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writes:hi there!im 21 years old. i'm a university student.basically i am still a virgin and never had a boyfriend.its not that i don't get asked out. im a normal girl, love going out and having a good time.but i guess i just haven't met a guy i liked enough to get intimate with.its not that im fussy about looks or anything.my friends all think im strange for being like this as they all broke their virginity in their teens.but now i feel like i don't accept dates because im embarrassed about telling a guy im a virgin. and scared it will totally put him off me.so any guys out there, would you be put off by a 21 year old virgin?xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2011): Oh my God! I'm a 21-year-old virgin too and I have the same worries! I'm not religious, not waiting until after marriage, just haven't ever gotten close enough to a guy I really liked yet. I get nervous when I start getting closer to guys because I'm dreading talking about sexual pasts. I also NEVER play "truth or dare" or "i never" because I don't want people to know! I totally feel you!
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reader, bunnyblueeyes +, writes (31 July 2011):
 Most men wouldn't be put off. I was a virgin until just before my twenty first birthday when I met my first and only partner. He was 'honored' that I was confident enough to wait 'till I was ready and had found 'the one.' X
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone i feel a lot better. your answers have really reassured me :)
i guess the fact that any guy i date will most likely be a lot more experienced and that scares me a little.
so none of you guys would mind a girl with no experience?
and geegee255 when you say guys might be afraid of hurting me, do you mean physically hurting me during the first time i have sex?
thanks so much for the answers again.
xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2011): heyy....
im a guy from india aged 23, nd trust me, im a virgin too, i know a lot of people wud laugh abt it, but at the end of the day, its ur own mind set, loose ur virginity only if u comfortable with it, i plan to loosee my virginty with my wife, hope im able to maintain it till that tym, lol......lets c wht happens, all the best to u too
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (30 July 2011):
 The only typre of guy that would be put off is a guy that likes to sleep around with a lot of women, because he knows it has more importance for you then to someone who gave it away years ago, and that scares some men.
Some men might be afraid of hurting you as well.
But the only guys you need to watch out for are the type who are just looking for the challenge of bedding a virgin.
For this reason I would not advertise the fact that you're still a virgin. I would keep that to myself until I get to know a guy better that I am dating.
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reader, shalley  +, writes (30 July 2011):
 Hi!I dont think any reasonable guy should be put off about your virginity but rather be happy and glad to have you as a gf.i really admire you for this.am 19 and still a virgin and i dont plan losing it to any man now until am married or find someone whom i truly love and can let go my virginity to.
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (30 July 2011):
 I know many many guys who wish they would have met their girlfriend as a virgin. It helps them be more secure in the fact that they are the only one their girlfriend wants.
Don't be ashamed of the fact that you've never had a boyfriend. Don't rush into things either. Your friends make comments about it? Who cares? It's your life, and maybe it's better that you didn't just throw away your virginity. In all honesty, maybe they're jealous. I know I wish I hadn't rushed into things.
Any guy who will be that put off about you being a virgin obviously isn't the guy for you, so don't stress it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2011): I am an Indian guy. In India, majority of girls lose their virginity after marraige. But nowadays, most of the girls lose their virginity before they graduate.
A guy feels lucky when his wife is virgin till marraige. It is not a bad thing at all. I am not aware about American culture though. Your husband will be the luckiest guy, trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2011): Not at all. I just asked 37 guys here at my job about this. Only one guy says he would be put off, everyone else would enjoy having you as a friend/girlfriend. Too bad you're in another country.
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