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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My ex of 5 months broke up in August. He rebounded and contacted me immediately after. We hadn't talked during that time. We went to a movie and we acted the same as before. We hung out a few times since then but not as often as when we were dating (aka everyday). The past few times hanging out, he did subtle things like taking my hand to have me feel something, cracking eachother's backs, and crawled over me while I was laying down to show me something. Like I said, very subtle things. But they felt intimate in a way. It's felt like he's nervous around me and flirting, but he's always adorable like that.We spend time watching movies and being cute but it doesn't feel like our relationship is moving at a pace that suggests we're getting back together. He doesn't ask me to hang out, it's usually me, except the first time after his rebound. He usually texts me first during the day bc I try to be distant and not needy, you know the drill.Don't confuse this as him being a player or just using me for sex. We barely touch eachother and he's not a freak.Any way, could anyone suggest some psychological ways of pulling us back together? I'm on the right track, I just need some motivation or advice! Despite being broken and dealing with the rebound, I'm still in love with him. I just think he's confused :THANKS!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 December 2011):
 I'm sorry but it's just a "filler" situation until he finds someone to move on with...
IF he wanted you back together you would be together. This is the easy way for him to ease out of the relationship. He does not have to be alone and yet he does not have to be officially with you...
You say you ask to be with him. Stop asking and see what happens.... does he initiate the dates? the contact? or does he just wait for you to do so?
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reader, Mariab  +, writes (18 December 2011):
 Be careful with this situation! As you say he is confused and he may be needing JUST a friend and no more... Give him time to deal with the closure of his past relationship before you make plans to win him back! If you push things... you could ruin chances at a longer term relationship with this guy.
I think the best thing that any person can tell you about "winning" a guy (esp. one you love) is to be yourself! Good luck xx
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