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Should I take the manager position?
Q. im 19 yrs old i work at supre and i got offered the manager position , i dont know if i should take it or study my uai was 76 and i think that if i stop studying im not goin to feel like doing it later on . The things that i like doing are working ...
A. 9 January 2007: wow your soo lucky to be offerd that position, you must be really good at your job. In the past i tried to get a job at supre but did not get in but i hope in the future i get the postion you where just offered. i think you should go with what you ... (read in full...)
How do I get my wife to allow me to fulfill my fantasy??
Q. How do I go about fulfilling my fantasy of watching another guy do my wife? We do roleplay this, but I wonder if she would ever actually do it for me. ...
A. 3 October 2006: My bf has a similar fantasy, the problem is I would feel like i would be cheating and I sometimes think maybe he only wants me to do that so he can blackmail me into letting him sleep with another women. doing that sorta thing will change the ... (read in full...)
Will vomiting cause the "pill" to be ineffective?
Q. I'm on the pill and i just want to know, If I vomit will my pill be ineffective? I was pretty sure it will be, but my bf thinks otherwise to now I'm not sure....
A. 3 October 2006: It can, more then likely it will.... (read in full...)
Ideas needed for my bf's 23 rd birthday. Something romantic (non-sexual) and not too intense.
Q. Would appreciate any suggestions of something really special I could do for my boyfriend's 23rd birthday (non sexual cos we aren't there yet!) in a few months. Something romantic and sweet (not involving vast sums of money as we both don't have ...
A. 29 August 2006: maybe you could get a nice frame and put some photos of you 2 together in them, or if he is a person who likes to drink maybe get him a nice flask and have his name in craved on it, if he likes to play card games maybe get him a nice poker chip and ... (read in full...)
We had sex with no condom..but he didn't ejaculate. I am so scared of being pregnant! Advice needed.
Q. my boyfriend and i had sex for the fist time yesterday. we didnt use a condom, but he didnt cum. im still scared of being pregnant. can someone help me? what do I do....
A. 29 August 2006: go to a chemist and get yourself an emergency morning after pill, if your worried about being pregnant take a home pregnancy test or go to your gp and get a test.... (read in full...)
His friend is freaking me out!
Q. My bf and i have been together almost 3 years, the problems is not with our relationship (its great) the problem is with my bf's male friend. my bf's friend has stayed at our home countless times in the past and my bf has recently told me some thi...
A. 10 August 2006: Thanks all for everyone's thoughs, I think keeping away from his friend is the best idea, it makes me feel so awkard and embrrassed. and i think davidLewis and snowbird have a good point about the threesome thing because a couple of days after he ... (read in full...)
His friend is freaking me out!
Q. My bf and i have been together almost 3 years, the problems is not with our relationship (its great) the problem is with my bf's male friend. my bf's friend has stayed at our home countless times in the past and my bf has recently told me some thi...
A. 9 August 2006: Its not my bf making anything up, i know this because one of my other boyfriends friends told me at a seperate time he also herd ths guy say things about my underware and went into great detail about it to him and a large group of males. i did ask ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't swallow. Can I talk her around to seeing it my way?
Q. hiya, I was just wondering. I have been going out with my gilfriend for 3 years and I really want her to swallow my cum. Are there any ways in whichI can get her to do this? Thanx...
A. 30 May 2006: Wow i have never seen a post go on and on for this long before, for all we know the poster of the question may not even be in that relationship anymore lol.Poor guy i hope he did'nt tick the "Send alerts when your question is replied too?" or else ... (read in full...)
Mum has crossed the line. She puts me down and snoops in my stuff!
Q. I am a seventeen year old girl. I am getting really fed up with my mum! She is constantly on at me about stupid things (apparently I'm lazy (I do all the housework), fat (bit of a podgy stomach but I am happy with it, why can't she be?). She is...
A. 26 May 2006: ok sorry i didnt see the bit of you being 17, but still i hope iv helped in some way :)... (read in full...)
Mum has crossed the line. She puts me down and snoops in my stuff!
Q. I am a seventeen year old girl. I am getting really fed up with my mum! She is constantly on at me about stupid things (apparently I'm lazy (I do all the housework), fat (bit of a podgy stomach but I am happy with it, why can't she be?). She is...
A. 26 May 2006: Well i dunno really what to say about this one, I think mostly id like to know how old you are?.
I think all teenagers do house work for there parents, i know when i lived with mine there was certain things i was responsable for. All parents snoo... (read in full...)
What else can I do to catch his eye, so he'll appreciate the New Me?
Q. I haven't seen the lad I fancy for months and the next time I see him will be in a month. I want to impress him that I have changed, and look much nicer than I did before. So I have dyed my hair back to its original colour, which looks much bet...
A. 26 May 2006: Well its sounds like your a really confident person with you new found changes, which is great. i think you should emphesize on what you have, maybe put your hair back with a nice clip,and maybe use some makeup around the eyes just so they stand out ... (read in full...)
How can i keep my affair a secret from my sister and my boyfriend?
Q. hi i am 21 and livin with my sister whos married in london.i ve been having a secret sexual realationship with my sisters husband and he tells me that he likes me just for sex and i too like him to have sex with me only.i have a boyfriend also and ...
A. 26 May 2006: Wow ok, i can't beleave what i just read. Do you not care about your boyfriend and your sister? She is your sister for crying out loud your blood, Do you not have any morals?... (read in full...)
Made a mistake and visited when he said not to. Was I really that wrong?
Q. My boyfriend works every single day. He gets up at 4 am and goes to sleep when he gets home. One day he was home so I called him and asked him if I could come see him. He said no but I went anyways because I feel like I never see him. His grandma ...
A. 25 May 2006: Well yea it was wrong to wake him up like that, are you sure he works everyday? he must get some time off at some point. 4am can be a diffcult time to get up and go to work and its understandable he would be tired when he gets hom.
But aside from... (read in full...)
For the males... Being a dad, a privelage or problem??
Q. hello i just wanted a mans opinion, if a man decides to have nothing to do with you if they get you pregnant do they ever think about there child at all or do they have no feelings towards it at all...
A. 24 May 2006: I always ask myself that question aswell, because im 19 going on 20 and well my real dad left my mother when he found out she was pregnant with me, almost 20 years on and he has made no attempt to even have anything to do with me, it really hurts ... (read in full...)
Can a condom cause pain?
Q. Can using a condom make sex more painful? I'm planning sex and I'm on the pill. I'm aware of the STI risks of not using a condom but I don't want to use one if it is going to make anything less pleasurable. ...
A. 24 May 2006: use alot of lub because if you dont it can hurt after awhile, sometimes maybe trying different types of condoms are fun and also a good way of finding what is more comfortable for the two of you, you can get studded condoms, flavoured,ice,ribbed, ... (read in full...)
He likes me shaved, but it hurts....what can I do?
Q. My bf has a shaved pussy fetish. I met his needs, but it bleeds a lot when i shave and it stings. I want to keep it up for him though. What do i do? ...
A. 24 May 2006: My bf and i had the same problem, but a visit to the chemist i was able to come across a special cream and shaver made just for shaving that area and it works like a charm, no more bleeding or pain and it last just as long as a wax would and if ... (read in full...)
I wish I was skinnier as I would be more attractive then
Q. Hi. I have a problem. I believe that if i become skinnier that people will become more attracted to me. I am 5 7" age:16 and i weigh 137 pounds. so i have started to become bulimic i dont do it everyday though just when i feel like i have eating too ...
A. 24 May 2006: Well your not really fat at all to be honest your already at your ideal body weight for your height, work out abit at the gym or at home and tone some muscle and i can tell you that guys love a well sculpted body.
I had similar thoughs about my weig... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated when he was drunk...was it his fault?
Q. i am 16 and never been drunk. do people know what they are doing when they are drunk? cos my bf cheated on me while he was drunk - one of his mates told me. he said he was SO drunk but he got off with this girl and i dont know if he knew what he was ...
A. 23 May 2006: People dont know what they are doing when they are drunk but they do know what is happening before they get drunk, it was your bf's choice to drink that much and it was his choice to be at that place and around those people when he decided to get ... (read in full...)
Everyone seemed to forget my birthday. It was crap.
Q. Some may think this selfish, but hell, my birthday today was crap. It seemed like everyone had forgotten. We are going on holiday this week but still. The house wasn't the same as normally, my mother got my cake today. I dunno it just seemed poor. ...
A. 23 May 2006: Happy Birthday to you for yesterday, sorry to hear you had such a crap birthday, i know how it feels, maybe when the big birdays like the 18th and 21st come along people might make abit more effort for you, on my 19th my bf and i had a major fight ... (read in full...)
Sex whilst on a period... what do you think?
Q. do all guys hate/dont mind sleeping with a girl when she has her period? im always extra horny at this time and although i try to not let anything happen i cant resist my boyfriends roaming hands at this time, i even forget its that time off the ...
A. 19 May 2006: i must admit iv only had sex once or twice on my period due to the fact sex during that time of month is very painful for me and i actually pass out, but my man is not totally into anyway and it jiat creats a yukky mess. in terms of anal sex, well i ... (read in full...)
Shaving fantasy
Q. Why are guys so fascinated in women shaving? My boyfriend wants me to and he's given me a few reasons i just wondered if anyone could enlighten me further. thanks...
A. 19 May 2006: Do it if thats what you want to do, dont do it because you are being pressured into it, and really its not a big deal, if you dont like it just let it grow back, i can tell you its not that bad. and my bf loves it because he thinks it makes me feel ... (read in full...)
These are my vitals. Am I hot... or not?
Q. Hey guys Do you think iam attractive basicslly these are my vital stats iam 28 years old 5ft inches tall dark skinned dark eyes asian origin short to medium length hair my dress size is size 6 to 8 but mainly an eight my shoe size is 4 Pl...
A. 19 May 2006: Well i calculated your BMI and your tiny, if anything put on some weight, i would not worry about if your attractive or not, unless your going into the modeling business, its sad but true, as humans we do judge on first apperances,everyone does ... (read in full...)
Married for 5 years but I think she is seeing someone else... and I've fallen for another woman!
Q. well i have been married for about 5 years now the first 3 where great but here latly my wife and i all we do is fight and call each other names i come home from a hard days work and she leaves she don't even tell me where she is going and 3 or 4 ...
A. 15 May 2006: Ah typical, a relationship becomes rocky and both man and wife seem to think the best way and the easiest way out is to take other avenues instead of fixing there current relationship. She may or may not be cheating, she might be going to yoga or ... (read in full...)
Do I lose the weight to make myself feel better, is it all in my mind?
Q. I feel like I'm being pressured into losing weight. I've always had a thing about my weight, from being bullied about my weight throughout my childhood, but truth be told, I'm not fat, and I'm not thin, but yet I feel like I have to lose weight or ...
A. 28 April 2006: who is pressuring you into losing weight? not all guys like really skinny girls, truth be told some prefer a women with abit of meat on her,i think if you eat health, do regular exersise and just be yourself then the boys will start to be ... (read in full...)
I can't say NO to others and I hate it! Advice needed badly.
Q. Hey there. I have a problem with being assertive. I mean, I can't ever say no because I'm so afraid of hurting people or seeing their reactions. I can't ever say no and I wish I could. The other day my friend asked me to go into town with her but I ...
A. 28 April 2006: you just need to be honest with people, you can't make everyone happy, its ok to say no and i can say from experience its better to be honest then lie, i had a friend just like you she would never say no or tell you the truth abut her feelings, she ... (read in full...)
Help me understand what kind of person am I to cheat on my bf?
Q. I am a 20yr old mother of one eight month old.My boyfriend works all the time and mostly has interest only for his son when he visits us.I thought I had lost interest in sex till I was told by a guy that I worked with that he was attracted to me.I ...
A. 28 April 2006: well by the sounds of things the relationship with your current bf of 5 years is not going so well, im sure if you two were communicating, sharing values and having an active sex life then you would not be cheating, 5 years is along time to be ... (read in full...)
How can I change my partners unfaithfull ways?
Q. When this guy asked me out in December i was weary, as i'd heard a lot of stories about him treating girlfriends badly. I confronted him and he said he felt really bad, he knows it was wrong, he was doing a lot of coke at the time and it made him ...
A. 24 April 2006: the only person that can help this guy is himself and you cant change anyone. but it seems to me that he had made some better choices with his life, you said he has stopped using drugs which is a good sign, i think your letting his past get to ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for sex to hurt... I feel so embarrassed!
Q. Hey, I'm 20 and i've been with my boyfriend for 18 months now. I had sex for the first time after 4 mnths of being with him. The problem is it still hurts initially when we do it so this puts me off. Is this normal or have I got some kind of ...
A. 24 April 2006: don't totally believe its normal, i though the same thing but it turns out i have endometriosis and when my bf and i have sex if he touches certain places inside me it hurts badly and makes me feel sick, maybe visit your gynecologist for an ... (read in full...)
I want a bit of fun with my bfs best mate!!
Q. I met my boyfriend at work he is a chef and his best mate is also a chef at the same place, im all loved up with my boyfriend but the past month or so ive felt somthing for his best mate. We all went to the pub one night when we got paid and my b...
A. 12 April 2006: i agree with martini for once with this one, its sick and wrong and you should not be doing that,thats emotional cheating at its best,like ill admit sure my bf has some cute looking friends and i have though to myself wow his pretty cute but i never ... (read in full...)
I have copper hair-my hairdresser wants to add blonde hilites. What do you think?
Q. hi i have copper hair and have had it like this for three years im happy with it as it fades nicely and its nice and straight .my hairdreeser wants to put in blonde highlights do u think i should? ...
A. 12 April 2006: no i think you should leave it... (read in full...)
My friend misled me into attending a sex-toy sales party, even after she knew I had a horrible sexual experience!
Q. Hi, I have a problem hopeing you guys could help. My best friend invited me to this party last Sat night that she said was going to be like a party for women and a party geared to sell stuff for women, like bubblebath, lotion, or underwear and stuf...
A. 12 April 2006: you need to just sit with her and explain to her your feelings, i agree with anon i really don't think she did that on purpose, i have been to a sex toy party and it was really just a fun excuse to get together with the girls and drink wine and eat ... (read in full...)
I love blowing all my wages on shoes, clothing, etc. How do I begin to start budgeting? All ideas welcome.
Q. ok this may not seem like a huge problem, but it is to me...basically, I can't stop spending money. Whenever i have money I am itching to spend it, just to buy things, not because i actually need stuff. When my wages come through, the first th...
A. 11 April 2006: you have to be really strict with yourself, my bf has always complemented me on being so good with saving my money and not wasting it, i came from a poor family had to get a job and learnt to only save for more important things that i really needed, ... (read in full...)
I have a major crush on a teacher. He gave me a lift home and we kissed!
Q. Is it wrong for a 13 year old to have a major crush on a teacher? I asked him to give me a lift home the other day as I told him I was getting bullied, as I know he is kind and would believe me. So he did and we kissed. I really liked it but every ...
A. 10 April 2006: It's becoming very sad on how many young teenagers are coming to this website and telling us there story of an inipropriate relationship there having with there teacher(s), it makes me sick knowing that the education system is not doing enough to ... (read in full...)
My long term boyfriend just decided we're not compatible!
Q. I just broke up from my relationship of 6yrs. it isnt easy for me i have put everything in this. Right now i can think of nothing expect revenge. He was my first love and he promised me marriage. He says i am a very good and genuine person but i am ...
A. 10 April 2006: darling this man does not deserve you, i know this advice i'm going to give you is going to be hard but i think its for the best, first off you need to just ignore and have nothing to do with this man his a horrible person, i know you love him but ... (read in full...)
I stayed after school and ended up having sex with my ICT teacher!
Q. I really fancy my ICT teacher. Then last night I stayed at school late to finish my dida (ICT ) coursework, and during that time, me and my teacher were talking and he leaned over and kissed me. We ended up having sex and now I don't know what to ...
A. 7 April 2006: To female anon on the 6th of april, yes it may have been consentual but the fact of the matter here is that he has abused his power as a teacher. and yes we all mature and develope at our own speeds but that does not give a teacher the right to have ... (read in full...)
He looks 10 years older than he really is and we get odd looks from people.Should I still date him?
Q. Hi everybody...ok to get to the point. There is this one guy I know who is very sweet and caring. I am 19 and he is 25, which isnt a problem at all except for one thing. He looks like hes 35(he dresses older, he is losing his hair already, etc..)but ...
A. 7 April 2006: If you really like this guy age should not matter, my bf and i have the same problem his 25 and i'm 20 but i look about 16 so he gets alot of dirty looks from some narrow minded people, don't worry after time this sorta thing does'nt become a ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that my bf takes photographs of strange women in skirts?
Q. My boyfriend takes photographs of strangers (women) going to work, because he likes women in skirts? Should I be worried, he also looks at women on the internet in nice underwear, that i was not so bothered about until i found the other photographs ...
A. 6 April 2006: Not only should you be worried but id be calling the police or something because thats stalking, thats just sick.... (read in full...)
Scared that my former model and current suburban queen of a mother will hate my tubby, scruffy, unemployed new man!
Q. so, i met this guy this past october. since then - and, initially, despite my reluctance - we've become extremely close ("close" meaning serious marriage talk). i never thought that i was capable of loving someone so strongly: not the problem. ...
A. 5 April 2006: ok well first of all your 25 years old women your an adult what business is it of your mothers on who you can and cannot date?, who cares about what she or anyone thinks, you love this guy and you want to be with him thats all that should matter if ... (read in full...)
Why should she be annoyed now we are no longer together??
Q. Hey guys, maybe some of you are familiar with my situation, I have posted several times before about my breakup and you've been a great help. My ex is on the rebound with another guy and I'm still in love. Here's the latest: She was singing ...
A. 5 April 2006: wow, i'm really happy to see that your trying to move on a little from her, big improvment since your last posting, instead of trying to spend any time you can with her your making other plans, moving on and spending time with other friends. i agree ... (read in full...)
Our son wants to work at McDonalds for the rest of his life!!!
Q. I am worried about my 18-year-old son. He is at university, and I am worried about his lack of ambition after he leaves. He is doing very well academically; however, when I asked him what he wants to do when he leaves, he said he wants to work at M...
A. 5 April 2006: i agree with harshbutfair give him a few more years and he will hate the place, the problem with places like that is it gets boring, he will at some point want to do more with his life and try new things, that kinda job gets repetitive and does'nt ... (read in full...)
I stayed after school and ended up having sex with my ICT teacher!
Q. I really fancy my ICT teacher. Then last night I stayed at school late to finish my dida (ICT ) coursework, and during that time, me and my teacher were talking and he leaned over and kissed me. We ended up having sex and now I don't know what to ...
A. 30 March 2006: i felt abit sick after reading that, i feel really sorry for you, as you have been taken advantage of and you don't even realise it but your only 15 and he should know better, this teacher of yours is a pedophile (sorry i dont know if i spelt that ... (read in full...)
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