I'm told my ex I'm pregnant and now he doesn't want to talk to me anymore
Q. My ex boyfriend and i we're very good friends but now i'm pregnant and it seems he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. It's been like 3 years that i ended my relationship with him and we decide to be friends but he'd say stay in love me (or that's ...
A. 19 August 2011: If your ex still has feelings for you then its not easy for him to accept that you are having a baby with someone else. You have to allow him space to deal with what he is going through. I would just send him a message and tell him that he has been ... (read in full...)
Has my friend made him change his mind about me?
Q. I met this guy over this past summer. He is different then anyone I have ever known. We have so much in common. And we have this deep deep connection that I've never had with anyther person. We started talking in july and ended up going out. We ...
A. 19 August 2011: Hunny...Until you are at LEAST 18, most encounters you will have with the opposite sex are not likely to be longlasting... till death do us part types. You have to just have fun, let go and enjoy being young. If it upsets you to be in comms with the ... (read in full...)
What is it about the average guys that makes them get the most stunning girls?
Q. We all know of or heard of average, even below average guys consistently getting stunning girls. These guys don't have high status. If arrogance is a turn off, why don't these average/below average guys turn off these stunning girls? If they a...
A. 19 August 2011: Confidence my man! Mixed with some sweet talking and a sense of humor! Girls love that... Also I think that an average guy knows that he needs to work harder to get a girl so he will practice his moves! ... (read in full...)
Why did this guy just stop texting me?
Q. Why did he just stop texting me? everything was going great until he stood me up tonight and he never got back in touch with me. He won't even answer his phone he always hangs up why is he acting like this?...
A. 19 August 2011: No-one knows why he is acting this way. You have to assume that perhaps something is wrong and he has a problem?? Else, if you tried calling and he cut you off then the best thing is to just NOT CONTACT him anymore!!! If he has stood you up then ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about my son's relationship
Q. i have a son. hes only gone eighteen. he has a girlfriend. she has an apartment and a child who lives with her aunty. she has limited time with her four year old. shes six years older than my son. he stays over without telling me and turned o...
A. 19 August 2011: I think that as much as it will hurt you at this moment... you have to let him go. You cannot choose a partner for your son and technically - he is an adult (even though I think 18 is still too young)!! If you fight with him, you will force him to ... (read in full...)
Are there any happy marriages out there? Is there any hope for me and my high school sweetheart?
Q. Are there any happy marriages out there? I'm afraid that if I marry my high school sweetheart, he'll stop loving me later on and want a divorce. He's made it pretty clear that he wants a future with me, but I don't know since I hear a lot of high ...
A. 2 August 2011: You are a little young to get married in my opinion. Has the guy proposed? Are you planning on proposing?
Marriages are marriages hun. Some are good and some are bad. There are just NO guarantees. The relationship depends on ALOT of work from bot... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has an eating disorder, please help
Q. I'm sorry if this is long, there's just a lot to explain. Please take the time to read. So my girlfriend and I are 19 yrs old and we have been together for over 2 years now. A little over three years ago she developed an eating disorder. The fi...
A. 2 August 2011: http://hubpages.com/hub/Understanding-anorexia-nervosa-and-what-you-can-do-to-help
I think you should read that article. Its very useful in understanding the sources of eating disorders and how to deal with them.
In my opinion, I think... (read in full...)
I despise my mother....so much! Help!
Q. Hello, I have have a big problem and I'm at my wits end in dealing with it. I have a mother who I dislike VERY MUCH! I try my best not to use the word "Hate" because it's a word and it has a meaning, but I know for a fact I definitely don't...
A. 2 August 2011: I really feel for you. Its tough when the one person that should love you and think the world of you is falling apart! It sounds like your mother is not coping well with life. She could be filled with resentment and anger at the world for the way ... (read in full...)
I'm worried the honeymoon phase is slipping away.....
Q. Hey, i'm a little worried at my attitude to my relationship with my bf and need some advice. We've been together 10 months, both work full time (shifts) and don't live together. At first, it was lust for me, but after several months, I realised I ...
A. 2 August 2011: The honeymoon period ALWAYS wears off! Maybe not 100% but I think realistically things are never the same as in the first moments. If you love this guy, you will make an effort to build something else. Something stronger - based on communication, ... (read in full...)
Advice on how to have a relationship with my family that is emotionally safe for me?
Q. God I feel so pathetic writing this. I am a grown woman, in my early thirties! And I am writing a message like some emo teenager about how hurt I feel by the behaviour of my parents! I recently went through a divorce. I left an abusive partn...
A. 14 July 2011: They obviously do not want to give their support so my suggestion would be to pick up the phone... tell your parents EXACTLY how you feel in as few words as possible and then tell them that you will not be pining for their approval anymore. And they ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my friend's boyfriend to see if he feels the same way?
Q. At the beginning of my sophomore year of high school I met my best friend. I've never been closer with anyone in my life, she knows everything there is to know about me. She trusts me more than anyone, and I trust her. Soon after we became friends ...
A. 12 July 2011: Girl!!! Back off. Put yourself in her shoes. This is a REALLY bad thing to do to someone. He would not be with her if he did not love her. Think! ... (read in full...)
Stuck in no-man's land between together and broken up
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 2 years. It has not been a smooth ride - I cheated on him 6 months into the relationship but he decided he wanted to stay together and work through it. We currently live together, but for a long time now ...
A. 12 July 2011: As you say, its not fair to be with him when the thought makes you sick in your stomach. Its very sad that when a relationship ends, one partner especially will be torn apart BUT you have to do what is best for him and for you. If you are going to ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with him without totally crushing his heart?
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend now for just over 2 years and it's been a good relationship. He's 25 and I'm 22 and we live together. The problem is that I love him but I'm no longer in love with him. I've been thinking for the last 5 or six months ...
A. 23 September 2009: I agree with previous comments... there is NO NICE way to do this. You have to just bite the bullet and tell him. If you are afraid of his temper then I would pack my things and move out then ask him to meet me somewhere public. (This is bad but if ... (read in full...)
Will my breasts be a turn-off for all men or is it just bad luck that I'm with a guy who doesn't like them!
Q. I had previously asked a question regarding the fact that my breasts have started sagging as a result of weight loss and my boyfriend hates them and wants me to have surgery. I want to know if d cup but saggy breasts will be a turn off for all men ...
A. 23 September 2009: Many women will at some point end up with sagging breasts. Children, weight, age...etc.. I think that you should learn to love yourself... and also if your bf is put off by them then you can buy sexy lingerie to give you crazy cleavage and push them ... (read in full...)
How can somebody live a lie forever?
Q. I am a married man who has been happily married for 12 years. I recently met a married woman who has been with her partner for the same amount of time. We started as friends but the relationship quickly grew into love. Just love, not sex. ...
A. 23 September 2009: First and foremost... there is NO perfect love because no-one is perfect. The illusion of being perfect is because you do not live with her!! Its not easy to know the true person until you have lived with them for some time and I believe that this ... (read in full...)
She said she wants 3 days to decide about the future of our relationship.....what does this look like from an outsider's perspective?
Q. hello i have been with my girlfriend for 4 years now and recently we seem to have drifted apart a bit i spoke to her about this last night because it has been an on going thing now for a while. Just to give you a bit of back ground we've been on ...
A. 23 September 2009: You sound like such a lovely guy!! Well its always a worrying sign when a partner asks for space! The thing is to give it to her FULLY. You see people ask for space when they feel suffocated or maybe they start having doubts in their minds... so you ... (read in full...)
We fight all the time and there's abusive language...help!
Q. i have been in a relationship for the past four yeras and the guy does mean a lot to me.Though he loves me a lot,there's no proper understanding between us and every other day there's a fight and he can get really angry and use an abusive ...
A. 23 September 2009: I think its unfair to blame one partner... it takes 2 to tango. There is a communication problem and you two need to learn to vent your issues in a calm manner. Sit down with him, agree that you will each talk for a minute or two uniterrupted and ... (read in full...)
I was born with eczema, how to get over my embarassment?
Q. Hi, Im 14. I have a weird problem. I was born with eczema so ill have it all my life because in most cases it goes by the age of 7, my grandfather has it too. i dont like showing my legs because im embarassed by it because its on my arms and le...
A. 23 September 2009: I was born with eczema... I had it till I was 27 (I am 29 now). I used EVERYTHING to get rid of it but nothing worked until I tried Kinesiology. See I had it on my hands, arms and face. There was no way to hide it. And it was so bad it bled and ... (read in full...)
The man I love wont leave his wife for me and I feel so lonely!
Q. The man I'm in love with never told me that he would leave his wife.He pays all my bills,rent and still gives me extra money but,I'm just so lonely.He doesn't spend time with me like he use to in the beginning.He has keys to my house so he comes ...
A. 23 September 2009: Marriage is a promise before God. I don't want to be the preacher here but marriage should be respected! Couples will go through hard times because of CHEATING, communication problems, boredom...etc but really I believe that you should let this man ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tells me that I'm ugly and I look anorexic with no boobs!
Q. my boyfriend tells me that im ugly have no boobs and that im starting to look like im anorexic. i have already tried splitting up with him that lasted about 6 months and now i been with him over 2 years all together and i cant get over him. Please ...
A. 23 September 2009: You CANNOT and SHOULD NOT let anyone talk to you in this way! I don't care how much you love him... He will ruin your self image and self esteem. Do yourself a favour and tell him to go jump in a lake... you have to be stronger than him in order for ... (read in full...)
I'm married but my ex boyfriend who claims he loves me keeps cancelling our dates! Why?
Q. i have a complicated story, well my boyfriend and i broke up years ago cause i found out that he cheated on me and got some girl pregnant. i finished the relationship as soon as i found out. He tried to convince me that that it was not his baby but ...
A. 22 September 2009: I agree with Samurai Girl. You need to stay away from your ex! You cannot run back to him now that your marriage didn't work out. These men have both hurt you. How does your husband feel? Does he want to work things out or are you trying to hurt ... (read in full...)
Why is it wrong to tell someone that their partner is a cheater?
Q. I have a question I would like views on please. With regard to finding out that a person has been having affairs all their married life........... Why is it so wrong to tell someone that their partner is a lying, cheating so and so? Why is it OK...
A. 22 September 2009: I think that it depends on your relationship with the person being cheated on. If you are very good friends then you should tell them that their partner is cheating. If however you hardly know this person then really you should mind your own ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend about the rape? I'm scared I will lose him
Q. Last year i was raped at a city bus stop. My mother and father both know about it, but my new boyfriend dosent. We just started going out 3 weeks ago and i dont no if i should tell him or not. "Rob" tells me everything and i want to to, but i just ...
A. 22 September 2009: I have 2 opinions and I will give you both:
Firstly, is this a relationship you are in already after 3 weeks? It may be too early to assume something serious so you don't have to tell him anything yet.
On the other hand, the longer you hold ... (read in full...)
I'm desperate! I don't want to lose her...
Q. I just joined this site, out of desperation. I really need help on this issue. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 2 years now. I have always been jealous and a bit insecure, because she is very attractive and i'm not all that. Deep inside ...
A. 22 September 2009: I think what everyone is saying in a way is that ITS UP TO HER to come back to you. So you have to work on yourself and see if she wants to be with the new you. You cannot make someone come back to you if they are not happy with your behaviour at ... (read in full...)
I'm desperate! I don't want to lose her...
Q. I just joined this site, out of desperation. I really need help on this issue. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 2 years now. I have always been jealous and a bit insecure, because she is very attractive and i'm not all that. Deep inside ...
A. 21 September 2009: What a tough one. Well you will not win her back by doing the same things that made her leave. You really have to be different and make a commitment to change. Everybody needs the space to be themselves so the first thing is to lose the fear of ... (read in full...)
Can I really move on from this betrayal?
Q. My husband (then 32) and I (then 35) met 5 years ago when he was at a very low point in his life and had recently left his mentally and physically abusive first wife. It really was love at first sight for both of us and we have had what I thought ...
A. 29 April 2008: Trust takes a while to build up so don't be too hard on yourself. It's never easy to accept that someone who loves you can hurt you. You have to accept that what he did was wrong. Be angry about it if you have to but you also have to accept that ... (read in full...)
Am I irrational for feeling second best to my boyfriend's ex?
Q. I seem to have developed an irrational second best feeling to my boyfriends ex. They were together several years and had a little boy together, he obviously sees her for contact with his little boy/ to pay maintanance, but I often find him doing ...
A. 27 March 2008: I don't think that you are necessarily 2nd best. The thing to remember always is that he had a life before he met you. And you are a reasonable person you don't want him to have a bad relationship with the mother of his child. This woman may be ... (read in full...)
How do you know when you're going to be with someone forever????
Q. How do you know when your going to be with someone forever????...
A. 27 March 2008: You really don't know that. The thing to focus on is each day at a time and building towards forever with the choices you make at each stage. It's possible to be with someone till the end but it takes work and dedication and the will to make it ... (read in full...)
Should I leave him for messing me around or go back to him?
Q. Hiya ... Me and my recent boyfriend have broken up i was only with him for a short period of time but i cant figure out why he finishd with me .. I know my ex before was trying to split us up but he swore down it was nothing to do with him .. ...
A. 27 November 2007: Someone once told me... a man will tell you more with his actions than his words. Why does he want to break things off then talk about it after? He seems one who isn't sure what he wants. My advice is to leave it. Maybe that will help him set his ... (read in full...)
I want my ex back. Do I show her I want her, or play hard to get?
Q. Last weekend I split up with my girlfriend of 15 months; she said that although I am "perfect in every way", there is simply "something missing" and that as long as she feels that way she will not be entirely happy in the relationship. This came as ...
A. 26 November 2007: My advice to you is send her a message telling her that you care alot about her but you will respect her decision to break it off and then DON'T CONTACT HER. See I know from experience that the only way to really know what someone was contributing ... (read in full...)
He's a serial cheater, but I want to be with him , how can I trust him though?
Q. My longterm boyfriend (just over 4 yrs) has lied to me many times about things relating to other women (who he is with, how close they are, etc). Often times I find out about these events through other people- he never comes forward until I catch ...
A. 20 November 2007: In my experience, love on its own is not enough. It has to be supported by trust and respect. Without one of these there will always be problems. There is much to be said about why you would continue to be with someone you do not trust. You say you ... (read in full...)
He cheated twice, then left me, but we still love each other , should I take him back?
Q. My husband had an affair January 2006 which went on for 6 months and I found out about it when it finished. We tried to make it work but he lied and cheated again and in Janaruy 2007 he left. He then started seeing her again I really thought it was ...
A. 16 November 2007: Everybody deserves a chance. What people choose to do with those chances is up to them. This guy it seems believes that he will always have another chance. Thats why he can come and go all the time. So we won't talk about him and his needs... Its ... (read in full...)
We met after a disagreement, it passed a week and he hasn't called yet. I am confused, is he expecting me to call?...
Q. The man i date this year called me after a serious disagreement we had. However, I agreed to meet him so we met. He was nice to me and i had the impression that we would meet again soon. It has passed a week and more and he hasn't called me yet. I ...
A. 14 November 2007: Don't read too much into the not calling. He has his reasons and no matter how much you rack your brain... you will never know them. Maybe he needs time to get over the disagreement - who knows? Maybe just be a little patient and see if he comes ... (read in full...)
I think she's too beautiful to stand a chance with. Hearing her confessions about a boy she likes, what should I do?
Q. Hey Basically, i have known this friend of a friend of mine off msn for a long time, and recently i met her in person, we get along fine and she is great fun to hang around with, only thing is she seems me as a friend at the moment, and i think...
A. 14 November 2007: If a person has the right attitude, looks can mean very little. You should not put yourself down and think that she is above your level. No-one knows why we pick the people we love and believe me not all of mine were because of their looks! Be open ... (read in full...)
I'm not coping and I'm so confused. What can I do?
Q. Well my boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago now. We had been together for 2 years and had been engaged for over a year. We were a perfect couple but things started to go wrong when i kept falling out with him over stupid things and now i hate ...
A. 9 November 2007: Its not an easy position. But you have to focus positively on yourself before you can draw the strength to fix things with him. You will not get things right if you are at a level of OD's! Try to find yourself first. It worries me that you blame ... (read in full...)
Bf says stress and fatigue has him confused about everything in his life, including our relationship - and claimed it's only a pause. Should I ignore his calls meanwhile?
Q. My boyfriend recently asked for a break because he says stress and fatigue has him confused about everything in his life, including our relationship. I asked whether or not he was just trying to ease his way into a break uo but he claims that he ...
A. 8 November 2007: I would seriously stop answering his calls. BUT tell him beforehand that he has made a decision to break up with you and now he has to let you go. Then tell him that you will no longer be speaking to him. This I can promise you will get a reaction ... (read in full...)
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