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female
age
22-25,
*eeks
writes:There's this man that I really like who I've been with for a week but I don't know if he is true. He approached me online and said all these sweet nothings to me. He's 29 and is already trying to be in a serious relationship. I want to know how do I know when he is truly into me? I don't want to be some rebound chick. Please I need advice! Reply to this Question |
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reader, Neboraic  +, writes (16 May 2009):
Look for signs of affection and signs that hes thinking of you. Asking him will just get the standard answers which could be lies. You must be a psychological detective about this. How much of a connection do you have, how much of the relationship does he lead (calling, arranging dates...).
It is too early to tell anything for sure, give it time, watch to see if the relationship drops off a cliff (little communication, at least on his part) or whether its smooth sailing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): You say you don't want to be the rebound chick so was he recently in a serious relationship? Was the relationship lengthy? Was he in love with the girl?
These are very strong signs of being into you
he wants to spend a lot of time with you and he puts his other priorities on hold
he doesn't shy away from meeting your friends or family
he actually wants you to meet his family (that's pretty huge)
he introduces you to his pals this (is also important)
people know who you are he's not keeping your relationship a secret
he talks about your future and seems enthusiastic
you have real conversations he both listens and talks and the conversations don't all center around sex
he treats you with respect like a woman
when he looks at you his eyes get soft
he's there to give you a helping hand, he's concerned when you get sick and is always trying to make you laugh or get you to feel better
he doesn't really pay much attention to other girls
he makes the effort, he calls you, texts you, emails you he initiates aka your not doing all the work
he gets jealous of you talking to other guys
your intuition says that he digs you
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