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writes:I was seeing a guy for about two months. He is a teacher and is a lot older than me (I am 19 he is now 28) but this was not a problem when I was staying with him and around his friends. He got freaked out however when he came to stay with me at my University and we broke up.We met up again over New Years, and he was keen on me again, and kissed me and wanted me to stay over, but as a matter of pride I said no.I am now working in the town that he lives, and we met up for a drink (which turned into many...) and ended up spleeping together. I left sharpish in the morning and messaged him in the evening saying that I liked him and got confused by the random meet-ups. He messaged back saying it was a mistake to take things that far and he was angry at himself for making it. He went on to say that perhaps we could meet up again before I leave.My question is, should I meet up with him? I don't know if he was just trying to end his hurtful text with something polite, or whether he was annoyed because he didn't want to jepordise us hanging out again? I would really like to see him, as I really like him, but I don't know what (if anything) he wants from me. I would love it if we could hang out, but don't want to make a fool of myself!Please help!
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (13 May 2009):
 If you meet up with him, make sure one drink doesnt turn into 6 and you end up sleeping with him, dont let him use you! If he wants to be with you then he can wait for sex another time. It seems he doesnt want to commit to you but wants to have fun with you, let him know how you feel and let him know you wont be used just when he wants sex or a fun time! You can still enjoy his company without sex, just dont DRINK alcohol as we all know how great everything looks after a couple!!! Aslong as your having fun then do what you feel you must!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): Before you decide anything you must take in count the age difference.
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reader, Beth:answers:you +, writes (13 May 2009):
 Hello anonymous writer, in this current situation, I can see how you feel as it has once happened to me before. I would handle it by meeting up with him this one time and seeing how it goes. Don't be afraid to say you don't want to get into anything. If this guy really likes you, he will understand and you can both take it slow. If he says that he will only be with you if you are willing to have sex with him, and you don't want to, he's not worth it. Tell him it's over and start fresh. Thanks, Beth x
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