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writes:I'm 15, and have very small boobs, only a 32AA. I get so depressed when I see my friends and they've got lovely, B, C and bigger cups. I envy them so much I get obsessed and stare at them because I dont know how it feels to have big boobs. It's really affecting my confidence with boys, and I dont want to take my top off in front of anyone at all ever. How am I ever going to get intimate with a boy at this rate? Oh and just to add to the dilemma, one boob is like a 32A and the other one is a 32AA. It just looks wierd. I hate bra/bikini shopping because nothing ever fits. I'm naturally slim and no matter how much I eat, I cant ever get fat. Some people call me anorexic and I cant stand it. I feel like I wish I was fat just to prove the point that I'm not anorexic! GAH!
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reader, souper123  +, writes (13 August 2008):
i know exactly how you feel! i try and sleep with my shirt off and on my back but its so uncomfortable. I hear if you sleep on your stomach it prevents them from growing. SO i try but i always wind up on my stomach. I run cross country and track and im super skinny! i hate it. and when i finally tell myself im actually content with my body today someone always has to ruin it and be like, "why are you so skinny?" "do you eat?" BLAH BLAH BLAH! and i eat SO much! i probably eat more tha half the guys at my school. and i try and buy padded bras and the work pretty well for me. i have a nice butt ive been old so thats one thing i actually am not embarassed about. I've also been told im pretty and cute, so just because youre flat, dont let it get you down. and since my metabolism is really fast, i lift weights in order to make my arms look bigger. and it works. =)
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reader, q1605 +, writes (7 August 2008):
 I'm a man and have really small breasts. I'm not sure what size they are because when I shop for clothes I buy what I like and fill in the void later. As long as the breasts I am wanting are attached to a woman I am good to go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): Now listen you lot.. from a wise woman of 51. I spent my whole life worrying about the size of my boobs 36A, my sisters both had big boobs. Now Im older and wiser, I can see it was all a complete waste of life worrying over it. Ive never met a man who dislikes small boobs and if they do, so what?? are they perfect? no. Now I see my big busted friends all sagging and thank god for my lovely pert boobs. It really doesnt matter what size you are, if only I knew that all those years ago. You are all too young to worry about these things, they are only for feeding babies anyway. Think of it like that. p.s. its only little boys who like big boobs, and the sort of men that you dont want anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): wow, this is so funny to read, becase i am the SAME way like i hate it, and i try to forget it, but then all i hear it ppl making fun of me, i wish that too!
so good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): Hiya, I know how you feel - but I'm a 32B and I'm 16, but my best friend has 34G boobs. It's hard when she gets so much attention and it makes me hate myself, and want big boobs like my friends'. But at the end of the day, if you get the attention of a boy, it's reassuring to know that it's not just cos you've got big boobs.And a lot of boys have said to me "More than a handfull is a waste"... and you'r eonly 15!Don't spend your time wishing you were different, this is you, and it always will be you. Learn to love what you've got, and as soon as you do, other people will aswell.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008): I know exactly how you feel. i am also 15 years old, and I am a 32A. I get super self-consious about it. My friend is much bigger than me, and when we hang out with guys it seems like they always choose her because she has like 32C's. I am also "naturally slim" i am 5'5 and 104 punds. I don't look anorexic but people call me it too. i am just skinny. i am a VERY good eater, but no matter what i still stay slim. It's good in a way , but not when you want to develop. i have read that some people do not stop growing until they are 20. it really depends on your parent's sides of the family too. Your breats can even take after your grandmother, even from your Dad's side of the family. If I were you I would ask your mom when she got boobs. My mom didn't get boobs until she was 16, so i still have something to look foward to lol. I hope this helps you, and anyone else reading !!
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reader, angel-babyface +, writes (31 July 2008):
i was like that when i was 15 but now im 17 still a 32a and size 6 standing at 5'8 no matter how i much ive tried i havent put on weight or gained larger boobs so i just learn to live with what ive got and make the most of it.
just because your friends have bigger boobs than you doesnt mean that yours are not going to grow anymore you are still developing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): It's fine, I know how you feel. I'm very tall and very very skinny, people say i'm a toothpick. It hurts my feelings but i go on with my life. I also have VERY small boobs, they're so small i don't think i would even consider them as boobs. So it's okay!! Hopefully we will both grow...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): I'm 15 at the moment and I am flipping out because I'm only a size 32B but I guess I'll be ok with that. Besides my boyfriend likes me the way I am so, yeah. No need to worry about it. At 15 you're still developing. =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): im 15 and a size 32AA
i hate buying bras as its rly embarrasing 2 be so small and also hardly anything actually fits so most of the time i jst dont bther wearing 1,
however i have a gr8 bf who loves me 4 who i am and also loves my small boobs, so you shd stop worying bout ur size and b happy with who u r cos laodsa guys like small boobs and neway its ur personality tht counts not the size of ur boobs
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): heyy im 16 and im a 32aa too, i dont own a lot of bras as no shops do sizes that small. It is so bad and really annoying. I have felt the same way as you do for years, but you just need to learn to accept your not going to get big boobs. I use gel pads all the time which helps. I just wish shops done size 32aa bras instead of me having to shop in new look kids section. Being totally honest, i must have 3 bras, not good. Ive moaned about it all through my teenage life, always said i want surgery, but i dont i just want them naturally bigger. I am slim also, my friends also call me anorexic & other stuff, which im so not. I really do hate it but God gave us small boobs, so just be comfrortable and confident in the body you have :).
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): hey, i completely understand where you're coming from.
I'm 15 too and i went to Debenhams to get myself properly measured today (cos before, i wore bras where i kinda just guessed my size since i'm not that big) and i thought my boobs had grown bigger, but after the shop assistant took my measurements, she said that i'm still a 32AA!!
It's pretty annoying i know, since i'm also finding it difficult to get bras and bikinis, but hopefully we'll both still grow!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): Hello =)
im 14 im about...34a + heck i hate it
but lads shouldn't just want you for your boobs
if they liked you they wouldn't care + love you for who you are :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): im nearly 18 and iv never even got measured cus i dont think id have a size! get an panache atlantis bra and it'll give u a bust, not massive, but if your slim you'll look nice and in proportion. and just use "chicken fillet" gel fillers if u want some clevage. this is coming from someone with practically NO cheast whatsoever so it does really work!
plus, look at keira knightly! shes got no chest and shes one of the most beutiful actresses ever!
hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): im 13 going on 14 and i feel exactly the same as you, all the girls around me are all like women and i am a 32AA. I have no hopes, as my mothers are so small too. I really want a bra, in gym its humiliating to change, but no size fits, and i can never go to pool parties because im too embarassed and self conciuos of my body.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): i feel the same way
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): alryt its mark ere lol was jus lukin thru the internet and found this. Ryt il give an honest answer..yeah boys LOVE big boobs like in magasins on the telly and all that! but in real life the girls arent the same shape as in the magazines. if you have small boobs then thats obviously the way you're supposed to be, ive got to admit id love to have a girl with massive boobs but small boobs look much neater and are still attractive
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): i have the same problem as youand i am 17 now.last time i have no self-confidence as my mum keep commenting about my boobs which is so small and she compared it with my sister.i also are naturally slim and are being called aneroxic by my sister which is depressing and i am being called popeye wife by my aunt.but as time pass by i try to build my self-esteem cause i know that when a guy loved me,he must loved me for who i am and not because of my boobs or any physical attraction.it is the inner beauty that matter most.so build up your confidence, girl as you know you are not alone and there are many girls out there just like you who encounters the same problem as yours.hope you take my advice.and don;t be depressed okay.stay happy and ignore what other people say about you.they will stop once they are tired talking about it.smile:)stay cheerful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): i feel you sister i think i have the smae problem as you it makes me feel horrible about my body sometimes i feel i cant get a guy to even look my way when one of my friens (which has 34C cups)stands by me all you have to know is not everybody has huge boobs and your not alone
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): I spent my whole life worrying about my 36A small boobs, but now Im 52 I absolutely love them, they are pert, they dont sag, they look young, I can wear what I like. I see fat breasts and am so glad mine are small. My husband loves them, he hates big breasts. They are only two lumps of fat for feeding babies anyway. Love yourself for what you have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): You are perfect just the way you are. Anyone who says different is either lying or mad. If a guy can not like you for who you are, then he's not worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Hi,
Count your blessings! There are a lot of fat breasts, but to me you have the prettiest ones! You have no idea how lucky you are. Don't change!!!!
Steve
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): Hey.
Im exactly the same. I have like 34A sized breasts and im 16 soon.
Everyone makes fun of me, they say that because of my age i should have bigger boobs e.t.c
And i hate it.
I started my periods ages ago and they still havnt grown at all.
It so embarressing what can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): Hey hun, I'm the same too. I use to get teased in younger grades about the size of my breasts [32 a, and one seems to be 2 sizes smaller, which is incredibly embarrassing], but now that I am in grade 10, I have met alot of guys that like me for who I am. I'm not bragging, but I am quite popular, and people don't seem to say anything about my breasts. My friends tease me sometimes, but I know their just playing because they tell me they wish they had smaller breasts. I got my period two years ago, and they haven't grown much. I am not comfortable with wearing low cut tops or bathing suits, but I am slowly learning to love myself. I have an okay sized behind, and fairly large hips, so I think that makes up for my breast size. So seriously, just hang in there! Be confident with who you are because that is what guys are attracted too- confidence. Be yourself and people will be naturally drawn too you. I wish you the best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): If a boy dosen't like you because you are a 32AA, he is not a very nice guy. I am a boy who happens to love 32AA boobs. Stay away from guys that judge you by the size of your breasts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): Heya im 16 and size 34A, I wear padded bras and I even stuff them but still have no cleavage :(. At school in PE i have to turn my back when i take off my top because I feel I have no boobs. My 13 year old sista is size 32C!! And im really tall too so it just looks odd! Lifes unfair! I just wanted to say that you arent the only one with small boobs! xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): I'm 15 and I know what its like I'm a 34a and I try hard not to pay attention to the fact that I'm small......I hate it because thats all my friends talk about ......boobs boobs boobs I shrug at it and explain to them that I'd look awfully wired if I were 103lbs 5ft 5 very skinny with a b cup.......I have a boyfriend and he seems to not care I have a perky bubble butt that makes up for my small boobs ..........you sound really skinny so tell people that theyr jealous of your modelish potential and they don't.......I do admit if I were a little bigger I would be perfect but then I would lose my humble personality.......our flaws make us who we are and how we act ........and like the other people that posted......some guys like that........ohhh and with a flat chest you can look more chic and fashionable my friends who are a little lager could never do that because they would just end up looking like a slut which can be a major turn off........since I have a skinny figure I can get away with wearing mini skirts and cute little tops and people still think I'm older and they don't think I look slut !!!!............I'm waiting for that magical day that I become fuller.....oh yeah and I'm a dancer so its envied if your flat because you move faster!!! Don't worry about it.......I have a theory the more you think about it the smaller they get!!!! So don't think about it!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): Listen, I have a friend. She is a stick, she praticly has no chest, she's taller than almost every guy we know and other stuff. Me, I have more fat,meat and curvs on me, I'm short (well, agerage height for a woman), and wear a 36 D-DD (I vary, and hate it).She gets all the guys, and they don't even look at me! I get mocked because people think I'm stupid (you know the thing where girls with big boobs are stupid.), my self-confedence was shot when I started growing (in the 4th grade), and ever since then I've been molested and sexually assulted almost every day of my life! And my friend hasn't had all that happen to her and she gets actual nice guys and makes-out all the time. And I've been single for 15 years and always will be. Guys like the thin girls now-a-days anyway, you haven't had anything to worry about. But personally I like my boobs, they make me feel better for being shorter than my little 12 year old sister (who has no boobs, but is growing still where I had fully grown by the summer of my 12th year!), so I have the depth, she has the height. Sadly, that's how it works so the tall, skinny ones don't fall over (that's why a lot of them are so small). And the shorter vuloptus-looking girls have to be there to fill the gap! That and it wouldn't look right if we had small boobs...Balance. You know?I know you already got ahold of this and such, but I might as well put and imput right?~Tayune
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): Hi dont wory im the exact same
my build is small and petite but i dont ant to be i eat and eat + eat ... but iverelised all those girls hu are normall sizes will get bigger when there older we will get a gawjuss boddy figure and the girls hu are yound and have big boobs will eventually go saggy n imagine them with kids look how saggy they will goo n lads are nott interested in saggy one !
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): hi I am only 12 and I dont even fit a 30 AA and everyone teases me. There are a lot of girls in my school that are pretty big and I envy them and I get very jealous. When I was 11 I used to stuff a bit but I felt fake doing that. I asked my mom if we could go to the mall and try to find a padded bra so I would look bigger but she said 'I don't think they have padded bras in your size.Does anyone that reads this know were I can get padded bras that are really small?
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (8 February 2008):
 All boobs are absolutely beautiful as long as they're natural.
Not all guys prefer huge ones except for smirking over. Some guys like 'em big, others small.
My other half has an AA cup and I think they're just perfect. They're always pert and she doesn't need to wear a bra, although she does. Anything that doesn't fit in a mouth is wasted effort to my mind.
there are sveral underwear suppliers that deal only in the smaller sizes, and if you get measured properly you'll find a bra that fits.
Be thankful that you haven't got huge sweaty titties with fungus underneath them, (rather like athletes foot) that give you back pain and grooves over your shoulders from the straps.
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): Hey, look, so you're 15 and 32 AA don't worry. I'm sure you know, you'll grow. And even if you don't grow, don't worry. I'm in my twenties and I'm only a 32 AA. I've been though stages of frustration about it, but it's silly really. My boobs haven't grown, but I've grown to love them. Don't get me wrong, it would be cool if they did get bigger. My only issue is that I can't seem to find sexy bras in this size. They all seem to be plain or have teddy bears on them. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): hey just read some e-mails and just wanted to say i know its hard but stop worrying, i am 15 in june and a 32DD, size 10 and still would like to be bigger on top but whatever size you are you always want to be different?! I find that La Senza do really gorgeous bust enhancing bras and some tricks that my flat chested friend told me are: massage bronzer lotion or powder on your chest, fill a glass with cold and hot water (but not too hot) (also best done in bath or shower) put cold glass on one boob and lean back so that your boob is completely covered repeat wih other side and then hot, your boobs are instantly a size bigger- i think it might have somehting to do with blood rushing up and down! but love yourself its probs only you that really notices but if you still feel a little self concious then try these they really work! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): Hey,I know exactly what you mean and I'm OLDER and SMALLER!!!I'm 18 and am 30AA. I am TERRIFIED about taking my top off infront of any guy OR girl, even my best friends. I feel like such a fraud cos I wear padded bras and then if I say I'm flat chested they're like "no you're not...!" but it's all padding!BUT...... what everyone's said has been really encouraging :) and deep down I know it's true. I know people big up boobs, but think about it - they're ONE feature on you. Think about all the other amazing features you've got!!And also think about it like this - a lot of guys worry, for example, about being muscular/toned - cos they think it's what girls want. But there are LOADS of girls who couldn't care less about that (me included - I actually really like skinny guys.) So although there might be a lot of emphasis put on boobs, they're just one aspect of your body, and not all guys like the same thing.I wish I was more confident, but we can get there - I'm sure of it :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): Hi, i have read all the posts and i just wanted to say that... I am 23 years old and a 32B...I always thought i was a 34A but got measured three times to make sure what i size i actually was.
I started growing at 12 and stopped at 14 years old, i have been this size since:-
5ft2, 8st1 (heaviest 8st8) I am a size 6/8 on top and 8/10 on my bottom (which is a bit wobbly). When i was a teenager i HATEDmy body, i had the smallest boobs and swimming classes were a nightmare. BUT since being in relationships with great guys who worship and like my body as it is, you become more confident and realise that there are men out there who LOVE small, petite women! I always say to myself i would rather be my small size then overweight with boobs that will eventually go saggy.
So i say to any teenager you will learn to love yourself the way you are..
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): Hey, at least you are small everwhere. Im nearly 16, and my boobs dant fit anything. I seriously mean it, its not that im just complaining because they are 'only an A' or something like that. They don't even fit As, not even close. But no one can call me anorexic, because im 5'11", and i have huge thighs. Again, not joking or seeing it as worse than it is. And the funny thing is, i am actually a recovering anorexic. But the small boob size has nothing to do with that, i never had any, my older sis is larger than me, but barely fits an A, and she is nineteen, though they did get even smaller as i lost wieght. In fact, i lost weight everywhere but on my thighs. So, honestly, i would kill to be you, at least you can be called petite, im just a hulking teenager with man-boobs smaller than my principal's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): hey there...im a 16 year old guy, and personally i LOVE smaller boobs and the whole petite figure. i dont know why, theres just something about it that i absolutly adore.....so cheer up girls, because there are other guys besides myself that feel the same way!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): Hii There, Im 14, 15 Soon, I am completly flat chested and i really mean flat chested! i havent started my period yet and im reaally worried about it! i eat loads and i cant put on weight and people do the same thing to me too ! i never get any boys attention !Not only im scared there something wrong with me and i gett soo jelous of all my other freinds :( ! so dont worry youre not the only one out there ! please someone helpful reply to our mails please! ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): I'm 14 1/2 and all my friends keep going on about the size of my 'non existant breasts' i've been called all sorts of things from minus-tripple-A to being said that i'm "so flat the walls are jellous"
Yeah it gets you down but i suppose everyone has their growing rate.
I do get really self concious when swimming but then again there aren't many people out there who are 100% happy with their figure. We may be flat chested but we're skinny and tall.
Just remeber there are no women out there with absolutely no chest because we'll keep growing... wont be long :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): hii. im 16 and i never really had big boobs until i went on the pill. i wish girls would stop worrying about the size of their boobs because the prettiest tops and the prettiest bras come in smaller sizes. and guys nowadays go for legs etc. bigger boobs make me look wide on my tophalf.. like chubby :|. and besides the size of your boobs i reckon is genetics. stop worrryinggg :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008): Im almost 50 and have spent my whole life worrying about small boobs. I wish I hadnt wasted so much time over it. I have a husband now who absolutely hates big boobs and adores small ones. He told me most of the men he knows loves small boobs, they dont sag, get stretch marks, stay pert and lovely like a young pair. He is right. I am really happy at last with my boobs. My larger friends now all look like they have cow udders strapped on and cant wear all the gorgeous clothes I can, They have to wear massive construction bras and it looks wrong. Celebrate what you have and remeber what they are really for. Feeding children. Not all men like big boobs, and the ones that do, so what. if you ever get teased by such a man,just show him your little finger, then watch him wither in insecurity. Dont worry about this stupid boobs thing. Just be grateful they are healthy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008): OMG! I am 14 almost 15 and I don't even have anything at all! Grade 4ers have bigger ones than I do! I don't get it! I get teased around by boys and girls. It sucks I've had my period since I was 10 and I just don't have boobs at all. I'm 5'4 and 103 lbs. and no boobs! WOW! I hate it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): i hear the pills work, didnt try it myself but heard it was safe ;/
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reader, daletom + ♥, writes (3 January 2008):
What can you do? - Work hard to accept yourself for what you are. Yes, it may take some real WORK.- Don't try to be what you're not. People are turned off by phonies, or else try to exploit their insecurity.- Make the most of what you have. Please don't get fat for any reason; certainly not to get boobs!- Wait a few years before doing anything drastic.OK, I'm a guy so what do I know about your problem? A woman I love (my wife) has a similar situation. She tells me (I didn't know her then) that she didn't even start to get breasts until she was 16. Even her younger sisters teased her for being "flat". Well, she eventually filled out to a 34-A (on a 5'10" frame) and I knew what was (or wasn't) there when I married her. She carried and breast-fed 4 kids. Now she's over 50, and . . . a bit less than a 34-A.Sexually I find her VERY attractive! Her breasts don't sag - they nicely fill the palm of my hand - she has a shape that women less than half her age actually envy - she can go braless most of the time, which makes her delightfully accessible for a loving, reassuring fondling. As far as I can tell being small-breasted hasn't diminished her enjoyment of sex in the least.Contemporary culture certainly exalts big bosoms. The stigma of being small-breasted, even 30 years after the overt teasing stopped, still affects her. It bothered her when our 14-year old daughter (now almost 25) was bustier than my wife EVER was - even pregnant. I'll admit that I enjoyed her being pregnant and nursing, when she blossomed out to a C-cup, but I don't have any real complaints about her as she is now.I know you face a difficult problem. I wish I could offer you a more definite, concrete, solution. Be assured that some men find your shape very attractive. No, not ALL men - but you only need one man! You can have a very loving, long lasting marriage. Your husband is more likely to love you for WHO you are, and not be drawn away by somebody whose skin is shaped differently. Your bust size has nothing to do with your ability to eventually bear and nurse children.Above all, don't let your friends make you feel inferior. You're not!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): I have the same problem except to make things worse i have pectus excavum which means my chest goes in and looks like I have even less than i do!!! I can never get fat either and in order to make my chest look normal i have to wear a bigger bra size which is still a 32 A. pathetic.:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): I am nearly 17 and barely an AA. My A, B and even C cup frie |
