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writes:im 15 years old and ive fancied this boy from school for a while now whos 16 but in my year (11). hes fancied me for about a year we talk all the time out of school but hardly ever while we're there.i was a bit scared of asking him out because hes very popular and can get into trouble witht he police sometimes because his friends are chavy but he is a nice person.so he invited me around his house yesterday and at first it was awkward because we never talked that much face to face and we were in his room. he then kissed me but with tongues and was o top of me . he then told me had a condom and we had sex. it was both of our first times and i cant be sure what happened because it was weird and confusing because we couldnt keep his penis inside me for very long amounts of time and it was also very difficult to insert it. i also gave him head 5 times which i didnt really want also but he kept telling me too. i later spoke to my friends about this and they reckon it was all to fast and i regret it alot. they reckon i gave him too much head for a first time and he maybe took advantage. also im in so much pain still and its almost 24 hours afterwards and my legs are aching so much.my friends reckon this is becausehe is black and has a larger penis so it hurts more first timeso my main questions are:1) have i definately lost my virginity and was this actual sex?2) is it normal for me to be experiencing this much pain a day after and what can i do to help it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks again to everyone ive take your advice on board and will message those mose helpful (: good news is pain is at least going away (: x
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reader, lif3sucks  +, writes (13 May 2009):
 well i have experienced this all... im 16 and i have been taken advatage and im sorry but it was sex, and yes it is noraml for that much pain and it might not be the last time to have pain cuz sex does tend to hurt the legs and stuff cuz of the preasure, but dont put your self down just learn to say no and dont cave in cuz i use to cave alot and still sometimes do, you just need to treat yourself with more respect and tell yourself your a good person
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyouu everyone for your help (:x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): Im sorry honey but you have lost your virginity. If his penis was inside you, then you are no longer a virgin!
And yes, the pain is normal, I bled for a week after i lost my virginity and the doctor said THAT was normal! (I had to fly back to boarding school too...not fun!)
But anyways, please be safe and consider your own feelings before you do something liek this again!
Did you use a condom every time you gave him head? If not you need to go to the doctor or a GUM (genito-urinary medicine) clinic and get an STI screening done. You can get diseases from giving head and many of them are treatable, so not to worry, just get it done!
And in future, maybe go on some dates to public places before getting this heavily involved! Message me if you want to chat about anything! :)
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (13 May 2009):
 If his penis went inside you then yes you have lost your virginity! I hope the condom stayed on at all times while you was having sex! If he has a big penis then yes it will hurt, and the whole motion of sex usually does leave you with pain between legs and sometimes butt area. IF you are not with this boy why did you sleep with him? Don't sleep with anyone just becoz there popular and you fancy them, if you want a boy to respect you then you MUST respect yourself and playing hard to get in the bedroom department is always a must, as if not you will just come across easy! If you ever have sex again make sure it is with a condom and that its for the right reasons, you should always feel safe and comfy with the act and the boy your doing it with! I say if you see this boy again dont have sex with him, date him let him take you out, sex should be the least thing you worry about at 15, so take a few steps back and enjoy datein boys and kissing, leave sex out for awhile till you meet mr right!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (13 May 2009):
 1) Yes - Pretty bad sex, but sex all the same
2) Yes - But not about size but the first time you have ever used those muscles in that way (if you think that's bad wait till you give birth!) You will ache for a couple of days, if it doesn't go away speak to a doctor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009):
Oh yeah, sounds like it was sex alright. Your virginity is long gone.
It sounds like you did let him take advantage of you. If you didn't want to do something then don't do it. Popularity doesn't give him extra rights above the rest of us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): If his penis was in you,you have lost your virginity. And yes its quite common to feel pain for 1-2 days afterwards.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): Yes of course it was actual sex
Yes,because it was your first time, it wouldhave been better to work up to it slowly with a long time partner, but oh well
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reader, Nikki92 +, writes (13 May 2009):
Hi there yes it sounds like you have really had sex and I hope u was safe. I was sore for 3 days my first time and never wanted sex again. Maybe tell your bf to go a little easy on you and slide it in a bit at a time when u feel better and maybe use lu be. Hope i help. Nikki x
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