My boyfriend's controlling behaviour is bothering me!
Q. Hi I’m 26 years old, in December I sent a message to my friend saying I miss my ex, I did anything towards that feeling and I just said to coz I’m getting married and I was having cold feet. My bf saw this message and ever since this incident he...
A. 27 January 2012: This is not normal by any means and your frustration is understandable! He seems insecure and in need of alot of reassurance. But hun if the message never sinks in that You love him and only him and that you can be trusted... then I think pursuing ... (read in full...)
I'm just so angry with him for having another child!
Q. I'm feel like I'm stuck in this mess and really need some answers or guidance from ppl that have been through what I'm going through. So I have been with my fiance since 2007 around Christmas time of 2010 I have found out that he was cheating on me ...
A. 26 January 2012: I think that you are directing your anger and pain to the wrong persons! It was your partner that had an affair and betrayed your trust. The fact that this woman got pregnant was because your bf went out there and slept with her! The baby obviously ... (read in full...)
My husband is against abortions but doesn't know I may be pregnant. Is it wrong to get an abortion and never tell him?
Q. How wrong would it be to have an abortion without my husband's knowledge? He is completely against abortion, but we have a 5 month old baby and I don't want anymore kids now. I misused my new birth control pills accidentally. He doesn't know that I ...
A. 26 January 2012: I think if you had to abort his child and NOT tell him...there is no greater deceit! If he found out... your relationship would never be the same again! Ever! You have to talk to the guy! Good luck hun xx... (read in full...)
I'm in the depths of depression. Is there a way out?
Q. Hey guy's I'm going to apologize before hand as on the education front I don't have much. Here's my story.. and why I have self diagnosed myself with social anxiety and depression. I started to realise I was different around the age of 13 I...
A. 24 January 2012: The only person that can turn this around is YOU! You have to fight for your right to a happy fulfilled life! Go to college and start some courses... throw away these games that are clearly sucking up all your time. Exercise tonnes (its helps with ... (read in full...)
Should I choose my ex over my current?
Q. I don't think I'm over my ex.. About a year ago my friend, at the time, and I got together. Everything was perfect I was as happy as can be. Thing is he's 5years older than me and at the time I was 16. My parents didn't like the idea at all and this ...
A. 24 January 2012: Ex's are usually ex's for a reason!!! Sometimes looking back we wonder what could of bn? But also a year apart is a long time and alot could of changed. Think carefully before going back.. I have a look forward - cut your losses type of ... (read in full...)
Friend and family dumped by dad, now he wants back in but she wont listen!
Q. I need elderly advice please. My friends father practically kicked her mother brothers and her out when she was 2. Reason? He had a new cindrella. My friend like me is 20 and never wants to marry. She says men are things she does when less busy! Her ...
A. 24 January 2012: She needs time! The dad buggered off for 18 years!!! Why should she open the door to him in a rush? She may decide not to... its her deicision and no-one would blame her. I think that there is a time in a girls life when her dad NEEDS to be ... (read in full...)
My daughter is 4 years old and has never met her father. He is single now and I am hoping that he will assume his responsibilities... is this wrong of me?
Q. I have a daughter who is 4 years old, ever since she has been born she has not seen her father. I met her father at a bar and within a few weeks of dating I becasme pregnant. We broke up after being together a month. Then I found out i was pregnant ...
A. 13 January 2012: There are some people we need like a hole in the head! This guy is out for his own self! He doesn't care what he leaves behind in his path. Protect your daughter from this type of male role model.... Move on from him. Also be careful that you are ... (read in full...)
Will men still want me when I have a child or am I damaged goods?
Q. My question is I'm 26 year old college student, I am so far working on my AA degree. I have a 4 year old child, will men still want someone like me or am I just damaged goods. ...
A. 13 January 2012: Children are a blessing and thank God we can have them or else the human race would die out!!
Some men want to have a family and if they love you ...this will not be a factor at all! But you need to get your mind right. If you think you are dama... (read in full...)
I am lonely and need words of kindness.... Advice for making friends and dating??
Q. Hi Aunts, I'm just feeling a bit low and need some words of kindness. Where do you suggest I go? I don't feel like going to a place of worship and I have no friends who would ever help me. They'd only get me to help them. I'm nearing 30 and h...
A. 11 January 2012: Sorry but you are talking from the point of view of an 80+ year old!! How can you be 30 and say "you are too old to make friends"? Life over at 30?
Here's the thing. Life is tough - FOR EVERYONE... not just you. You have to really get out of this ... (read in full...)
He wants pictures of my private bits, what should I do?
Q. I talked to this guy once on the phone, i'm not sure how old he is, he is divorced and has a daughter that lives with his ex and he sees his daughter on the weekends. we chatted a little bit and he wants me to send pictures of my breasts and my ...
A. 9 January 2012: It depends on what you are looking for really doesn't it? If you need in your life a crazy sex maniac that is twisted...then by all means ...please send them!
I mean... WHO DOES THIS??? Who sends vagina pics to a stranger??? #baffled... (read in full...)
My husband is becoming overweight and unhealthy - wouldn't he stop doing this if he loved me?
Q. Hello Everyone, first of all i would like to thank this site. everytime i am in trouble this is the only place i can go and at least release my problem. I grow up to what they called, disfunctional family. I got no love from my own parents spec...
A. 9 January 2012: First of all... I don't think that anyone should criticize you for the choices you made (to marry someone older). You should not feel the need to apologize for that at all...
Weight is not an easy topic to discuss with anyone. I think that you... (read in full...)
I was never a bad Gf to him. So why has he betrayed me, left me for another? Devastated and I don't know what to do, help please?
Q. I never thought I would feel this way. My bf of a few years left me for someone else. I feel so betrayed and in so much pain. I've seen pictures and facebook post and they are so happy together. It devastates me because he didn't seem that happy ...
A. 9 January 2012: Hunny somethings no-one can explain them! As much as it hurts... you have to find a way to forgive him and let him go! Don't contact him, run after him, talk about the break-up with too many people (just obviously those realllly close to you). And ... (read in full...)
I'm leaving my abusive partner. How can I make this break without anymore arguing as I don't want to antagonise him?
Q. What should i do with my abusive partner? My partner is in his early 40s, he has been abusive in the past and spent 8 weeks in the past in prison for punching me in the face. After a lot of soul searching i forgave him and resumed a relation...
A. 8 January 2012: If you don't do this for yourself... do it for your children!!! Tell this guy to drop dead and if he touches you again ...YOU PHONE THE POLICE and press charges. Never let children watch abuse... and then a woman accept it and live in fear of ... (read in full...)
My b/f is too jealous and I'm afraid it might get out of hand!
Q. Okay this was my weekend! I went to my boyfriends house with his friends and when his one friend (Josh) saw me he ran up to me and hugged me and said i look sexy. my boyfriend got really really mad and pushed him off me i felt like he went a bit to...
A. 19 December 2011: Josh went to far hunny! How could he run up to hug his friends gf and tell her she looks sexy...then proceed to kiss her!!! And this gf SMILES??? You need to take this seriously ... if you are enjoying the attention that Josh is giving you then its ... (read in full...)
How do I learn to connect with people and turn it into a friendship?
Q. Something I've really been trying to get my head around. I have probably not had the courage and the confidence to put myself out there socially, and this is something that is really starting to do my head in and something that I am desperate to get ...
A. 18 December 2011: The best thing is the be relaxed around people. When you are calm and relaxed you make people around you feel comfortable. Secondly... you DO NOT open friendships with personal feelings!!! You have to get to know people first before you open up too ... (read in full...)
I need answers please! We're friends after his rebound. How to win him back?
Q. My ex of 5 months broke up in August. He rebounded and contacted me immediately after. We hadn't talked during that time. We went to a movie and we acted the same as before. We hung out a few times since then but not as often as when we were ...
A. 18 December 2011: Be careful with this situation! As you say he is confused and he may be needing JUST a friend and no more... Give him time to deal with the closure of his past relationship before you make plans to win him back! If you push things... you could ruin ... (read in full...)
In the process of an adoption and I've fallen in love with the birth mother! Help!
Q. i am in the middle of an adoption and i fell in love with the birth mother, i love her more than my own wife. is this normal that i want to spend rest of my life with her and unborn children she wants to give us? help me...
A. 16 December 2011: I would normally not give the advice I am going to give you now... I think that perhaps a meeting I had with someone yesterday who was unhappy in marriage may have influenced.
Be honest with yourself!!! It starts there. Talk to your wife honestly... (read in full...)
In the process of an adoption and I've fallen in love with the birth mother! Help!
Q. i am in the middle of an adoption and i fell in love with the birth mother, i love her more than my own wife. is this normal that i want to spend rest of my life with her and unborn children she wants to give us? help me...
A. 15 December 2011: I am wondering if you are in love with the fact that she is giving you a child??? That puts her in a very powerful position... Father, Mother, Baby... Type thing! I don't know how to advise you as you have not given details. Are you happy in your ... (read in full...)
How to get out of a toxic relationship once and for all?
Q. How to get out of a toxic realtioship for good? one day is so nice and treat me well then the next day he's blame me for thing that have done. if he had a bad day at work then it my fault. i need to get out and cut all ends with him, how do i do ...
A. 15 December 2011: Like NIKE.... JUST DO IT! Thats it!
You have made the decision that this relationship is toxic. You are not happy so... tell him.. It's over and goodbye and GO...xx... (read in full...)
My husband is chatting flirtatiously with a girl from his office. Should I be worried?
Q. So, I have had some trust issues with my husband in the past. Some of it he deserved, and some of it can be attributed to the fact that I tend to be a jealous person. I am having a similar issue tonight. He and I have been doing pretty well late...
A. 14 December 2011: If you are looking for something...eventually YOU WILL FIND IT! I think that one of the most important things is to respect each other's privacy. Your continuing to moniter his conversations, seems like you are sure he will mess up and just ... (read in full...)
Clueless man or just not in love?
Q. I have been reading dear cupid for a while now and you guys give some brilliant advice, so I'm hoping you can help me gain some insight on my own situation. I apologise if this is a bit of an essay, I'm trying not to leave anything important out. ...
A. 14 December 2011: In my opinion this is one of two things: Fistly he could just be too comfortable in the relationship that he is taking you for granted. You will always be there type of thing ...so he can live his life his way and you will be sitting by the phone! ... (read in full...)
My Bf and I constantly fight over unwanted attention I receive from other men. What can I do to fix this?
Q. I have a great relationship with my boyfriend of 2 years. My problem is that we constantly fight over unwanted attention I receive from other men. I am naturally a very friendly person to any individual regardless of age or looks. My career is in ...
A. 14 December 2011: I think that you are justifying your position to the point that you believe you have done all you can to reassure your bf ...BUT obviously...something is still not sitting right here. The late night texting in not simple "friendliness".. that is out ... (read in full...)
I thought he was missing me but now it turns out he's been dating someone new and claims she's 'nice'. I'm terribly hurt!!
Q. Hi, please read and offer any advice you can! 6 weeks ago, me and my guy called it a day. He was my flatmate but we were always 'more than friends' so we decided to live separately and give things a go. Things were great to start but things like mov...
A. 13 December 2011: I think that you should just tell him in a simple matter-of-fact way that whilst you are happy for him having found someone "nice", he should realise that this whole thing was hurtful for you. You don't have to go into details but if he feels ... (read in full...)
Men!!! Why is it so difficult for an attractive woman to find a boyfriend?
Q. Why is it so difficult for an attractive woman to find a boyfriend? I am a tall, black woman, very, very shapely and according to everyone who sees me, apparently I look like Rihanna. I'm nearly 35, a professional, don't drive, live in a fami...
A. 13 December 2011: I have a friend in a similar situation to you and we have discussed this! She thinks that men are intimidated by her demeanor. She is a successful, black, beautiful, athletic woman! She is very confident and doesn't take BS. You sound like the ... (read in full...)
My husband is saying hurtful comments about my weight! Help!
Q. I need help! I have only been married 1yr. Well next month will make it a year. We have been together 3years though. I am in the military and i am currently deployed. I work out a lot to keep stress down, and to give myself something to do. My ...
A. 12 December 2011: I believe that his comments are not really about your weight! If you have always been small then it makes no sense that he would have a problem with it now! Perhaps this is another issue he has and he is just finding a way to vent? Could it be the ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I can manage to go to the funeral!
Q. Its my cousins funeral on Friday, he was 19 and had been suffering with cancer for 18 months. We were so close and im crying my eyes out writing this. My mum really wants me to go to the funeral but I dont know if i can bear it. Any tips or help ...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi Hunny... sorry for your loss.
Go and say goodbye. Its his final journey and you should be there to see him off. Its not easy but no-one expects it to be. Big hugs hun in this time of loss and sadness. xx... (read in full...)
I feel like our relationship has reached its end...but I am struggling to let go. Any ideas?
Q. I’m finding it hard to break up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years (I’m 20 and he is 22). He is my first love and he is also my first sexual experience. When we first started dating it was pretty rocky. I thought about breaking up with him but my ...
A. 12 December 2011: The relationship has reached its end I think hunny! You can only do so much. You are not happy, not enjoying being intimate with your bf and it seems you are just holding on waiting for things to change. I would just let it go and see how things pan ... (read in full...)
Should I contact him? Is he hinting that he misses me?
Q. I have a short term ex I dated for a month and a half. He was very into me: asking me to be exclusive early on, driving multiple times to see me on weekdays (I live a couple hours away from him), buying little gifts for me and for my sister he never ...
A. 12 December 2011: If he missed you he would contact you. There is no point in reading his profile daily trying to connect the dots! You need to respect his decision to move on. If he REALLY missed you ... you would know and there would be no need for you to do ... (read in full...)
I am unable to bear the pair of my co-worker's marriage
Q. I am married but in love with colleague in office who now got married as per her parents wishes. I am not able to bear the pain of her marriage and its hurting a lot and unable to concentrate on work and my family. We continue to see and work wit...
A. 9 December 2011: Its simple really... you have to fall OUT of love with her! As ridiculous as that sounds... you must do your best to get over her...avoid her...talk to her only when you need to and be professional. You are both married and its not going to happen ... (read in full...)
My gf cheated on me. Should I spoil things with her new guy or just let her go?
Q. ok i'm in a dilema should I be a total git and ruin things for her or should I let it go tell her I dont want to hear from her again and explain how much she's hurt me. my gf and i split about a week ago. The relationship had been hard for ab...
A. 9 December 2011: I honestly think that the best thing is to just let her go and don't contact the guy.... Reason being... you may contact him and appear as the jealous played ex. You deserve someone better... let her go and who knows...maybe this guy is the one for ... (read in full...)
Do I sound like I have a personality issue? Or anxiety issues? Or something else? What should I do?
Q. Just wondering whether people can offer some perspective with whether I should seek help for this or just accept that it's part of me, and work on some things myself. I'm just scared it will affect my relationship with my boyfriend most, since I ...
A. 8 December 2011: Anxiety is verrrry common. I think the best natural and safe solution I can offer you is to look up Magnesium deficiency. It is a common cause of anxiety. You will be very surprised how it can change your life.
I would also recommend taking V... (read in full...)
Love the affection but could do without the sex
Q. I see my boyfriend every 3 or 4 weeks because he works in a different city. usually just for a weekend. I love him and he's wonderful, but I don't like sex but I love affection,hugs,kisses. We're going on holiday for 2 weeks together and I'm...
A. 8 December 2011: Sex is a major part of a relationship! And it really shouldn't be about "giving in when he wants it". You have to find a way to stimulate your desire. Changing your frame of mind from dreading and avoiding to opening up and welcoming being intimate ... (read in full...)
Please help me to find a solution for a boy with kidney failure!
Q. Dear All. I am seeking advice from all please? I am trying to help a family in Zimbabwe who have a son that has kidney failure. He has to travel 4 hours to the capital city in Zimbabwe twice a week (4 hours there and 4 hours back) in order to get d...
A. 8 December 2011: For chigirl.. i am an Engineer and sometimes I am posted in remote parts of Africa. I came across this family in Zimbabwe. I am just looking for advice on how to proceed. if anyone has clues.... thanks..xx... (read in full...)
Please help me to find a solution for a boy with kidney failure!
Q. Dear All. I am seeking advice from all please? I am trying to help a family in Zimbabwe who have a son that has kidney failure. He has to travel 4 hours to the capital city in Zimbabwe twice a week (4 hours there and 4 hours back) in order to get d...
A. 8 December 2011: OH NO.. I MET THE BOY PERSONALLY!!! It is not a scam! I met his parents and I help them with transport costs from home to hospital! I am just trying to find long term answers for the boy. His father was not a match and his mother has high blood ... (read in full...)
Please help me to find a solution for a boy with kidney failure!
Q. Dear All. I am seeking advice from all please? I am trying to help a family in Zimbabwe who have a son that has kidney failure. He has to travel 4 hours to the capital city in Zimbabwe twice a week (4 hours there and 4 hours back) in order to get d...
A. 8 December 2011: OH NO.. I MET THE BOY PERSONALLY!!! It is not a scam! I met his parents and I help them with transport costs from home to hospital! I am just trying to find long term answers for the boy. His father was not a match and his mother has high blood ... (read in full...)
Jealous of my bf's female colleague... thinking of breaking up with bf! Help!
Q. i have been with my bf for 3 yrs and we love each other. i am sure he will not cheat on me, but there are other times that i felt offended or hurt unintentionally. specifically, there's this one female coworker that i am very jealous of. she hitched ...
A. 8 December 2011: You want to break up with your bf because he attented a work function with all others plus HER? He gave her a ride twice this year! I think the problem here is your insecurity and if you leave this guy over a work mate ...then chances are that you ... (read in full...)
My husband's family dislikes me and its making me want to leave the marriage
Q. hi - i would be so grateful for advice as I am at the stage of walking out on my husband. For nearly all of our 8 year marriage (and 3 years prior) his family (specifically his parents) have disliked me. To start with they were not overly obvious ...
A. 7 December 2011: Hunny if your husband was defending you and on your side ... I would tell you to ignore his parents totally! But it seems that he is siding with them. I think its healthier to move on. Seriously, life is too short to surround yourself with people ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my sick ex, or go with my new love
Q. I am driving myself crazy and feel like I am tearing myself into two!! A few months back I left my ex because I had really strong feelings for another guy and felt I couldn't be with my ex because it wouldn't be fair on him and I really wanted to ...
A. 7 December 2011: I just don't understand how you can LOVE someone you have never met! This to me is just incredible. You would put aside a real relationship for an online date (whom you have never met).
If you ask me... I think that Mr. Internet will become M... (read in full...)
Fiance joking about me at work with female coworker, too much?
Q. Hello, I'm in a situation with my fiance, and he has a past for not doing the right thing. A few times this past year, he's gone to his ex to complain about his family issues (mom/dad/siblings) because I was sympathizing and trying to help him work...
A. 7 December 2011: I think this case is a little different... The co-worker is more likely to understand the BOSS problems than you are. They share the same problems so they can relate.
It seems to me that she was trying to protect you rather than hurt you. If a mal... (read in full...)
Not Over Him After 3 Years
Q. It's been one year and a half now that i did the biggest mistake in my life. I broke up with my man after a 3 years relationship. I deeply regret what i did. I left him for another man. I took the decision in a blink of an eye. I didn't know back in ...
A. 7 December 2011: The most important thing for you to understand now is that if you were to get back together IT WILL NEVER BE THE SAME AS BEFORE. This is because: you left him at the blink of an eye for another man, you then proceeded to cheat on the new man with ... (read in full...)
Did he ever love me to begin with?
Q. It's been almost 8 months since I moved out from living with my ex. A couple months ago I started feeling better and really started enjoying being single. I started finding what I enjoyed doing and living for myself. But lately I can't stop ...
A. 7 December 2011: Hunny this is normal! A break-up is not easy to go through, especially one with so much deceit. I believe that we go through stages. You were probably feeling better in the beginning coz you were angry. But now that that is wearing off you are ... (read in full...)
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