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I stayed after school and ended up having sex with my ICT teacher!
Q. I really fancy my ICT teacher. Then last night I stayed at school late to finish my dida (ICT ) coursework, and during that time, me and my teacher were talking and he leaned over and kissed me. We ended up having sex and now I don't know what to ...
A. 7 April 2006: To female anon on the 6th of april, yes it may have been consentual but the fact of the matter here is that he has abused his power as a teacher. and yes we all mature and develope at our own speeds but that does not give a teacher the right to have ... (read in full...)
Our son wants to work at McDonalds for the rest of his life!!!
Q. I am worried about my 18-year-old son. He is at university, and I am worried about his lack of ambition after he leaves. He is doing very well academically; however, when I asked him what he wants to do when he leaves, he said he wants to work at M...
A. 5 April 2006: i agree with harshbutfair give him a few more years and he will hate the place, the problem with places like that is it gets boring, he will at some point want to do more with his life and try new things, that kinda job gets repetitive and does'nt ... (read in full...)
I want to give him the lap-dance he asked for, and to be a better kisser!
Q. My boyfriend wants a lap dance. I have no idea how the hell to gave one and I want it to be special. So do you have any tips that will really make him go crazy? Also lately my boyfriend has been not that good when it comes to making out? How do y...
A. 5 April 2006: i have done a lapdance once for my boyfriend,i suggest something sexy like a uniform to start with a nurse outfit, school uniform, dress up like someting like a police women or doctor or something like that, sit him down in chair then, slowly take ... (read in full...)
My straight boyfriend works in a gay bar and flirts with the guys!
Q. My boyfriend is working in a gay bar although he is straight. During the day he works out at a local gym and he looks good. He says a lot of guys come on to him and admits he likes it. He says I am stupid to be jealous because he would never ever...
A. 5 April 2006: hi, i really don't think you have to much to worry about, i think your bf is just flirting a bit for the extra money and would not go any further with it,he is straight if he is with you, just thank you lucky stars he does'nt work for a normal bar ... (read in full...)
My bf dated my sister and me at the same time..how do I find out what they did without it looking like I don't trust him?
Q. okay i just found out my boyfriend and my sister were dating while i was dating him. and i am unsure how far they went together and if he expects the same from me. i have forgiven them both but i wish i knew how to ask "bob" what they did without ...
A. 31 March 2006: understandable that you want to know all the details but i think for one it will just gross you out, 2 it may make you feel more upset and then finding yourself unable to forgive and 3 you will find yourself trying to go that one bit further , i ... (read in full...)
What's his game does he want me or not?
Q. I met a fantastic guy in june last year which i fell for. It was going really well and after six weeks his friends were asking me questions about where the relationship was going. I confronted him to which he replied that he was not looking for a ...
A. 31 March 2006: i think this game he is playing is somewhat very cruel, i hate to say this but i get this feeling he may just be using you for sex and some flirting,its like he wants all the fun with no strings attached. i think you should stop replying to his text ... (read in full...)
I'm not quite sure if he's flirting with me or just being nice....
Q. Dose this mean he is flirting with me? He is my colleague and I'm not sure if he fancy me or not. Becasue he is a married man so I don't know the words or the way he treated me is normal or something special because I am quiet youger than h...
A. 31 March 2006: yea not sure if he is flirting, he could be just a really polite guy,i agree with anon i would not take this further, if he is flirting, personally i would not try anything and if you was to flirt back he might take it the wrong way because he was ... (read in full...)
I stayed after school and ended up having sex with my ICT teacher!
Q. I really fancy my ICT teacher. Then last night I stayed at school late to finish my dida (ICT ) coursework, and during that time, me and my teacher were talking and he leaned over and kissed me. We ended up having sex and now I don't know what to ...
A. 30 March 2006: i felt abit sick after reading that, i feel really sorry for you, as you have been taken advantage of and you don't even realise it but your only 15 and he should know better, this teacher of yours is a pedophile (sorry i dont know if i spelt that ... (read in full...)
I want to believe badly that her new man is only a rebound!
Q. Hey guys, I've asked a few questions before, so a lot of you probably know what my situation is. My ex means so much to me and I'd like to maintain hope. Here's the thing, I think that she might think that she is in love with her rebound guy ...
A. 30 March 2006: ok, well first off yes i think the easter gift is too much, second yes understandable that your pissed of that she is not getting enough time set aside for but she has a new relationship with someone else she just can't put it on hold just for you. ... (read in full...)
What is cum supposed to taste or smell like? How can you tell if it's normal or not?
Q. What is cum supposed to taste like? or smell like? whats right? and how would you know if something wasnt right with it?...
A. 29 March 2006: what ever you do dont drink rum or beer, when my bf does and then i give him a head job the cum taste bad, try eatting some fruit.... (read in full...)
Which guy do I choose? The new guy is great but I love my ex bf! Help me
Q. Several days ago my boyfriend and i got back together after splitting up two weeks previously. The reason for our break up was because he cheated on me twice, the second time after he'd just dropped me home from an evening out with friends and ...
A. 28 March 2006: im going to be totally honest with you, i think that you need to face the reality of this situation you have with your boyfriend,you say that you don't want to be hurt by your boyfriend again yet he has already told you that he can't be faithful and ... (read in full...)
Yikes! My Mom is thinking of sending me to bootcamp! What should I do??
Q. I snuck over to my boyfriends house and my mom found out and my mom's thinking about sending me to bootcamp what should I do?...
A. 28 March 2006: parents always say stuff like that when you do something you should not have done, its just a threat parents don't usually act on it,usually they just ground you or ban you from going out for a month. i remember my dad would say to me "if you do ... (read in full...)
We're engaged but I used a fake AOL screen name and found out he's looking for more! Am I being deceitful?
Q. I made an aol screen name to talk to my fiance to check to see if he was cheating on me.. Am I deceitful to do that??... The story is.. I'm a full-time office assistant in the morning and a student by night and on top of that i'm a mother of two....
A. 28 March 2006: NO your not being deceitful, he is. i think you should print out copies of all the coversations you have had with him and leave them were he wil see them and pack up your stuff and leave, he will totally freak out. he is cheating on you and you can ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a person to tell you "let's keep our relationship a secret". What do you think?
Q. Is it normal for someone that you just started dating to tell you to keep your relationship a secret?...
A. 28 March 2006: Its not common but it does happen, i had a few b/f's in school who would say lets just keep our relationship a secret for now, it turns out they just did'nt want people to know they were going out with a nerd :( one of them i went out with in secret ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be pregant even though my bf didn't cum??
Q. Hey, I'm 16 and me and my 19 year old bf had unprotected sex yesterday. Even though he never actually cums he was about to yesterday and he had to stop because of it anyway even tho he didn't cum I am just wonderring if I could still be pregnant? Is ...
A. 27 March 2006: yes you can, it is called pre-cum, and it happen to me, my b/f and had un protected sex for about 10mins and then we had to stop and he didnt get to cum and then 2 weeks later i found out i was pregnant, if you do have unprotected sex again or a ... (read in full...)
16 years old and in love with a 29 year old woman!!
Q. hi im 16 year old male.and ive fell in love with a 29 year old woman,we have been getting on so well and i really like her but the age gap doesnt matter to me but to her it dose can u help plz cause i really want to make ago of it with her and i kn...
A. 27 March 2006: This is a really sticky situation, usually id say yeah go for it but your 16 years old you should be focusing on your school/study not women. what would happen if you did get together and she feel pregnant? would you be ready to become a father at ... (read in full...)
He's hit me, slept with my best friend and is bullying me into working harder. Am I being treated unfairly or is it all in my head?
Q. i have been with my partner now for 3 and a half years, we have a daughter together and she is 2, just lately he addmitted to me that he had slept with my best friend, in the past he has hit me, threatend me and i am scared of him when he has had a ...
A. 24 March 2006: First of all this sounds like a very abusive relationship not just mentally but physically aswell, secondly this is not all in your head, you are being treated unfairly and your partner is just walking all over you like a door mat, your asking us ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my anxiety to want to be with her all the time?
Q. Help! I'm trying to understand and get control of my anxiety! Here's the -rather complicated- situation: My girlfriend is going through a divorce although has not yet moved out of her ex's place as she is waiting for her new apartment to...
A. 23 March 2006: i think that its very normal for you to be feeling anxiety , your feeling restless because you cant be with her and its diffcult to not want to be with her when she is working around you. i think when she leaves her job it will be for the best ... (read in full...)
I'm too young for sex. What other options do I have?
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm 12 and i really want to have sex but I'm too young. Is it okay to masturbate or is there any other options?...
A. 23 March 2006: its very common for younger people to want sex ,as people are hitting puberty as young as 10 years old these days, i would really suggest waiting till your 16 so you can learn more about sex. i agree with dr good advice maybe just focus on some ... (read in full...)
When we first met he was an exciting, bubbly person and told me what every girl wants to hear... Then he dumped me!
Q. Hi there, I'm 19 and I've just been dumped by my first serious boyfriend and I am so confused because I just don't know how to deal with it. He said he wanted to be single because he couldn't handle the emotions. He has had past relationships and ...
A. 22 March 2006: sadly we cant just get over relationships over nite but some ideas to help you with getting over him would be maybe take up some hobbies, maybe join a gym if you havent already,surrounding yourself with friends and family is also good because you ... (read in full...)
I need some exercise advise. Please help!
Q. Hello. Need some exercise advice. I'm in good shape. OK, honestly, can be better, and I have potential to have a really nice figure, but find myself going to the gym one week and not the next week, therefore I end up in square one. I need to...
A. 22 March 2006: Its great to see that your intrested in getting fit and keeping healthy, going to the gym is great, get yourself into a routine in one week then mix it up the next so it doesnt get boring, i go to the gym 3 times a week plus on weekends i do some ... (read in full...)
Do his commenst mean we may be more than friends?
Q. Hi, recently a guy that i know has said things such as: "you are a very special person", and "u bring out the best in me" "i feel comfortable talking to you" and various other comments. I was just wondering what this meant, does he value our frie...
A. 22 March 2006: i agree with hopeful with this one, there is that small chance that his just being nice as a friend but really i think his trying to send you hints that he likes you for you, if you like him maybe flirt a little and see what type of response you ... (read in full...)
He dedicated a song to me... What does it mean?
Q. me and my friends went this this acoustic thing , basically, there was a guy who was in singing in the band, I spoke to him for a bit, but not much. My friends said I was flirting with him , and that he is so into me, which i didn't take much notice ...
A. 22 March 2006: i think thats a very sweet way of him trying to tell you that his intrested, i think that you should pursue this guy, that would have taken alot of confidence from him to dedicate a song to you but its very sweet and its obvious that he likes you so ... (read in full...)
I don't believe he will change and I can't stand it any longer!
Q. hi everyone,im really fed up with my boyfriend and in need of some advice. iv been with my him for 8 month,i really dont know how we have lasted that long to be honest!!!!! he is 2 year older than me but not wanting to sound big headed i am a lot ...
A. 22 March 2006: people dont change, they can develope in areas but he will never change, and you cant make people change, maybe let him know that your irritated that he does not take more responsibility and your finding yourself withdrawn from the relationship ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for gay guys to flirt with girls they don't fancy?
Q. I have a friend and his gay, the thing is he seems to flirt quite a bit with me. for example he would touch and sqeeze my leg, he wanted to give me a eskimo kiss, and he rub his face against mine, mirroring my body language. I dunno , is he ...
A. 22 March 2006: i had the same thing happen to me i though a friend was gay but he was'nt, maybe he isnt gay maybe bi sexual, i have a gay male friend who is in a serious gay relationship with a man but he has told me that he still finds women a major turn on and ... (read in full...)
She hasn't got a mobile or MSN. How can I get to know her?
Q. Dear Cupid, Last month I went to a careers interview and I sat next to this girl in a waiting room. Rather then just keeping quiet I started talking to her and I thought she was a nice person and got her name and what subjects she takes at school e...
A. 21 March 2006: why do you need a mobile and msn to get to know this girl? i know it makes it easier and less akward but i personally find that when a guy talks to you face to face its far more appealing and shows that your very instrested in getting to know that ... (read in full...)
I got drunk and snogged my online friend... in front of my boyfriend!
Q. I did something horribly wrong and stupid this past week and need advice very badly. This weekend my BF of 8 years and I went on a business trip. While on this trip I had the opportunity to meet an online male friend I've known for over 10 years, ...
A. 21 March 2006: First off i just have to say i really feel for your man, what pain he must being having from your actions. i think that this a major blow to your relationship and i think that your man is revaluating whats just happen and weather or not if he wants ... (read in full...)
Has anyone been too shy to approach or talk to someone they like? Is this common?
Q. Has anyone ever been in the situation where they really like someone but are too shy to approach them or to talk to them? Have you avoided being around the person you like because you were nervous? I ask this question because I wander to myself is ...
A. 21 March 2006: i had a situation like that with a guy i liked, im so shy so i could never talk to him or make eye contact, i did get flirting from him but nothing ever came from it, so after awhile i talked myself down and though he didnt like me becuase he didnt ... (read in full...)
I think it's over but I'm scared to make the "break-up" call...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for six years, i am now 21. Recently we have been going through a bad patch (about a month now) and i've been at uni so have had a chance to see theres more to life than struggling with a bad relationship. on the ot...
A. 20 March 2006: ok well first off yes love is essential but communcations and sharing values are also so important in a relationship, and i think if all of these are well balanced in a relationship then we have a successful relationship but really lets get with ... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into this email?
Q. What do you think? I really like this guy and I think he likes me. But I am not sure. We are both a board of a charity and yesterday afternoon we had a meeting and were discussing an idea with the whole group. Him and I disagreed on a tactic,...
A. 20 March 2006: i would not read to much into this, he may of just though of being polite after the debate and didnt want to leave it with any hard feelings and perhaps he wanted you to know that he was ok with the outcome even though he does not agree. but im ... (read in full...)
Should I have been flattered?!
Q. Hi, guys. I just want to know how I'm supposed to react to this.. My boyfriend and me have been together for almost a year now.. We live in a house, with 4 of his other friends.. A few weeks ago, I made plans to go out with my friends on t...
A. 20 March 2006: i dont know about this one, its very diffcult to tell what he was ment to be expressing when he said "you should be flattered that i picked you over them" maybe it was just the wrong wording to us during that exact moment and was not intending it to ... (read in full...)
I get breakfast in bed, but I don't really feel that I belong at my boyfriend's house, since he hasn't asked me to move in...
Q. I have been in a fantastic loving relationship for 5 months now. My boyfriend lets me stay at his house every night of the week. He is very giving; for example he cooks, does housework and makes me breakfast in bed. Lately he has been getting ...
A. 15 March 2006: well first of all its not your house so really its not your responsibilty to keep it clean and cook dinner every nite, if your were living there with him then that would be a different story,i do think that because you are staying at his home almost ... (read in full...)
Our relationship was getting stale, but I was devastated when she wanted to break us up!
Q. I've been with my gf for a li'll more than six years or so. And I must confess that I've taken her for granted many times. In this relationship, I am the stronger link, I was the one making the decisions etc. We're both 24 by the way. Lately, I find ...
A. 9 March 2006: there are 2 sides to this, if you send that email there are going to be 2 possible outcomes, 1)she is gonna get upset that you tried to get in contact with her when she wanted a break from the relationship and then it will blow up in your face or ... (read in full...)
Our relationship was getting stale, but I was devastated when she wanted to break us up!
Q. I've been with my gf for a li'll more than six years or so. And I must confess that I've taken her for granted many times. In this relationship, I am the stronger link, I was the one making the decisions etc. We're both 24 by the way. Lately, I find ...
A. 9 March 2006: sounds like things have stopped and gotten abit boring and stale in the relationship, i think most long term relationship wil go through a boring patch like this.i dont want you to take this the wrong way or anything but i think your behaviour and ... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 8 March 2006: i think all of the ideas that you have listed would be great, i think the discussion board would be really good. i dunno if this is a good idea but i have noticed wiht some the aunts they have typed up a paragraph about themselves there age and ... (read in full...)
We took time out last year, now a text message I snooped at on his phone makes me doubt him!
Q. i don't know what to think or do?!? my boyfriend and i have just celebrated our 6th yearly aniversay and i know he loves me very much. we run two businesses together and are renovating a flat together. we had some problems last year and he took ...
A. 3 March 2006: ok well its very obvious that something fishy is going on between your guy and this chick, i think that you should put your foot down and just say if you have anymore contact with his person im leaving and that you demand the truth. i think maybe ... (read in full...)
Cheated on him twice in a weekend. Should I go on this break (I *do* like his friends!)... Or break-up?
Q. i have been with my bf a year now and i have just recently cheated on him twice in one weekend, we have a holiday booked with his mates and i love them, i wanna go away with them, but i feel i should break things off. wot should i do?...
A. 3 March 2006: simple break it off with your boyfriend and tell him the truth.... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him for being inconsiderate?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months. He says he loves me and buys me flowers all the time, but he keeps saying he is coming over and doesn't show up until two hours later. Last night he did it again and I went to the bar to have a ...
A. 3 March 2006: well i dont know about this one, it really depends what he was doing at the bar, for example maybe he was so late showing up to your house is because he had been at the bar and had way too much to drink and had to sober up abit b4 he could drive, ... (read in full...)
Odds of an (almost) immaculate conception, please?
Q. Does anyone know how common it is to get pregnet from not having vaginal intercorse because ive heard that u can get pregnet if a guy has spern on his finger and he sticks it in you, im not sure that this happend but im late for my period and im ...
A. 3 March 2006: if any sperm goes near your vigina on a finger or on anything there is that chance that you could be, take a home pg test or go get a blood test done, that should soon tell you if you are or not. sometimes your period can be late because of ... (read in full...)
Some thoughts on the 'porn' issue...the difference between fantasy and illusion.
Q. Everyone says that porn is for FANTASY, But the definition of fantasy is "a product of the imagination: ILLUSION" Which is where it should stay, in ones mind, not for their eyes. Fantasies are meant to be imagined not to actually be seen. If ...
A. 27 February 2006: i am also confused on why people in a relationship look at porn, i found out my bf was downloading large amounts off the internet so i asked him if it was me and if i was not pleaseing him, but he says its not that so i took his word for it but ... (read in full...)
He claims that he downloads and trades porn "to practice hacking". I don't believe him...
Q. Been with my man for 2 years. We live together. Over the last six months I keep coming across porn. He was downloading it from the internet. Anyway I got upset at him, explained to him that it makes me feel ugly and I just don't like it being in...
A. 23 February 2006: From reading everyones advice i can see now that my gut was right, he is not being truthfull, iv tried talking to him but he just keeps saying he uses it for practising hacking but i have never seen him use it for that, and he hides it from me too. ... (read in full...)
My ex broke up with me to date other girls but still wants sex with me!!!
Q. dear cupid, Me and my ex boyfriend broke up a week ago and i still am completely in love with him and still really care for him but i don't know what to do. He says he wants to date other girls and have some freedom, but he still wants to be with...
A. 23 February 2006: stop wasting your time on him,he is a selfish man and he does not deserve you, go find yourself a man thats going to commit to you, if you keep seeing this guy your just going to be left heartbroken, his just using you for a booty call and i think ... (read in full...)
He claims that he downloads and trades porn "to practice hacking". I don't believe him...
Q. Been with my man for 2 years. We live together. Over the last six months I keep coming across porn. He was downloading it from the internet. Anyway I got upset at him, explained to him that it makes me feel ugly and I just don't like it being in...
A. 22 February 2006: thanks for the feed back from everyone, well first off about 6 months into living with each other i found his porn magazines there was about 6 or 7, it didnt really worry as the magazines where out of sight out of mind, but his got porn on dvd's ... (read in full...)
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