eye signals or the odd smile. Your so focused on finding him that you run the risk of him walking by. Maybe you havent found the right one yet? these things take time you just need to be willing to wait and it will all be worth it.
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