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writes: I have a problem with saying no to boys. Last week this boy said he liked me and he was a great friend and i said i liked him to, even though I didn't cos I felt sorry for him.I'm scared in the future I might do something i don't feel happy with cos i can't say no, i don't no why its probally cos i like flattery and i do things when boys say stuff bout how i look. I go like gooey in side. How can i stop this. cos really scared bout it cos once i've done something bad it sticks wiv me for years.I'm that sort of person ! Reply to this Question
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reader, girlwithproblems +, writes (31 December 2006):
girlwithproblems is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanx for everyone whos given me advice. I will certainly keep in mind all of your thoughts. ta xx :D
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reader, Lillia  +, writes (30 December 2006):
 Saying no is not a horrible thing to do!
Lets think of it 4rom the other point of view...
Pretend that you like somebody and you compliment them and they tell you that they like you back, but they are just saying it because they do not want to hurt you...
would you feel more upset if you was beliving something that was not true??? or if it was different and they said look i dont feel for you in that way???
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reader, totochick23 +, writes (30 December 2006):
i'm a model and i have the same problems as you i'm only 16 and boys seem to try and take advantage. i just turn around to them an say piss off an it seems to work for me. the next day i'll just be laughing and joking with them again and its all forgoten. just be confident and if you dont feel confdent just pretend you are. i used to pretend to be confident and now i dont have to preetend because i have grown more confident!!
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reader, Rainee  +, writes (29 December 2006):
 It sounds like you don't have a problem saying "no" so much as you have a problem of not wanting to hurt someones feelings and letting them down.
Next time something like this occurs, consider that it's YOUR feelings that come first, and you'll ultimately let YOURSELF down if you don't speak the truth.
As for receiving compliments, a simple "Thank you!" or "That's so nice of you to say!" are appropriate responses. Remember that just because a guy gives you something (like a compliment or a dinner, for example), it doesn't mean you owe them anything other than gratitude.
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reader, angelbbabe7490 +, writes (29 December 2006):
 hey.. i think that mabye you are not use to recieving compliments from boys.. but when you do get compliments you feel loved or attracted to the person. you do not want to do anything you will regret because if you do then boys will think you are easy and they will loose there respect for you. You also seem like the type of person that cares very much about peoples feelings. saying no may hurt ones feelings but life is not always about pleasing others.. you have to gain control and do what make you happy and NO ONE ELSE! i hope in the long run everything works out smoothly for you and i hope that my advice helps =)
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reader, XxXLoveAngelXxX +, writes (29 December 2006):
 Next time this sort of thing comes up, just say thats really sweet but I dont feel the same way. Its that easy! They might be a bit hurt, but they'll forgive you if you let them down easily.
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