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writes:Hi I'm kikki and I'm 15 I think I might be turning lesbian but not sure. I have a bf but I don't enjoy sex with him anymore it's like he just cares about himself. Recently during p.e at school I have noticed my nipples going hard getting changed in front of this one girl and started to feel quite horny like I want her to touch me. What do I do??
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reader, Nikki92 +, writes (14 May 2009):
Nikki92 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi evryone I'm nikki not kikki it's predictive on iPod LOL. Thanks for all your great answers its helped me stop tormenting myself. Nearly everyone is nice altho I do agree people shouldntbslag people off on here when they need help I put my birth age as older for a reason that normallybl u got to be older on sites like this and I have never dared but thanks for pointing it out some people. As if I'm not goingnthrough enough :( to all the advice I have had ty so much guess it's just time now. Nikki x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): hey sweetie,
im 16 and i kno how your feeling. there are lots of reasons you feel that way hun. one...maybe you are gay...or bi(like me)
i love the attention i get from guys...but i also love the affection i get from girls...its a two way street...you need to feel pleased by guys but want to be loved by girls perfectly normal love i promise!
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reader, pebble +, writes (13 May 2009):
 And how many people get their year of birth wrong? Drunk or not? 15 year olds were not born in 1992, you do the math.
No it doesn't sound genuine. It sounds like a 30 year old perv getting off at the thought of two teenages girls together.
You wanna waste your time with it then thats your problem.
And yes, I hope my responses do stop people coming forward with their FAKE questions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): pebble...give the girl a break! She mite have given her details wrong registering - happened to me, was a bit drunk at the time and now my profile gives my age as '30-35'!
Nikki or Kikki, whatever it is, her posts seem pretty genuine, and responses like Pebble's are not likely to encourage anyone to come forward with their problems.
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reader, pebble +, writes (13 May 2009):
Firstly are you called Kikki, or Nikki? And if you ARE indeed 15, then you would not be born in 92 like your screenname suggests. Plus your age says 16-17. So which is it?
I smell BS.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): You are not neccesarily lesbian. The thing with your boyfriend might not be because hes a lesbian it might be that youve just gone off him and need a new boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): It's a confusing and no doubt scary situation for you. Even nowadays, society is still a bit terrified of homosexuality, so almost all of us grow up basically conditioned to think of ourselves as 'straight' and it can be very, very traumatic to find out that you're not.
Your physical arousal when you saw that girl was probably the first big 'moment of truth' about your sexuality that you've had to face, and it's unlikely to be the last. It doesn't mean you are gay, but it definitely is a possibility. You are not enjoying sex with your boyfriend (you don't state how sexual the relationship is - at age 15, I hope you're being reasonably sensible!) and you're starting to fantasise about a female.
You'll have to see for yourself whether these feelings intensify, or if they begin to go away. As a guy who started feeling similarly intense physical same-sex reactions when I was the age you are now, I seem to remember finding it very traumatic, and crying at night, very disturbed that I had these feelings. I tried so hard not to be gay, worried about what people would say if they found out, and the absolute humiliation it would subject me to.
I did everything to convince myself it was 'just a phase' that would go away, and went thru the motions of having girlfriends. I had absolutely no idea 'what to do' with a girl in sexual situations, and ended up letting down two girls who wanted something I couldn't ever give them.
Dressing-room situations with other guys were both a treat and an absolute torment, for obvious reasons. All this time, it was becoming increasingly clear to me that I couldn't resist my sexuality or make it go away or force myself to be 'straight'.
While I would never have dared to 'come out' in public, it seemed that people were reaching their own conclusions anyway. Quite a few guys at school subjected me to homophobic taunts and name-calling, which I hated, but my female friends tended to react very differently. I never announced it to anyone, but I do remember hanging out with a crowd of my girl pals and one of them asking 'when are you ever going to come out of the closet?'. My valiant attempts to protest that I was straight didn't convince any of them, and they'd respond with 'oh come on, you're 110% gay, you prefer the guys'. This was embarrasing, but it did probably help me come to terms with it - it was like 'oh, ok, I'm gay and half the world seems to know, so there we are'.)
Sorry if I'm going on - what I'm saying is, 'coming out' is a gradual and painful process which goes through many stages: admitting it to yourself, admitting it to other people, and ultimately acting on it. I'm now 18 and in a very intense sexual relationship with a man, but it wasn't till I was 17 that I felt comfortable enough to actively surrender to my urges and go looking for a same-sex encounter. I probably should have done it earlier, but I'm making up for lost time.
All this may or may not apply to your situation. Perhaps you're straight and just having a one-off reaction to this girl. Whatever way it develops, I hope everything works out for you. Good luck!
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reader, Nikki92 +, writes (13 May 2009):
Nikki92 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx for all the replies. I think I'm gonna leave my bf because of his consideration and because of my feelings for this girl. When I go sleep I think of her and not him. I always am safe so don't worry :) I'm just confused as to how I would persue my girly thoughts and how to maybe try it without looking stupid or been made fun of. Thanx again for all ur help . Nikki x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): I don't think this means you are turning lesbian. It may just be an experimental phase you are going through! Don't worry yourself over it... It is a proven that 98 percent of the female population have tried some sort of sexual experience with another female! Its not out of the ordinary to think of another female as being attractive or have some sort of feelings for another! Take time to see where you stand with this don't assumes you're gay. You're young and have along time to determine this! As far as sex with your b\f you just may be getting bored or realized he's not the one you want to be with. Once again you're young your feelings will change until you experiment real love and the other feelings associated with it! Good luck honey remember take your time
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (13 May 2009):
 I think you are 15 years old. With a TONS of hormones flying around in your body.
You might not be straight. You might not be gay. Not everyone knows right of the bat what sexual orientation they have. But at 15 it's pretty NORMAL to be a little confused about it.
As far as your BF well, he might just be a sucky lay. Sorry if you don't tell him it won't get better. He might think he is doing all the "right stuff" or he is just of of those guys who will never really please a woman, only himself.
Honestly to me it seems like you are craving attention ( and I don't mean that in a wrong way) just that you obviously aren't getting what you want/need from your BF.
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (13 May 2009):
 Well your young and its natural to feel this way...your curious just becoz you get horny of the thought of a girl doesnt make you lesbian....doesnt even make you Bi sexual...best thing to do is experiment but safely...if you want to further these thoughts maybe try dating a girl....if you dont like these feelings or thoughts then don't think to much into it....your young your still working out your sexual thoughts etc maybe talk to some close friends, im sure your not the only one whos ever had these kind of thought! Whatever you do be safe in any sexual acts!
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