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writes:Help!! I need to break up with my boyfriend but I don’t know how; I’m 17 my boyfriend is 18 with a 10months old baby, we’ve been going out for 6months now and at the time when I went out with him I didn’t think about the emotional problems I’ll have with going out with someone with a baby.First of all is baby mama is rude i don't like her, when she and my boyfriend have arguments she always mention my name and brings me into it.secondly I’m sick and tired the problem my boyfriends going through because of her and I hate it when he always comes back and tell me what happened between them.And thirdly he’s with her more than he is with me and i do get jealousy.So i don’t think this relationship is right for me because everyday i think about it and i feel so unhappy, but the thing is i really do love him and that’s what breaks my heart, when i say I’m going break up with him i just cant bring myself to do it because i love him and i just tell myself that over a period of time I’ll get use to the situation and how i feel will go away but I’ve been feeling like this for months now HELP!! what should I do?
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reader, Neboraic +, writes (24 August 2009):
Tell him everything. But bear in mind, since you still love him, this isnt the end. At some point in the future, whether its a good idea or a stupid mistake, you will end up with him again. There is still hope in the future, other people have kids and relationships. Tell him everything. Tell him you want him but not the situation and that you cant live like this. Tell him he needs to be mature and stop arguing with the mother for the kid's sake. That will make a relationship more likely for him in the future (with you or someone else).
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reader, smartnsexy  +, writes (24 August 2009):
Be honest. Don't say anything hurtful or accusing. Stick to the facts. Tell him you care deeply, but at this point in your life, it's just not working, and it's time to move on.Do it in a public place (avoid a scene), and face to face (respectful), no alcohol and pay cash so you can get up and go... don't let it drag out... just be strong. That's what you would expect. Be classy and decent.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (24 August 2009):
 Be honest with him. Tell him that the relationship is more then you feel you can handle. Rather you do it now then later on.
A lot of people don't realize that when you take on a partner with "that" ( as in kids) kind of baggage it is not always smooth sailing. It i a lot of work. It is ok to realize that it is something you can or can not handle. Personally I WISH I had know how much drama and work it involves to deal with a partner with children ( and ex's).
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): been in that situation! we just got to the point where he ended up deciding to stop seeing his kid because the emotional toll it was taking on that poor child was worse in his mind than not seeing her(her mother used her against him to get her way). When they got into fights I made sure I was always there for him to vent, it was hard for awhile, but I learned to accept it. He still vents to me about her now even though they don't speak. I guess certain people handle these types of things differently, but I would give him more than 6 months. I felt the same as you at that far into our relationship, but I told myself it would get better, and it did (before he decided to stop seeing his child). The woman learned that she could say what she wanted about me, but i wasn't going anywhere and she soon got board with it. I guess it's your choice, but please follow your heart, make sure you won't regret your decision in the future.
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reader, josephy  +, writes (24 August 2009):
 why you guys like to beat around the bush you want to break up with him just say it you owe him and yourself the truth be honest and end it tell him it doesn't or can't work between you.
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