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... Send *ailglitter18 a private message | | | *ailglitter18's profile:I am a 19-year-old KID. Yes, I maintain that I'm still a kid, even though in my country, legally, I'm an adult. But I know that I still don't have all the answers.
I did, however, grow up with a mother who spoke freely about sex, and encouraged me to experiment (looking back, I wouldn't have been so encouraging if I had been her!!). I've been through my share of ups and downs- I've made mistakes, and broken hearts... I'd like to use this information to help others NOT do the things I did.
I've also done research on SEX!! Yes, sex. Because we all love it. I have studied a book called "What Your Mother Never Told You About S-E-X", and it's great- geared towards women of all kinds, who want to have FANTASTIC intercourse!! I used to have a hell of a time climaxing until my boyfriend and I read through parts of this book together. We both found things that we thought would be great for our intimacy, and we tried it out! Things like mints during fellatio, and things guys should do for us ladies - great stuff! :D
I am a Christian, by the way, I do believe in God and Jesus and the Rules in the Bible. But I also believe that there are different interpretations to it, and that God made us so we can LIVE life and have fun. :) |
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Bar verses Christianity
Q. Me I'm a Christian, my brother is not saved, I do respect him since he is like our earthly father. We usually spent time together and whenever he goes out to town to drink he makes sure I accompany him. At the bar he takes the beer as I take the ...
A. 30 October 2007: I'd say no. I don't think it's wrong for you to drink as a Christian either. Even Jesus drank wine!! One of His miracles was turning water into wine!
I am a Christian and I go to bars, I dance, and I drink. I believe that I am still a moral pe... (read in full...)
How can I remedy my erectile problem?
Q. I am Visually impaired, partially deaf and a wheelchair user. I struggle to get girlfriends because of erectile dysfunction, even though I often get aroused my erection isn't firm enough. What can I do to remedy my problems?...
A. 30 October 2007: One option is a cock ring, if you'll excuse the term. You can get vibrating ones, too, which are good for Him AND Her.
it's worth a look. It's the best I can advise at the moment.... (read in full...)
I've got a crazy mother! Anyone else have this problem?
Q. My mom hates me. I am friends with one of her friends and she says she feels that she loves me, but she hates me also. A couple of days ago she had a huge fit and started crying because she was upset that I put the frying pan in the washing machine ...
A. 29 October 2007: Mothers have hormones, too. It could very well be that she's going through "The Change" (as some call it). Menopause is a painful change, not just physically (hot flashes, insomnia, panic attacks), but psychologically (a woman coming to terms with ... (read in full...)
Is there a psychological impotency?
Q. is there a psychological impotency?...
A. 29 October 2007: Everyone can be psychologically affected. It can be anything from fear of commitment, fear of disappointing one's partner, or something serious like child abuse. I'm sure there are more issues. But if you suspect that you or someone you love... (read in full...)
What is the difference between a girlfriend and a fiancée?
Q. today my partner introduced me as his girlfriend,yet we are engaged and have a 4 year history behind us,what would you say was the diffrence between a girlfriend and a fiance?...
A. 27 August 2007: I'd say there's not much difference. You could tell him that you're proud to be engaged to him- you want the world to know - how about him calling you his fiancee? Frankly, he's still introducing you as "his"- so you know that he wants people to ... (read in full...)
I have been dumped 3 times this year. Am i horrible and ugly???
Q. This summer i have been dumped three times. Am i just a horrible, ugly, stupid waste of space? I hate everything. Can someone help? ...
A. 26 August 2007: I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 16, so I'd say that you're probably gorgeous and amazing. But that means you should guard yourself doubly- you are worth fighting for, and you're allowed to be picky about who you date. If that means a little ... (read in full...)
I'm using hard objects to masturbate, is this damaging??
Q. I use hard things to masturbate like mobile...i use hard ones to reach orgasm that i can' t reach with fingering. May this damage my virginity? may these hard things have a bad effect on my vagina? can they lead to an infection ?...
A. 26 August 2007: Well, are you talking about 'technical' or 'traditional' virginity? Because TECHNICALLY, you're still a virgin if the hymen is still intact. The hymen is that little skin inside your vagina - it varies in most girls, but you can usually feel it if ... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to have a f*** buddy while my girlfriend is out of state?
Q. Is casual sex OK when you love someone else who is not around? My girlfriend took a job that forces her to travel out of state for weeks at a time 90 percent of the time. I love her but dont want to sleep alone. Is it wrong to find a casual sexual ...
A. 3 August 2007: Hey, if it's OK with her, and she knows about it, and she knows she can have one of her own... and your "fuckbuddy" knows that she's just that... or he... then there shouldn't be a problem. It's your business. But that's really the issue: ... (read in full...)
Does body fat effect penis size?
Q. Am I to fat? I am 165 pounds and is 5'5 foot tall I think. Well am I too fat cuz my girlfriend is 2 inches shorter than me and is 150 pounds sooo are we an obese couple? And does body fat effect penis size?...
A. 3 August 2007: I don't know about penis size, but according to your BMI (Body Mass Index) you two are both into the 27 number. You are overweight, unless you have significanly more muscle than the average person (athletes have this problem).
Not to worry, i... (read in full...)
What do I do next?
Q. there is a girl in school.we made frequent eye contact but i never talk to her.recently she and her friends noticed that i like her.when we make eye contact i donot smile at nor gaze for longer time.when we meet in a cafe,road ,library i usually ...
A. 3 August 2007: Try smiling back, go up to her and say hi sometime, ask how she's doing. Make a silly comment about the weather, or ask her if she'd care to meet up sometime for a cup of coffee. Then it's up to her. If she's interested, then she'll say yes. But ... (read in full...)
36, still a virgin and have no desire for sex! Am I strange?
Q. I am 36 years old and still a virgin! I have never had any desire to have sex with anybody! I have never seen a real life woman naked (and have no desire to do so, and I am definitely not Gay!!!) Please can you tell me why people have a deisre for ...
A. 2 August 2007: Sex is based on a biological drive to reproduce. Most people are 'driven' towards it (hence it being called a sex DRIVE). There are some people who feel less inclined towards sex than others- just like there are sex addicts who can't get enough of ... (read in full...)
should i go off to school or spend the rest of my life with him?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little over a month. he asked me out a week or so before he went to basic. he is amazing and i love him to death. i know it is crazy but i do. anyways the day he was on his way to basic he asked me to ...
A. 1 August 2007: If you want to go to college, but want to be with your guy:
You can take online courses from reputable schools. Almost every US college has that option, and places like University of Phoenix have special rates and stuff for people involved in the ... (read in full...)
How can i convince my girlfriend to sneak out so we can be together at night?
Q. how can i convice my girlfriend to sneak out so we can be together at night? we cant hang out to often on account of her parents not liking me to much for my past. i constantly sneak out to see her for a few hours but its always her inside and me ...
A. 1 August 2007: I agree with rhythmandblues- that's not the way to have a lasting relationship - that's the way to cause trouble. Try to prove to the parents that you've changed. Ask them if there's anything you can do to prove your loyalty or your willingness... (read in full...)
My military guy is going on tour! I desperately want to be strong for him but i dont know how
Q. My boyfriend and i have been living together for almost a year, i've never been so in love. I'm in a rough spot right now because he is in the military and these past 6 months he's been on course, away for most of the time. He's supposed to be done ...
A. 1 August 2007: Oh, I know how terrible you must feel! The best I can suggest is take deep breaths, and focus on your next step. Keep in contact with him in any way you can. My guy's in the military, too- we met out where he works. Now I've gone off to coll... (read in full...)
I can't find any guys, who are interested in me and I like them! Help!
Q. Hi. I am really stuck. I can't find any guys. Every guy that likes me im not interested in. I don't know many guys as i go to an all girls school which is awful. I am quite shy but i've been told i shouldnt be as i get a lot of male attention but i ...
A. 1 August 2007: Well, I had the same problem when I was your age. Here's the deal. As you get older, there will be more guys "your type" available. Just do yourself a favor, and don't make the same mistake I did- don't go for the first guy that shows you a bit ... (read in full...)
We've been dating 7 years, but I still have trouble completely trusting him
Q. Hi. Ive been with my guy for nearly 7 years now, and i read on here a few days back (a response to someone elses problem) that if were still dating, dump him, as he doesnt want comitment. Me and my guy are still dating, we would get married but i th...
A. 31 July 2007: Stop baiting him. He promised loyalty not blindness. What's wrong with flirting? In the end, you got him. 7 years isn't worth throwing away. It sounds like your jealousy is causing a lot of the trouble. I suggest counseling. ... (read in full...)
At 12 weeks pregnant, is it okay for my boyfriend to ejaculate inside me?
Q. we are expecting our first baby, i am 12 weeks pregnant is it safe for my boyfriend to ejaculate inside me, can it harm our baby....
A. 30 July 2007: Sex is fine all the way up until YOU Don't feel comfortable with it. I hear that it's not advisable in the last trimester, but it won't harm the baby.... (read in full...)
My fiance isn't a virgin but wants to wait til we're married to have sex; I can't wait that long!
Q. my fiance, who i have been with for a year, wants to wait until we are married to make love to me. the problem is that she is not a virgin and i feel like she is being unfair and that she doesnt love me as much as her ex who she did make love to. w...
A. 28 July 2007: If you truly are a good and decent guy, don't listen to the assholes here, and pay attention to the girls: Sex is a big thing for us, and a really big risk!! If she's had a scare in the past, or, indeed, played "dirty girl", as one guy put it, ... (read in full...)
Is there any way that I could still get pregnant?
Q. Hello all, I went on the pill three days after my period started and was told that this would make it work straight away. I was also told to use condoms for at least 7 days, just in case. I waited 8 days after going on the pill and me and my bo...
A. 27 July 2007: The first three months that I was on the pill, I would always get obsessive about being sure I was pregnant. I'd get nausea and stuff, too! Luckily I didnt tell my boyfriend, I just waited for my period. It did come! So you know what? You just ... (read in full...)
Are there any products that are edible for a woman to enhance oral sex with a guy ?
Q. does anyone know of an oil or lotion thats edible to use to enhance giving a guy oral sex, want to supprise him and do something diferent but all that type of thing seem made for women, cant seem to find anything for a man...
A. 27 July 2007: but not too much!!! AND not too much of the liquid mint kind (the one thats liquid inside). I did that once, and he started to laugh because it just got COLDER AND COLDER AND COLDER!! He thought it was going to freeze off! It was funny. :P... (read in full...)
Any tips on how I can be better at sex on top!!?
Q. The guy am with and I enjoy sex and we try a lot of different things and it is really good, but he wants me to be on top. I have no problem with this and I have tried, but I am doing something wrong. I feel like I don't have good rhythm, and he k...
A. 27 July 2007: Well, as for the slipping out, I know how you feel!! It's unfortunate. Try spreading your legs out a bit farther, so that on the "up" beat, you don't go up so high. Less of a chance of him slipping out.
As for the rest of it, try leaning ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to orgasm anymore.
Q. Hey For the last couple of months no matter what my boyfriend does and how long he does it for I just can't seem to orgasm!! I really enjoy it when he gives me oral and for ages he used to be able to satisfy me in every way but at the moment I jus...
A. 26 July 2007: make sure he knows that you love him touching you, and that it feels great! I couldn't orgasm for the first several months my boyfriend and I had sex- and it took me a while to relax. But I still enjoy the contact. He knows it, so he doesn't feel ... (read in full...)
My ex is being mistreated and I dont know how to help
Q. My ex boyfriend from 3 years ago has been dating a bi sexual girl for a year and a half. Hes 27, shes 36. He is completely smitten with her and admits he always wants to be like her. Anyway numerous times she has cheated on him with other guys, ...
A. 26 July 2007: Well, it depends on what you're willing to do. Frankly, as I am a bullying, strong-willed little witch, I'd probably go as close to kidnapping as legally possible, if I really thought she was no good, and if I thought he was putting his life in ... (read in full...)
Is it just because i'm working to hard?
Q. I'm 23, female, and in a commited relationship for about 4 yrs now. My boyfriend and I have lived together for about the last 2yrs. I really love him alot, and believe that he will someday be my husband (which I kind of wish was sooner then later) ...
A. 26 July 2007: If I had that much on my plate, I wouldn't be thinking about sex either- I'd be focusing on a good night's sleep!! You two need to take a long weekend sometime and just focus on RandR. What you need is a vacation. (easier said than done, I know!)... (read in full...)
He says he can't imagine life without me but that he also thinks we should be apart; he's confused and confusing me!
Q. I don't know what to do anymore, I need some advice on how to deal with my boyfriend. Unfortunately I think I know what I should be doing, but if anyone can give me any other advice, I'd love to hear it. Here's the deal ... My bf and I have bee...
A. 26 July 2007: Well, if you really want to keep him, if you really love him, I'd sit him down and talk to him again. Maybe something to the effect of: "I understand that you're afraid- so am I. There are a lot of changes going on in your life. But I want you to ... (read in full...)
How can I discreetly find out my girlfriends' sizes so I can buy her underwear?
Q. If I wanted to buy some 'sexy' lingerie for my girlfriend, what would be the best approach to find out her size, when the time comes? ie. if I wanted to do it for a surprise. I have her dress size etc, but not the other size. ...
A. 26 July 2007: Well, check out her undies one day from the wash... then check out another pair just in case the first one runs small. ;P Otherwise, do you have her hip size? Because underwear/lingerie usually comes in sizes that can be compared to bust and hip ... (read in full...)
I guess I'm looking for a little reassurance does this guy like me... I'm confused?
Q. ok I've been seeing this guy alomst 5 months. its been a bit of a strange one. we have talked almost everyday,since we met, we've seen each other as much as we can (he lives some miles from me) and its him doing the travelling. he has said he needs ...
A. 26 July 2007: It sounds like he really does like you! Hell, whenever a guy says "I wish you were here", or initiates a phone call or a visit, there's a reason for it! Taking it slow, while I usually find it to be an excuse (synonymous with "I'm just not th... (read in full...)
Do i do it when he's hard or soft?
Q. hi, I'm about to go out with this guy and he is more experienced than me and i wanna kno how to give a blow job. and when you do is he hard or soft when u start?...
A. 24 July 2007: Well, you can also "warm him up" with your hands... go down there and get to know him, so to speak. Have fun, explore, and see what kinds of movements get him to react more. Then, when you feel like he's getting hard, or is there, don't go ... (read in full...)
How do I improve my sexual tecnique when I didnt know I was bad in the first place?
Q. Hello, My girlfriend of 5 and half years has just recently broken up with me (about 2 weeks ago). She said that she no longer loves me, she found a new guy, she doesn't see a future with me, and etc. Anyways, I met her the other day and we w...
A. 16 July 2007: I would honestly suggest a book called "What Your Mother Never Told You About Sex". It's available from Amazon, and it's fairly cheap. It's geared towards making sex great for women, but frankly, when my boyfriend came over the other day, he ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and self conscious about my 32AA boobs. I envy other girls with bigger boobs. What can I do?
Q. I'm 15, and have very small boobs, only a 32AA. I get so depressed when I see my friends and they've got lovely, B, C and bigger cups. I envy them so much I get obsessed and stare at them because I dont know how it feels to have big boobs. It's ...
A. 16 July 2007: The ever-wise words of one of my best guy friend: "More than a mouthful is a waste" I was a 34A when I was 15. Now at 18 I'm a 36C (keep in mind, I am 6'2", so they dont SEEM that big). Yes, weight gain is part of it, but so is genetics. If ... (read in full...)
She says that she is satisfied, but I think I'm too quick to the finish
Q. hi aunties,as a man who likes to see his partner fully enjoy our lovemaking i am sometimes disappointed with my own performance(cum to quick) although she always assures me she is happy.do you think that masturbating causes problems regarding ...
A. 16 July 2007: From what I've heard, masturbation is supposed to make you last longer... But no worries- premature ejaculation is actually one of the most common male problems out there. there are "exercises" you can do to increase your endurance. Either yo... (read in full...)
I don't come when she gives me head. Am I a bad performer?
Q. hello, i'm 16 have been going out with my girlfriend for a few months, and recently we've been exploring things sexually, and she's performed oral on me now, but i don't orgasm when she does this! i feel really bad about this can anyone help please? ...
A. 16 July 2007: Well, from a girl's point of view, I'd say she can experiment with different techniques- giving head isn't just "up-down" - there are subtle nuances. She can try a menthol candy (just don't use too much- apparently that can feel a little funny!) or ... (read in full...)
Just coming off the pill, but could I be pregnant?
Q. Hi, would love if anyone has any advice for me! I stopped taking the contraceptive pill in december last year and since then i have had regular periods every month. my period this month was due over a week ago and the day before it was due i had ...
A. 16 July 2007: Well, if you ask me, missing a period after being so regular for so long... sounds a bit fishy. do yourself a favor and buy a pregnancy test now. if youre not pregnant, then at least you KNOW, and you dont have to worry.
Good luck!
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Can anyone tell us how to make me have an orgasm?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been intimate for 11 months now and i have not yet received the pleasure of having a orgasm. We have tried many different things and yet it has not happened. We were wondering if anyone could give us any suggestions on a...
A. 15 July 2007: I was exactly the same way! Some people would suggest warming lubricants, or vibrators, but I suggest going for a book called "What Your Mother Never Told You About Sex"- because there's a lot about it that people just don't know! And it could be ... (read in full...)
We're getting married soon but my boyfriend doesn't want my parents at the wedding, I WANT them there, what do I do???
Q. I have a question pertaining to my boyfriend (BF) and my family. First, my parents are from Thailand, but have lived in the U.S. the majority of their life (I was raised here). My BF (white), is not close to his family(abusive upbringing) and ...
A. 8 June 2007: you shouldn't have to put up with such behavior. Be strong. Point out to this boy that there's a real man out there who will value you and accept your family. Point out that your family will always be there for you.
If it's too scary, the thou... (read in full...)
My mom is trying to break me and my boyfriend up! He's a great guy, in the military, the first relationship I've ever been able to truly commit to. She was all supportive, until she found out how much I care for him.
Q. My mom is trying to break me and my boyfriend up! He's a great guy, in the military, the first relationship I've ever been able to truly commit to. She was all supportive, until she found out how much I care for him. He screwed up once (drank too ...
A. 20 May 2007: Thank you. I did have a long talk with her, and we got to the crux of the matter. She's afraid that he WILL hurt me sometime and betray me sometime.
So I asked her if her hurting me was a good substitute? She realized what is going on is wrong... (read in full...)
I told her I liked her now she's acting differently - does it mean she likes me too?
Q. Following up from my question (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/gf-dumped-me-and-now-i-cant-get.html) I want this girl and she asked me who i like so i said guess, so she guessed and guessed she wasn't getting it so i told her to look at the PC s...
A. 15 May 2007: It sounds like you got the signs there in front of you!! When we girls like a guy, we want to look at him, touch him, see his eyes. We want to be around him and be close to him.
Honestly, girls aren't that different from guys- we just need a l... (read in full...)
She has been hurt before and is not ready to date me...is this a good or a bad thing?
Q. i asked a girl out that i thought liked me. i still think she does. she said no because she has had bad relationships and want to stay single for a while and that is the only reason she is saying no,is this a good or bad thing??? ...
A. 9 May 2007: From a girl's point of view: if she said no, then no matter what the excuse, she's just not that into you.
In my experience, regardless of past hurts, future woes, or my hampster being sick- if there's a guy I'm hot for who asks me out, I say yes!... (read in full...)
Do guys assume because I wear rings, one them is from a bf?
Q. I would really like to know a guy's opinion on girls wearing rings... (although girls views welcome too!) I have this gold ring that has a diamond heart and piece of amethyst in it. I wear it on my right hand middle finger just about every day ...
A. 9 May 2007: I wear a gold ring on my left ring finger which has semiprecious stone chips in it in a rainbow. When I'm out and about and don't want attention, I turn it around so only the gold band shows. I also wear a silver ring on my right ring finger. ... (read in full...)
How do I best please my girlfriend so that she will forget how clumsy I was the first time?
Q. I had sex for the first time with my girlfriend (and ever) a few days ago. It was so bad even I had to admit that to myself, and it was my fault. It was really clumsy among other things. Should I just ask her what makes her aroused or should I just ...
A. 8 May 2007: Well, frankly, first times tend to be more than a little clumsy. It's new territory for both of you. It's not just about the result, it's also about the journey. You'd be surprised how many 'clumsy' stories couples have hidden under their hats ... (read in full...)
What are the ins and outs about sex! Can anyone explain?
Q. hey. dumb question i know but please could someone explain the ins and outs ot sex. what happend and how it hapens. im really scared. i know it is natural and i know everyone does it but i want to have sex with my boyfriend and i am scacred of what ...
A. 8 May 2007: Since no one here seems to want to help you out, I will with some of the basics. If you still want to know more, you can probably search online (just be sure to consider your keywords carefully, so you don't end up with a boatload of porn sites ... (read in full...)
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