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Do most guys in their 20's prefer "trashy" women?

Q.   The guy I like said to us last night that he prefers women who are "trashy". When we asked him what he meant by "trashy" he said those who are more sexually forward/experienced and are liberal about things like doing drugs, as they're more "open ...

A.   5 January 2015: not to sure on the drug part ..but if you by trashy girls you also mean 'easy girls' Then I would say about 70-80% of Men are like that tbf . But I am in the smaller proportion of that and trashy girls are not attractive to me . I do not wa... (read in full...)

Still a virgin - is it too late for me?

Q.   Dear Cupid, So cards in the table, I'm a 28 year old virgin and very inexperienced (I.e have only ever kissed and had my breasts fondled). I'm not religious, or waiting for my soul mate it's just I've been very career focused so relationships/se...

A.   5 January 2015: I am a 26 year old dude and tbf I wouldn't find it weird . In fact to me too me it would make the girl seem a bit more special . too many people sleep about these days and a lot of girls by the time they are 18 have slept about a bit . so no i... (read in full...)

Do I have a lot to learn or is he trying to take advantage of me?

Q.   Hello, So my boyfriend is 7 years older than me and we have been dating for under a year. This is the first time I have dated an older guy. We don't live together and we are only together a few nights out of the week after we both get off for work...

A.   5 January 2015: what an absolute dick head!! as if he said you have got a lot to learn .. He wants you to come home from work not get changed and also run his errands around the house . either tell him staight you are not falling for his shit or dump... (read in full...)

I found out my boyfriend is cheating, how do I handle it?

Q.   My boyfriend of 5 months has been acting strange he used to reply to my messages within an hour at the most but usually straight away but now he keeps coming up with stupid reasons like his phone needs charging I can charge my phone and still reply ...

A.   5 January 2015: Dump him ... walk away ... that's it ... (read in full...)

I want more than an ordinary life, but my husband is very ordinary

Q.   Hard to know where to start and I'm going to try not to waffle on for hours.... In a nutshell I have been with my partner 3.5 years, married in August (so married for about 4 months now). For the majority of the relationship it has been happy, ...

A.   19 December 2014: And I do agree as well ... (read in full...)

First he was very keen. I wanted to proceed slowly. Yet now he seems to be becoming less interested. Why? What should I do?

Q.   Hi I'd like some advice please. I've recently started dating a new man but I've had really bad experiences in past relationships and am extremely insecure. When we first started dating he was very full on - flowers, mix tapes(!), dinners, he treat...

A.   19 December 2014: well did you agree to be his girlfriend or did you say lets give it time? If I was really trying to impress a girl Ie flowers , and Mix tapes and thought I was being a gentleman and then told me to take it slow I would think I was going OTT and ... (read in full...)

Is he still looking out for me on Facebook?

Q.   I was close to a guy on Facebook and having quite flirty chats with him - until he suddenly decided to move onto another girl who was obviously more appealing to him. I feel sad that we don't talk now like before, but I have noticed I am still on...

A.   19 December 2014: basically the green light means that he is on line and that is it. The fact that you have not been deleted means nothing I am afraid unless he likes to delete girls he is not talking to any more ? who used to start the conversations be... (read in full...)

Does this mean that he stills care about me? Is he angry still?

Q.   About a month ago I found out that my ex got engaged. I was devastated, cry the whole night, and was depressed. I wanted to contacted him but I decided not to let my emotions drive me to insanity. He cheated on me so I broke up our engagement and ...

A.   18 December 2014: why would he be angry .. he cheated on you and you ended the relationship he has no reason to be angry . Also I do not feel he is sending you a message , you are not on his friends list and has not added you. But also why would you want to get ... (read in full...)

How do I handle his new interest in me?

Q.   A guy who stood me up twice before because of work and 'leading a very busy life' has now suddenly showed up again. After 2/3 months or so. I had called the entire thing off after he had seemed reluctant and slow in his replies and apologies. The ...

A.   17 December 2014: piss him off! If people really want to spend time with you they will make it .. and it will be there top priority and they will make certain of other arrangements if failed . for you all you know over them 3- 3 months he could of been with ano... (read in full...)

His actions speak louder than words, what do you think?

Q.   I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend around ten months. We only see each other twice a week due to work commitments on both parts so the time I get to spend with him is precious. He has told me I'm the first woman he's ever truly loved...

A.   17 December 2014: well what ever it sounds like .... it looks like you are not happy in it ? In which case the best thing to do is speak to him and tell him because if not you will just be winding your self up. ok if he hardly sees you and when he does he is ... (read in full...)

Men, would you keep going back if the sex wasn't good?

Q.   1) Would a man (being the initiator 90% of the time) keep having sex with a woman if it was bad sex? Bad as in, you couldn't orgasm during the act and had to take care of yourself later, it was too loose, too wet, too sloppy, she was a dead lay. ...

A.   16 December 2014: pretty much the same outcome ... so it doesn't matter. But if a case of what you said that I would have to finish myself of afterwards .. then I wouldn't see the point of going back for it .... (read in full...)

Tried online dating. Do I cut my loses and move on? Or contact him again to meet?

Q.   Em ok at that stage where i want to Date again so decided to do online dating on a Site So i clicked Yes to Meet and Sent a Message with my picture in it. Didn't Hear anything so decided to Cut my loses and move on. A Few days later he Clicked l...

A.   15 December 2014: online dating is very hit and miss. people can be interested at once stage and then not the other . Just take it as easy and see who else is about on there... (read in full...)

Feel really bad about this. I've cheated by kissing another girl. Said I would never cheat. So why did I kiss this other girl?

Q.   Hello everyone, as I'm writing this, I'm very shocked and I think you will be shocked also, as I can't believe this has just happened nor can I believe I'm typing this. Im in a relationship it's not been the best relationship through out, when I ...

A.   15 December 2014: The only way you can let go of the guilt it to actually tell your gf what you have done . in terms of why you have done it .. god knows ... but the way you explain your relationship is rather bad for 6 months , at this stage you should more or ... (read in full...)

Did he ever love me? Will he come back?

Q.   Hi I met a.man last year and couldn't believe it when he showed interest. Only thing is he loves to drink and always be out, it's not always possible having children and working full time and when he asked he would give.me a ten second window a...

A.   15 December 2014: He sounds a dick . you should aim your hopes with somebody better . It does not seem as if he loved you if he kept disappearing also if you have seen him with another girl , you are not the main thought in his mind . so try to focus on so... (read in full...)

My husband had the following conversation with the woman he slept with behind my back. Please tell me what you think of it

Q.   I'm writing this post because i found something which has concerned me a bit. I have been married for a little over a year and things have been going fine, at least, i thought so. Before we got married my husband slept with another woman be...

A.   15 December 2014: like Wise said there is slight flirtation but no body is doing it outright . its almost although they are testing the water. The term different can mean anything really, at first I read it the messages and he seemed honest but he set up to mee... (read in full...)

Why wont he tell me why he doesn't want a relationship?

Q.   I met a guy at the start of the year, everything was good, sex was great, enjoyed his company. After the 4th time we had sex he decided to ignore me and go back online dating. I demanded why he done this and where I stood and he apologised to me...

A.   9 December 2014: I am pretty sure on some dating sites they advise blokes to put there status as looking for a relationship because it looks better. So if a men is looking for a hook up or casual sex then they will not look like that is the only thing they are... (read in full...)

How do guys feel about that playful, affectionate, sweet girl?

Q.   I am married with young children and am considered to be an attractive female. I am a very playful, affectionate, caring person, sweet person. I think people see me as that innocent yet fun flirty girl. Anyway, my question is, sometimes when I show ...

A.   9 December 2014: If a single girl was touchy feely with me I would be fine .. but if my mates mrs was touchy feely with me I would feel awkward . But in the same sense some blokes would be ok with it and then also some blokes might see it as a flirt .... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has no time for me and calls me terrible names

Q.   Hi, everyone, hope your day is going well. I have been with my boyfriend for two months now. He lives an hour away, I drive to see him just about every weekend. When I go all he wants to do is play video games. So, for hours I just sit there and ...

A.   9 December 2014: well it sounds asif he is trying to break it up with you or has a lot of self pity for him self. but why do you want to stay with a man of which you travel and hour to see him once a weekend and then he doesnt spend time with you? heck you even... (read in full...)

Would every man cheat if he could?

Q.   I have big problems trusting men One of my friends claims that almost every man would cheat on his wife if given the opportunity to with a woman with a porn star body if he could be guaranteed not to be caught The sad thing is I think she might ...

A.   9 December 2014: I had a relationship from 17-22 with a girl , and I used to work far away from my gf . me and these other 2 chaps used to work on the town centres high streets ( different parts ) They used to get girls and cheat on there partners heck they use... (read in full...)

Why do men persist when they know you are aleady attached?

Q.   Hello all, just curious, are there guys out there who despite knowing that a lady is attached, still goes all the way out to ask her out on dates because he is interested in her? And if so, why would they do that when there are many ladies who are ...

A.   9 December 2014: Because they are cocks and like the other person said they know no boundaries . But also in the same context they know that there are also girls out there who are with men , who still like attention from other men and there are women who would st... (read in full...)

I want to initiate contact!

Q.   I go running at the park nearby. There is a guy who has shown interest in me multiple times. I am also somewhat attracted to him. I have never spoken to him but he must be married and in his late 30's or early 40's. I am also married and I will turn ...

A.   9 December 2014: with you both being married no you shouldn't . why would you want to. If you fancy someone and you are married there is no point ... right ..... (read in full...)

I think this is disprespectful -- am I right?

Q.   Girlfriend told me that another guy has been touching her butt in school and she basically just lets him smack it! I feel so betrayed by this. Dnt I have the right? Is this not super disrespectful? ...

A.   9 December 2014: OK I see it this way. If the chap knows that your girlfriend has a boyfriend then yes he is a dickhead even more so if he knows you as a friend. But if he doesn't know and she has a boyfriend and she has not told him. Then it is not his fault... (read in full...)

My wife wants my permission to go out and flirt with other men when it suits her

Q.   My wife and I have been together for 17 years, married for 12. We're still young-ish in our 30s because we met young. We've had a great marriage overall and have a relationship that was genuingely best friends first, then it became romantic. She ...

A.   9 December 2014: no mate . you are just setting yourself up to get hurt . Not saying she will cheat but you will be pissed off to know blokes are flirting with your wife and she likes it. Also then you will begin to be wound up at yourself for actually giving ... (read in full...)

Why do guys like what they can't have?

Q.   Why do guys like pictures of models and half naked women on the internet that they have no chance in being with? Almost every guy I know does this. Some say that they just view them as eye candy and have no respect for them, yet it seems hypocri...

A.   5 December 2014: its human nature to want what you cant have . It makes us want it more . Also plenty of women do it also... (read in full...)

In anger he said I'm unattractive

Q.   Hi, I have been married for 4 yrs,my husband treats me well except for few small fights.last night we had a fight,he told me in anger,I dont look attractive,he is making love out of sympathy.next moment he realized what he told and not accepting ...

A.   4 December 2014: hmmm like the others said he might of said it out of spite as he knows it could offend. And good job you have seen sense and not took it to heart :) . I wouldn't usually say this but use it to your advantage then if he is initiating sex ,... (read in full...)

Should I see him just for sex or find someone else?

Q.   I am a 28 year old female. I got sick of being a virgin, so recently I went on a few dates with an older man, and we had sex. It was great, I enjoyed our time together so much. It hurt the first time, but the next time was perfect. However...

A.   4 December 2014: just let him know you are only looking for sex at the moment . Be straight and upfront . Tbf I don't feel there are many guys that will not be happy with that arrangement . Just make sure he knows it is not a relationship... (read in full...)

A friend has become obsessive and the guy can't see it

Q.   hi everyone im hoping someone can shed some light on what i feel is an obsessive situation, my friend has this friend who i have never met and everytime he puts something on facebook she likes it any photo she likes it he could just put a random ...

A.   4 December 2014: I am guessing he is close to your age? In which case hopefully he can look after himself. just leave it be .. as long as she doesn't start hassling you its none of your concern ... (read in full...)

Where can this relationship go if he wont be honest and commit

Q.   i met a guy on a dating site 3 months ago and had some dates we both came off the site but recently hes gone back on he hasnt told me this, i just found out. he said he wants to see me again and likes me then tells me (what i think is rubbish) he ...

A.   4 December 2014: I would say you are correct .. it seems he is keeping you as a maybe. cancelling on you 3 times now... granted he could be skint but if I was going on a date with a girl I wanted too .. guess what I would make sure I have got funds and after 3 ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend got another girl pregnant and I don't know what to do

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and the relationship had its ups and downs.last month I found out that he impregnated another girl and I don't have a child with him because I was using the contraceptive I was not ready to give him a ...

A.   4 December 2014: Yep I just read the beat me part? sorry to be blunt here but you should fuck him off! Not only is he an absolute Arse to cheat and get the girl pregnant ! But also if he is beating you. why would you want to be with a dickhead like tha... (read in full...)

How can I get a date with this shy guy before I lose my chance?

Q.   Hello. I'm in a band and have suffered from some hearing damage so may need to leave. I am band members with a guy I really like but we only see each other at these rehearsals and if I leave I know I won't see him again until I go to my band's gigs ...

A.   4 December 2014: yep just mention .. ' I know I will be leaving the band , but would like to stay in contact with you' Then there you go :) good luck... (read in full...)

Is having a really intense and perverted makeout session as good as sex?

Q.   Is having a really intense and perverted makeout session as good as sex? Soo....Let's say me and a guy had a makeout session...with me in panties and him only in boxers.....and he ejaculated through them and onto my stomach....and then he grinded ...

A.   4 December 2014: it can be ! And even more so with Women . In regards to the man, usually if you have a long period of 'dry Humping/grinding' Eventually he will end up ejaculating. But yeah don't rush into it , enjoy all the fore play before etc and that wil... (read in full...)

I'm so unsure what he wants from this relationship

Q.   Hi aunt's and uncle's. I have a confusing situation regarding a man I am dating. We have been dating about month now and talking since the beginning of September. I sometimes get the feeling he's not interested, but then all of sudd...

A.   4 December 2014: I haven't dated in ages and it is very confusing for me!lol But it is only a month so there is no need for a major commitments at the moment I feel. But take it as good that he calls you when he can , and makes plans for the future , I woul... (read in full...)

How do I reply to an amazing compliment?

Q.   Hello :) Me and my friend who i have know for more than 4 years, and I haven't seen for 2 years (he is in a different city for school) were exchanging emails about a video he sent me, discussing some science and I told him some crazy ideas I had, a...

A.   4 December 2014: I think Eric has hit it on the head with the answer .. And yep it seems altough somebody might like somebody out of the two of them :) ... (read in full...)

I caught my girlfriend wearing sexy bra & panties...cheating right?

Q.   My girlfriend of two years came home from work and was undressing out of her work uniform when I walked into our bedroom and saw that she was secretly wearing sexy lace bra and panties under her work outfit. I never saw or got her the sexy panties ...

A.   4 December 2014: like the others are saying .. is this the only information you have got that she is cheating? if so then it is a silly reason to think she is cheating . From her side , imagine she had been wearing them all day feeling good about her self a... (read in full...)

I think I'm bisexual and I hate myself for it

Q.   I recently discovered that I am bisexual. I'm a 16 year old male. I feel like I am a straight guy trapped in a bisexual guy's body. I don't think I was meant to be this way and it makes me sad because I don't accept myself at all. I hate myself ...

A.   3 December 2014: maybe you have been brought up somewhere where Homosexuality is not so popular ? or maybe close family members are quite against it ? ( just guessing) But you can not stop who you are I am afraid mate ...it what makes you .. you. erm who... (read in full...)

Will my boyfriend's feelings for me become stronger now that he's finally had an orgasm?

Q.   Okay sooo, I made my man cum for the first time ever in life from fellatio . We hav been together now for 6 years and not once could I. He's told me that was his first time cumming this way . Will this change his feelings more now in a g...

A.   3 December 2014: I do not know about feelings ...but if you are the first girl to make him cum during Oral I am sure it will be something he wont ever forget . Just keep doing what you are doing I guess :)... (read in full...)

Is it ok to change my mind about staying with my boyfriend who cheated on me?

Q.   I can't get over the fact my boyfriend cheated on me , pure and simple. But I'm so worried about how people will view me leaving him when I took him back only a few months ago. So basically, my boyfriend slept with some random girl over the su...

A.   3 December 2014: well with his Mom ... I would not worry ... I mean I guess she knows that he cheated in the first place so she should know you haven't done any wrong. Also with regards to your friends .. yes you might feel silly but don't worry.. you know the sa... (read in full...)

Do I believe him or not? My older married lover says he'll leave his wife when I finish college.

Q.   My older, married lover tells me he will eventually leave his wife once I finish college. He has brought up the idea of having a baby together recently. Does this mean he is serious about our relationship and would having his baby be a good choice? ...

A.   3 December 2014: I am sorry hun..but more than likely he is getting his fling and just having fun . Do not settle for 2nd best go for somebody closer to your age who will treat you well . you have got loads of time to go out with older men.. ... (read in full...)

My wife and I have survived so much and made it through hard times, why now am I so upset?

Q.   My wife had serious problems in her family several years ago, including a father who was terminally ill. It took years for him to die and it was a long downward spiral as his brain atrophied. He eventually passed away right around the time I lost my ...

A.   3 December 2014: Maybe you lied to yourself about it ? I mean as a man and when finding out your wife has been having affairs , you even said thankfully she was not sick or pregnant . That is understanding ... I mean if it was me that would not be my main conce... (read in full...)

My ex FWB called me a stalker and then blocked me. Why cant he see I was just trying to help?

Q.   So a little background: a guy that I was having a friends with benefits situation with for a year and 4 months, started talking again after we had a fight a few months ago (he also knows that i did like him and had feelings for him in the past)...

A.   3 December 2014: he sounds like a total cock ! If he thinks she is such a psycho there is no need to give you grief for wanting to help him. If I was you just leave it .. do not text hi, fb him, call or anything . If he keeps apparently meeting girls who are ... (read in full...)

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