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Single Mom of two boys, been married, and then not married. :)So yes, I do have some experience in the relationship department. A student of hard knocks and university. Love observing people and figuring out what makes them tick. Have been told I have an uncanny ability to weed out the problem and get right to the core of the issue at hand. I've been accused on being the person to come to when you need a "kick in the @ss" and some brutally honest advice. Those are my qualifications; what more do you need to know? |
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I thought he was my soul mate but he doesn't see me enough!
Q. I "thought" I met my soulmate 4 months ago. I am 41 and he's 34 and we both are college graduates and in the education field. He asked me to marry him after he lands a promotion as a principal. The problem is although he calls me several times a ...
A. 15 January 2007: I'm not sure that there is really anyway for you to 'get back at him" without looking like a scorned ex-girlfriend. As much as it hurts, you only invested 4 months in this relationship, a small amount of time in the big picture. No, I am not ... (read in full...)
He refused to tell me why our relationship didn't work out for him. He also totally changed his appearance after our break up. Why?
Q. Hi there, I am feeling very down. Perhaps partly post xmas blues, but made worse by the fact I like someone still who I don't think wants me. I am 25 and xmas has been good with all my friends etc. I was seeing a guy perhaps I should no...
A. 3 January 2007: Sounds to me like this guy wasn't presenting his REAL self to you and was unable to keep up the charade any longer. You say that he looked smart, was a gentleman, and introduced you to his family, yet when he came by to break things off with you, ... (read in full...)
We fell in love again, but I think we moved too fast - he even talks of selling our new house and moving back to his home country with me!
Q. Hello there! I have written before so some of you may recognise the outline facts but any help would be so valued. I have a wonderful partner who was my first love when I was 16. He left Australia to come back to the UK a year ago, which happe...
A. 3 January 2007: Okay, you have a dilemma here. When you decied to have a relationship with your partner he was not happy in his current situation. I believe that he was looking to YOU to make him happy. (Making someone else happy is something no one can do... you ... (read in full...)
I thought he didn't care, so I cheated. He's giving me a second chance but things aren't the same! What should I do?
Q. what do you do when you love someone so much but you feel like they dont care and then you cheat on them then you reaize you did the biggest mistake of your life. he finds out but he gives you a 2nd chance but he is hurt and cant forget he doesnt ...
A. 3 January 2007: Unfortunatly, when you cheated you made the decision to end the relationship. He is giving you a second chance and attempting to forgive you, but expecting him to forget this is like expecting him to not notice the elephant sitting in the middle of ... (read in full...)
Do I tell him his mother ruined his proposal?
Q. My boyfriend (now fiance) and I took a trip to Australia with his family last March. The day before we left for the trip his mother e-mailed me and added the words "almost mother in law" beside her name. Well this was pretty much a dead give away ...
A. 2 January 2007: I think your fiance has a right to know what Mum did, but in a gentle way... perhaps, "I just KNEW you were going to propose! :)" When he asks "Why" you can lightly say, "Oh, Your Mum told me. :)" Then HE, as it is his responsibility, can deal with ... (read in full...)
Lying boyfriend is cheating on me again! What do I do?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years when I found out he had slept with another woman in our home. Leading up to this I had found numerous other text messages from other woman and phone numbers indicating that he was going to cheat or already ...
A. 2 January 2007: You already have all the answers you need. This guy is a waste of time and gives all the other great men out there a bad name. Find one of those great guys, and leave this moron in your dust. I would say the only help you really need is some self ... (read in full...)
I want to know what a woman wants but am confused! Please help me.
Q. what does a woman really want in a guy? I hear stories that they want a sweet, caring loyal man who they can cuddle up with and will treat them write yet there are woman going out at night getting drunk and looking for sex. So please tell me what a ...
A. 2 January 2007: A man must have confidence in himself and his abilities (what ever they may be.) He must have a sense of purpose, something he strives for, the ability to keep us on our toes and interested (with out hurting us.) He must be secure in both his ... (read in full...)
He's too possessive, jealous and controlling! He even tries to tell me what to wear! Help!
Q. hey, me and my bf have been goin out 7months, he is very controlling, he doesnt like me tlkin to other people and wants my attention 24/7, he hates me going out with my mates and hes scared all the other guys always stare at me. he also doesnt like ...
A. 2 January 2007: Honey, you need to get out of this relationship right now. Any man that tries to control who you see, what you wear and calls you names is not good. These are all signs of an abuser. Relationships like these (usually with men over compensating ... (read in full...)
My daughter is dating a man I disapprove of and it driving a wedge between us! Help?
Q. Hi, please help. My daughter is 18 almost 19 years old and dating a really old guy, he's 27 and I disapprove very much. My daughter lives on her own and pays her own bills so she assumes this means that i have no control over her. she's been seein...
A. 2 January 2007: Dear Anonymous Mom,
We all understand your pain. Letting go of a child is not an easy thing, but unless you let go and allow her to make decisions on her own, she will never become a woman you can be proud to say is your daughter. The best advi... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel he's not showing enough love..why is that?
Q. I am happy with my boyfriend for 4 years, we are happy there are also lots of things we enjoy to do.. We also plan for our future but sometimes i don't feel love when he doesn't kiss or hug me,and no sweet words came from him when he is busy... ...
A. 2 January 2007: Listen, men weren't born with a mind reading gene. And yes, sometimes they can be insensitive dolts, especially after four years in a relationship, but in order for you to get what you want out of this relationship, you need to speak up. Most men ... (read in full...)
We aren't honest to each other and we fight a lot-is it time to end this?
Q. I'm in love with this guy.He has been my boyfriend for 3 years and I want to spend my life with him.But I just dont have feelings for him like I used to.I think he likes me a little more than I like him.I also like other guys and want to get with ...
A. 2 January 2007: Arguing, keeping secrets, and 'wanting' other guys is not love, and if you feel like this he certainly ISN'T the 'right one' for you. It sounds like you have placed an expectation on yourself and this relationship that you need to give up on. ... (read in full...)
Am I kidding myself... does she just not want me or is it because of all her problems?
Q. ive been with my partner 7 years,2 years ago she finished with me,i won her round with a mixture of flowers AND chocs being a friend and slowly we got back on track,althro it never quite got back to what it was,then just before xmas she finished ...
A. 2 January 2007: I think all the problems are the reason she has "rejected you." Having a parent die, major surgery, and money issues are all huge stressers on a person, and to have them all happen in the last few years is a lot to deal with. You say she has been ... (read in full...)
I thought he was my soul mate but he doesn't see me enough!
Q. I "thought" I met my soulmate 4 months ago. I am 41 and he's 34 and we both are college graduates and in the education field. He asked me to marry him after he lands a promotion as a principal. The problem is although he calls me several times a ...
A. 2 January 2007: This guy has the classic "I'm so in to me, I can't think about you" thought process it isn't even funny. First, I think it is great that you suggested that you go your separate ways... You've got him thinking now. Now you need to follow that up ... (read in full...)
I'm always last on his priority list..I feel unwanted! What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone, thankyou for taking time to read this. I have been with my bf for 6 years, however i cant help but feel neglected. He never bothers with valentines, birthdays, anniversarys, he just never seems so spare a thought for me, its not like...
A. 1 January 2007: I would suggest doing something to get his attention with something like "See ya later! I'm moving on!" If he really wants you he will decide that losing you would be a bad thing and maybe he needs to invest ALOT more in to keeping you, OR, he ... (read in full...)
I tease, I flirt, I get them hot... how can I stop this dangerous game!?
Q. so i have this game that i play to keep myself entertained..let me start off by saying im a sex freak that doesnt have sex. wierd huh? i think about it most of my day, i blatantly check out guys..their face, body, buldge..whatever it is i check it ...
A. 1 January 2007: Honestly I think this is typical behavior for a 16/17 year old female... you are just discovering the real power of your sexuality. This is a great thing..but... you really need to curb this behavior. For one, someday someone isn't going to take ... (read in full...)
she had a nice time then left me
Q. ok people i need help if u dont mind.... i went on a date the other day and the girl said while she was on the date that she was haing a good time rite thats good rite?? and then when she got home she txtd me sayin "hey had a good time last ni...
A. 1 January 2007: Yes, if she said she had a good time she had a good time... so take that as a compliment and remember what you did. As for her "things have changed" statement... that is precisely it... 'things changed,' like maybe an ex-boyfriend resurfaced, or ... (read in full...)
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