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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost 7 months now and we are getting closer than ever. She recently told me that if i wanted we could go to second base. i don't know what to do, i'm only 14 but i love her more than anything. i'm worried about what will happen in are relationship if i do... but then again, if i say no how will she take it? What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): I am also 14 and literally just went to 2nd a few days ago, I'm a girl so I think I can give you some advice. I'm my boyfriend's 1st girlfriend so he's also new at it, and it was my 1st time going to 2nd. Basically it wasn't a big deal at all, we were making out and he "grazed" or whatever for a bit, then a week later again making out he went under the shirt, and it was hardly the kind of thing I would point out as being bad or good, it was absolutely fine. As long as you both feel comfortable there is nothing that can go wrong. Going to 2nd doesn't necessarily mean you have to go any farther, I know that for the moment I am fine where I'm at. And don't listen to people who say that you can't be in love at 14, because you most definitely can. Good luck, just take it slow and trust yourself, I'm sure she'll really appreciate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni ended up going for it and i don't regret itThanks for all of your help,
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reader, passthechocolate +, writes (4 January 2007):
You're 14. You may think you love her, but trust me, you don't know what love is when you're 14. If she says do it, do it. Feel her up, just keep going until she says stop. Just make sure you stop when she asks! Just take it from someone who lost their virginity young, don't let her go all the way. She will regret it for the rest of her life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2007): Well I've gone to second base with my Girlfriend, and we've only been going out for 2 months (But then again we were drunk) but if you feel that you really want to, and she's cool with it, then go for it! I think you'll find that if you give in to temptation and go for it, it'll certainly boost your confidence. I agree with guardian87 here, if you guys love each other so much, then you're certain to get through it =]
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reader, Lillia  +, writes (2 January 2007):
 Only do things you feel comfortable doing and if you are ready
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2007): Is it because you don't know how to do it or u don't know if you want to? If you don't want to then don't do it. If she is worth it she will take this fine and be like yeh thats cool. If she goes WTF omg u loser then she isnt worth it. Also it isnt hard to do it!
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reader, hugs2muchgal  +, writes (2 January 2007):
 like the person below said, only go as far as you are comfortable
she said if you wanted to you could right? well if you are not ready, make sure you tell her you love her, but dont want to push her. by making it seem as though its about her she will reveal to you whether or not she is really ready. then you will also know how much she wants it. for all you know, she could just be trying to please you. as a girl i know that we sometimes will do things we arent entirely ready for if it will please our boyfriends.
also the fact that you are 14, you are still young, but if you truly love your girlfriend, even if you are nervous, you will realize everything you do with her will be an experience. just wait until you are ready and you will not regret it when the time comes.
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reader, guardian87 +, writes (1 January 2007):
 dude, only go as far as u feel comfortable going. I will tell u that every first time will probably always be awkward between u and ur partner, but if u love her as much as u say u do, and she loves u the same back, there is no doubt in my mind that you two will get through it.
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