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*ittykat87
writes:I would just like some advice and opinions here...Do you think a relationship based on sex alone can turn into a real relationship?I met a guy at a club and I wasnt looking for a relationship at the time, he was cute so I ended up going back to his house and we slept together (we used protection of course!). He asked for my number but I thought nothing of it, I assumed he wasnt going to call and was fine with that. At this point I was happy for it to remain as a one-night thing, while he was really hot and we had a great night I wasnt expecting anything else from him.Then after 3 days he text me, and since then we have sent a couple of texts to each other, resulting in him coming out for my birthday (he came out alone and spent the night with me in a few bars and a club) and met a couple of my friends. Once again I spent the night at his house, and overall I had a great night with him again. It has been 4 days since I last saw him and havent heard from him, so I am thinking that will probably be the end of it.Only problem is that after he came out for my birthday and I had such a good time with him, I have started to like him a bit more than just as someone to have a bit of casual fun with. I would like it if we actually went out on a date instead of just meeting in clubs etc but there is no way on earth I would ask him (that is just not my style). It wont massively bother me if nothing more happens but I find myself thinking about him quite a lot and he was so much fun on my birthday, that night I started getting all those feelings you get when you know you could fall for someone and it felt pretty nice. I thought it was so nice of him to actually come out for my birthday and make the effort with my friends, it seemed like a lot of effort for him to do if it was just all for the sake of sex?So what I would like to know is do you think there is a chance for this to turn into anything more? I'm wondering if it is actually possible to have a relationship with someone if it started with just sex?
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reader, jj.  +, writes (20 May 2009):
anything is possible ..realize the times are different today. aids..stds..and so forth..
their are 30 million cases of aids and a good process of these are caught from people we know and meet.i would say
think real hard about any thing you may do .love is a many spleendered thing..and you deserve the best..signed jj.
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reader, murphtom +, writes (20 May 2009):
 A little different for me, started a "friends with benefits" agreement with a friend of mine about fifteen years ago. We are now going on twelve years married and have two kids. We had the friendship first, but we were just "booty calls" for each other initially. This can work out. I agree with the other posters. Try to start focusing on more dating like activities...movies, dinner, etc. The fact he made the effort at your b-day celebration and meeting your friends displays more interest than just sex. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): This is coming from the heart and I dont mean to hurt you but I did this with a guy for 3 years. Dont waste your time, find out if he is interested and if he's not dont become his booty call. I kept thinking that it would become something more and it never did but the sex was great, we got on famously and I had so much time for him but it never became what I hoped it would. Eventually I am away from it and I have found someone who wants to be with me all of me body and mind so please do not fall into the same old routine as I did cause 3 years is a long time to wait :(
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (20 May 2009):
 Yes of course it can......but you need to find out if this guy is only around for sex this is easy to find out.....just don't have sex with him for awhile....date him, then say goodbye at end of the night, if he is keen on a relationship with great sex he will stick around! If he is only after sex then your soon find out, mention cinema or something....if he just wants to go get drunk usually means he wants sex, as two people very attracted to each other DRUNK ends up with SEX!!!
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