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He claims that he downloads and trades porn "to practice hacking". I don't believe him...
Q. Been with my man for 2 years. We live together. Over the last six months I keep coming across porn. He was downloading it from the internet. Anyway I got upset at him, explained to him that it makes me feel ugly and I just don't like it being in...
A. 23 February 2006: From reading everyones advice i can see now that my gut was right, he is not being truthfull, iv tried talking to him but he just keeps saying he uses it for practising hacking but i have never seen him use it for that, and he hides it from me too. ... (read in full...)
My ex broke up with me to date other girls but still wants sex with me!!!
Q. dear cupid, Me and my ex boyfriend broke up a week ago and i still am completely in love with him and still really care for him but i don't know what to do. He says he wants to date other girls and have some freedom, but he still wants to be with...
A. 23 February 2006: stop wasting your time on him,he is a selfish man and he does not deserve you, go find yourself a man thats going to commit to you, if you keep seeing this guy your just going to be left heartbroken, his just using you for a booty call and i think ... (read in full...)
Where can i meet that special guy??
Q. Where is a good place to meet guys, ones who aren't just after sex? I am 30 years old, am told I am beautiful and intelligent (by my unavailable male friends - typical!), and yet only seem to meet guys who are only after one thing. I am despairi...
A. 23 February 2006: i have found that i never had to go to a club or a social event to meet any of my boyfriends in the past, i was just being myself,doing the things i enjoy, i was not going out looking for them and as soon as i stopped chasing them i found that they ... (read in full...)
I am sick of being lied to about porn! Where are the men who 'forsake all others'??
Q. I was just wondering as i am considering leaving my man over his constant looking at pornographic images and other women lustfully if there are in fact any men out there that dont do this? Men who love thier woman and worship thier woman in a way th...
A. 23 February 2006: Hi, this is not any advice as im in the same situation and i feel totally the same, i am also starting to recent my b/f and even finding myself falling out of love with him because of this issue and being lied too, please help us understand.... (read in full...)
He has signed up to dating site and he's looking for sex with women...and MEN! Help me out here
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 4 years now - we are both 20 but I'm at university and he working and living at home. I love him with all my heart, but I am extremely insecure and once checked his email account. I found he'd just ...
A. 22 February 2006: confront him about this, if his not honest or becomes defensive then you know someothing is going on, if i had evidence like that i would not even bother with someone like that id just leave him. Maybe he is bi-sexual and is too scared to tell you.... (read in full...)
She asked me a loaded question and I failed miserably...now I'm paying for it bigtime. What should I do?
Q. Before we were married my wife asked me what my fantasy was...not really one to fanasize, what came to my head was a asian woman. She said nothing at the time and a few weeks later asked me what seemed to be fraised in a joking matter....if you came ...
A. 22 February 2006: i sorta feel she was setting you up, she knew the answer, i think she only asked you that because she wanted to make you feel bad because she may have been hurt that you liked asian women, she really set herself up to get hurt, she was the one ... (read in full...)
I am paronoid that she may have slept with another guy while she was away. Is there any basis for my fears?
Q. Hi there. I have been with my partner for 5 years+.She recently went to Canada with her job.She was away for just over a month. Since we started going out, when we have sex we do not use condoms, as she is on the pill. We have never used a con...
A. 22 February 2006: your just being paronoid , how can you connect her wanting to use a condom as a reason for her to cheat? im confused? have you maybe been cheated on in the past?. im not sure but i have heard that its easier for a women to become pregnant during ... (read in full...)
He claims that he downloads and trades porn "to practice hacking". I don't believe him...
Q. Been with my man for 2 years. We live together. Over the last six months I keep coming across porn. He was downloading it from the internet. Anyway I got upset at him, explained to him that it makes me feel ugly and I just don't like it being in...
A. 22 February 2006: thanks for the feed back from everyone, well first off about 6 months into living with each other i found his porn magazines there was about 6 or 7, it didnt really worry as the magazines where out of sight out of mind, but his got porn on dvd's ... (read in full...)
He's not the "best boyfriend" because I know he cheated. So do I get him the trophy anyway?
Q. So its Valentine's Day, and I've never really done anything special for my significant other. This year I thought of a really cute idea for my boyfriend but I'm not sure if its 100% sincere. I want to get him this Best Boyfriend Trophy but I don't ...
A. 20 February 2006: sorry if i had offended you with that comment, im not one to beleave in second chances due to bad experiences i have had in the past and i often get mad when i hear stories of people cheating, but it was unfair for me to make that comment because i ... (read in full...)
He's not the "best boyfriend" because I know he cheated. So do I get him the trophy anyway?
Q. So its Valentine's Day, and I've never really done anything special for my significant other. This year I thought of a really cute idea for my boyfriend but I'm not sure if its 100% sincere. I want to get him this Best Boyfriend Trophy but I don't ...
A. 16 February 2006: well it does not sound like you have gotten over it because you still think about it and you still get pi**ed off about it, i ask you this, why are you even with this guy still? and to be honesty with you i dont think your b/f deserves sh*t for ... (read in full...)
Not only did my BF cheat, I find out now that he has a 2-year-old son!
Q. I have been in a relationship for about five years now. My boyfriend only decided to break it to me yesterday that not only did he cheat on me about three years ago, he also managed to get the girl pregnant so now he has a two year old son. My pro...
A. 16 February 2006: well first off i just have to point out that if you do forgive him and continue on with this relationship its going to be a diffcult process for you, for one you just cant get over and forgive someone for cheating it might take months even years ... (read in full...)
If I suggest we go out, it becomes an issue; am I wasting my time with him?
Q. i am 18 and have been going out with my boyfriend for 1 year and 1 month. Any way he's been acting strange lately since the beginning of this year. he had a few uni probs and didnt tell me anything about it until the day after he decided he was ...
A. 15 February 2006: his not intrested in you anymore hun, look dont worry about him, call it a day with this guy because you can do better anyway.... (read in full...)
We broke up and it's been 3 months..why can't I stop thinking of her?
Q. hi there, me and my girlfriend split up nearly 3 months ago,we were together 4 years. to start with we still kept in touch every few days and said that we didnt want to lose the friendship that we have and deep down i kind of thought that we might ...
A. 14 February 2006: 4 years is a long time, you just cant get over someone almost straight away, it may take weeks or months before you feel like you can go out and take intrest in others, give it abit more time in the mean time go out a little maybe do something you ... (read in full...)
Anyone recommend some teen-friendly websites?
Q. Hi, I know this is a really stupid thing to write in about, but can anybody recommend some good websites for teenagers, I get so bored when I'm on the net. Thanks. ...
A. 14 February 2006: www.bored.com i also came across this website for girls, mostly teenagers www.girl.com.au has chat and just general girly stuff, also try www.ninemsn.com.au and look under magazines and click Dolly,its an online version of the Dolly mag its pret... (read in full...)
My GF's sexual past didn't bother me... until I began to feel like she thinks about them and compares me!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for a year now, and things are generally great. I really love her. She's much more sexually experienced than me and has had 10 times as many partners as I have. But, WAIT before you stop reading! This i...
A. 10 February 2006: she has no right to be bringing up anything about he ex relationships at all, you need to tell that you dont appricate it when she mentions anything about her past boyfriends or sexual experiences, dont worry your not the only one who deals with ... (read in full...)
After the split I was seeing someone else, but it hurts me to think he was doing the same thing!
Q. Me and my boyfriend had been going out a year and a half. Things were great, then he told me that he wanted to join the army. I knew he wanted to do this before we met but nothing was ever said until this far in the relationship. It broke my heart. ...
A. 10 February 2006: well you Weren’t technically a couple so i would not take it to heart, this does not mean he didnt love you it probably ment he was trying to move on and meet new people and try new experiences, just the same as you did. i would not be concerned ... (read in full...)
I laughed when he said "I love you"... !
Q. Hello. I am currently dating a great guy. We've been together for 3 1/2 months, and just last week he really caught me off guard while we were in really heavy traffic. We were goofing off, laughing and singing and stuff, when he stopped and looked ...
A. 10 February 2006: oh dear! you need to tell him what you have just told use, if you dont open up to this guy then your just going to leave him totally crushed, if you know you love him then just tell him, i was in the same situation once as you but i didnt laugh at ... (read in full...)
How many is too many sexual partners?
Q. How Many is Too Many?? I am just curious, I had the post earlier about peoples opinions/views on casual sex? That got me to thinking, how many would you think is too many for past number of sexual partners?? I mean I know there are average...
A. 9 February 2006: it really depends on who your telling this too and the type of person he is, like he might be totally ok if you said im 38 and have had over 50 different sexual partners or he might be totally grossed out. i think for someone aged about 38 id say 20 ... (read in full...)
We live together but he says "I won't ever marry you"
Q. What do you do when he says "I won't ever marry you" and you desperately want him back? We're in our 30s, living together for 9 months but argue and fight. One fight brought this response. I don't know what do do now, because I want to win him ...
A. 9 February 2006: Dont nag, dont fight just talk not argue, i know its easier said then done, maybe a relationship councilor might help the communication get back on track.plus you have only been living together for 9 months, i know from experience it takes awhile to ... (read in full...)
Any way I can tell if the married man I'm dating will leave his wife, kids, for me?
Q. Why did i have to start dating a married man! It's been almost a year now, he's in his late 30s and says that, even though he loves me, he won't leave his wife because they have been together since she was 16 and they have children together and so ...
A. 9 February 2006: im really doubting it, how can you be with someone that already has a family and wife?, he is not just cheating on his wife but his cheating on you too. why are you wasting your time on this guy their is no future in a relationship like that?, if ... (read in full...)
My guy is sweet, caring, handsome... And filthy rich. But now I found out how and don't know what to think!
Q. Late last year I fell in love with the most amazing guy. He is kind, considerate, good looking, in good shape, smart, easy-going... We do so much together, and am planning on moving in within weeks. He lives in a really cool place and drives a flash ...
A. 8 February 2006: i would not see it as a problem, i'd actually seen it as a benefit, maybe you could ask if you could buy some of the stuff and you might get it cheaper ;). its not like its porn or anything so i would not stress about it.... (read in full...)
Will he notice that I'm not "virgin"?
Q. I have a boyfriend weve been going out for a while now and im ready to lose my virginity i have been for ages but he thinks im not a virgin im not teelin him other wise i wont but i wonder if heel notice wen we make love and about bleeding ??...
A. 7 February 2006: some girls bleed, some dont, i didnt bleed with my first time, he might notice some tightnes and he may notice your in experience but if you have already lied and said your not a virgin and you do bleed just say you got your period, if he askes ... (read in full...)
When I urinate..my vagina burns and it feels itchy! What is wrong with me?
Q. Dear Cupid A few nights ago I had sex with a guy I have liked for a long time. We First tried it in the jacuzzi but ended up on the bed in 5 minutes. Now, for the past three days, when i pee it feels a little burning, and I feel like the inside o...
A. 25 January 2006: sounds like a bladder infection to me, you need to see a doctor about it and get it cleared up with some medicine, you probably got it from either 1# you have not had sex for along time 2#you have been having sex alot during the past month #3 it ... (read in full...)
My bf forced me to have sex and I'm confused..I was turned on by it!
Q. Last night, my boyfriend forced me to have sex with him. We just finished having a really bad fight and sex was the last thing on my mind. He ripped my clothes off and threatened me with a knife. I cried the entire time. He just kept telling me to ...
A. 15 December 2005: Yes that is rape and you need to talk to someone about it, maybe an adult you can trust or a councilor, i also agree with QOTU you can come hear to talk if you need too, you in no way deserved that to happen to you and he had no right to do that to ... (read in full...)
I can't have an orgasm!
Q. I am 19 and i have had sex about 5 or 6 times with different women, yet none of these women have made me come, most men would like this as it means i can last a long time but i am desperate to have an orgasm through sex, my last experience lasted ...
A. 14 December 2005: i would not worry, maybe you need to experiment abit more so you can learn what will make you reach that point, my bf and i always have sex for two hours or longer and their has been only been maybe 3 or 4 times we its taking him less then 1 hour,to ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my boyfriend about the messages I found on his phone?
Q. We have been seeing each other for 2 years and we live together. About 1 month ago I was going through his phone and read some messages from a girl I dont know. It said "I don't like to share, call me when you're single". I don't know what to do, o...
A. 8 December 2005: Hi there, thanks everyone for the advice on this, i still have not spoken to him about it i guess im just too scared, i did try and find out who this girl is and so on, i think its point to this one female he meet in a discusion group that he is ... (read in full...)
He won't do follow-ups on possible jobs and he blows his money! I get frustrated..am I over-reacting?
Q. I am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 18. We've known each other for almost 3 years and been dating for almost 2 months...(yeah not long...I know) I guess I'm wondering if I am just bitchy or if these are logical problems...I moved in with him due ...
A. 6 December 2005: I think you should just pay what you need to pay for and not worry about him, its his money and he can spend it how he wants, if his going to blow it on toys then thats fine but its his own fault if he gets himself into money problems, just look ... (read in full...)
We argue a lot and have great make-up sex...is this normal?
Q. my boyfriend and i have had a steady loving relationship for over a year now and i love him to bits. however i think we argue too much, he said that he loves our fights and loves making up. i wont denie that he makes me feel very special and our ...
A. 6 December 2005: You need to tell him your getting hurt from all the fighting, it sounds like he is causing fights on purpose because he knows it will lead to sex, and maybe your having so many fights its because your never resolving any problems. Maybe instead of ... (read in full...)
He's in Iraq and I can't contact him just whenever I want...it's so hard.
Q. ok. i have a boyfriend that is in the marine corps. he has been over in iraq for a little over a month now, and it has been the hardest month of my life. i have a question for anyone thats been in a long-distance relationship with the circumstances ...
A. 5 December 2005: I have also been in a similiar situation with my bf as he is was in the army, to kill time i joined a gym, spent more time with my family, gave myself really long task's to complete like re decorating the house or something like that. I know it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is leaving for the Army in a month. Should I try to stay with him?
Q. My boyfriend just joined the Army and he says he wants to still be with me, but ths past weekend and week he has not really talked to me or hung out with me. I have talked to him and he says he loves me and everyone needs time with him cause he ...
A. 4 December 2005: stay with him for now, just be aware that he will come back a different man this may or may not be a good thing, my bf is in the army and has gone away for long periods of time, stick by him, you never know the relationship maybe become stronger ... (read in full...)
Should we be together if he wants to watch so many adult movies?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for three years, we broke up for a couple months and now we are tring to work things out. I came back into the relationship with a problem I didn't have before. I know men do this frequently, but I don't know how much ...
A. 29 November 2005: When you two broke up for that couple of months maybe he was feeling lonly and was trying to find someone to date on the internet, you should not be too concerned but if i was u id keep an eye on it and make sure he does not keep going to these ... (read in full...)
Physically abusive bf wants me to move with him-away from my family!
Q. right now i am really confused with my relationship between my fiance and myself, we have been together for a while now but with alot of problems and alot of arguing,just recently, i had to get a restraining order against him because he started to ...
A. 28 November 2005: Dont move away from your family, your not ready for this so dont do it, if he really loves you then he will understand, moving away will just make it easier for him to abuse you.I personally would push him out of my life for good because it does not ... (read in full...)
I'm not enjoying sex with my girlfriend...but I can't tell her that or it will hurt her feelings.
Q. Hi, me and my girlfriend are having some problems in our sex life.. when we're really in the mood and about to do it the mood somtimes just gets ruined. Theres a number of different things that can spoil it. When we start off it hurts her and i have ...
A. 28 November 2005: Dont tell her you don't enjoy it, my bf and i had the same problems and he told me he did not enjoy some parts of our sex life, because of this i didnt think i was good enough and i avoided having any type of sex with my b/f all together , if you ... (read in full...)
I love him but don't trust him...what can I do?
Q. Four weeks ago, I found out my boyfriend cheated on me a thid time. Says he didn't have sex with the girl but was wearing a condom. Turns out she said she no longer wanted to have sex with him but he claims that if he really wanted to have sex with ...
A. 27 November 2005: Leave him now, once a cheater always a cheater,if this man can hurt you over and over again like this i dont think his going to stop,just leave and find yourself a real man who is going care and respect you, i know its going to be hard but trust me ... (read in full...)
Should I marry my boyfriend and hope he gets over his pain-pill addiction?
Q. Hi my name is Becky,I have been with my boyfriend for 9 years and have 2 kids with him. I am so confused because I love my boyfriend with all my heart but he has done me so wrong in the past. He's been on drugs on and off the whole 9 years. From ...
A. 24 November 2005: Give him this choice, if he does not stop taking drugs you are going to leave, because this is not fair on you, its his addiction and the only way he will ever stop is if goes to a councilor for help himself. Giving him the choice to pick between ... (read in full...)
Will I ever have an orgasm?
Q. I hope this isn't too explicit, but i have to be honest. I'm very passionate and have a very high sex drive. when im single i can somehow go without sex for ages, but when im with someone all i want to do is have sex. and it's been like that sin...
A. 23 November 2005: Maybe your not doing it long enough,i had the same problems, until my bf found my g spot , you have to explore heaps of different positions to get the correct spot for you. it is possible to achieve it, i have been dating my guy for 2 years and it ... (read in full...)
I slept with someone else...do I tell my boyfriend?
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two and half years and I love him very much. But this weekend I went to see my friend and I slept with another guy. I don't want to break up with my boyfriend, but I feel that I need to tell him ...
A. 21 November 2005: You need to tell him what happen, it is only fair that you give him the choice if he wants to continue the relationship or not. good luck... (read in full...)
My ex will take me back, but what if I miss a chance with a new man?
Q. I need help. Fisrt I'll give you the run down of the situation. I cheated on my ex-boyfriend *Colin (* = not real name) so he obviuously broke up with me. I was very regretful and begged and begged for him to take me back but he refused. So one ...
A. 21 November 2005: Maybe we should just be friends with both of them before you make up your mind, give your self time to think about what you want. Maybe even start off new and try being single for a little while, you need to make up your mind and commit to it.... (read in full...)
Now that we're together, my boyfriend doesn't even try any more!
Q. How can I get my boyfriend to quit being so "lazy" about our relationship? I know about the "now that he has me he can stop trying" thing that men do, but what can I do to get him to try as hard as he did when he first was pursuing me? ...
A. 21 November 2005: i agree with "anonymous from 20th november" play hard to get but make yourself tempting, maybe get dressed in something sexy while his watching tv and walk around the house and do your own thing, his bound to want you bad, i did this with my ... (read in full...)
No foreplay, very little oral, and he lasts about a minute... Do I keep working on sex with him?
Q. I wonder if anyone can help me here. I've been with a guy for over two and a half years. The sex I have with him is not too good. He is in his early 40s but he doesn't do much foreplay. He gets funny if I try to kiss him all over, he never explores ...
A. 21 November 2005: Every guy has fantasy's about something, maybe try get him out of his compfort zone and then ask him about what he likes, and then maybe you 2 could take turns ,one week you do what he wants then the next week you do what you want. Lasting about 1 ... (read in full...)
She says she won't cheat ever again, but she still sees the guy she cheated with at social gatherings!
Q. My girlfriend has cheated on me more than once. She says she will never cheat on me again and has been going to counseling. My problem is that she works with the guy she cheated with and a lot of her friends hang out with this guy. She promise...
A. 21 November 2005: You should be able to feel secure in your relationship and it does not sound like you are, if she really loves and cares for you she will understand and not continue to see this person. good luck... (read in full...)
My husband has been chatting on porn sites and that's cheating!
Q. I just found out my husband is chatting with live porn girls on the computer. He has been doing this for five months secretly. He does not know I know yet. We have been married eight years and I want a divorce. It is cheating, isn't it?...
A. 21 November 2005: You should talk to him about if first, but if your really hurt by this tell him that he either stops or your leaving him. Yes it is cheating , if i found out my boyfriend was doing that i would kick him out asap.... (read in full...)
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