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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2014): I wear sexy underwear daily to work and even considered stockings and suspenders too (hate tights) . Wearing sexy underwear to work makes me feel good and reflects in my confidence, even if no one knows I have it on underneath. It does not automatically mean I'm having some back room fling with a co worker :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2014): Maybe your girl friend needs to do laundry.
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reader, lifesgreat  +, writes (4 December 2014):
like the others are saying .. is this the only information you have got that she is cheating?
if so then it is a silly reason to think she is cheating .
From her side , imagine she had been wearing them all day feeling good about her self and then when she gets back her chap accuses her of cheating .
so she was bound to be pissed off.
good luck
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 December 2014):
 So because she wore sexy matching UNDIES (btw I do that under my work clothes too now and then) you think she's cheating.
The only thing that MAY indicate this is that she blew up at you and got defensive about it. BUT that applies ONLY IF THERE ARE OTHER SIGNS OF CHEATING... is she hiding her phone, "working late" or any other things OUT of the NORM for her??? IF NOT...
DUDE you blew it.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (4 December 2014):
Dump her.
She deserves better than you.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (4 December 2014):
Dude...If your girl was cheating on you, I would not blame her one bit. That explosive attitude, STUPID anger, and the "I am so sure all the signs are there" superior mentality. Yep...All the signs are there that if you keep that SH*T up, she will be wearing those for someone else.
If I were to walk in on my girl wearing sexy bra and undies...guess what? She won't be wearing them for long.
If when you walked in and she hid herself because she got busted wearing that...then worry. If she didn't care until you let your massive amount wisdom out to let her know about it...Then I am afraid she is right when she called you the "S" word...And it was not Smart.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (4 December 2014):
 Wait, what?
I think you should end it with her, no woman deserves a guy who have so LOW thought of a GF.
I have worn sexy lace stuff under my RIDING breeches because I WANTED to. I have worn CUTE underwear that NO ONE (but me ) would see at work or out on a girls night. IT wasn't because I was planning to cheat or go home with someone. It was because I WANTED to wear it. IT made ME feel good.
WTF is wrong with you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2014): I'm not into sexy underwear myself, it's uncomfortable and I don't feel sexy at all in it, but most typical women do like it it seems from the success of victoria's secret and other lingerie sales. I hardly see that as confirmation that she is cheating on you. Do you have other reasons to suspect that? Otherwise I think you're over reacting and making a mistake here. I'm not sure what to think about her reaction of cursing at you, but if you were aggressive with your reaction that would explain it.
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reader, txngal +, writes (4 December 2014):
Wow. You have the wrong idea kid.
Women wear sexy, cute lingerie for themselves sometimes. It just feels good, makes you feel confident. I do it all the time and I'm certainly not cheating on my boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2014): Uhm...what?!! You want to break-up because she's wearing a sexy bra and panties? I'm gay, but that seems like the wrong reaction for a straight-guy!!!
I wonder what would have happened if you took a look at her and said: " Wow, baby! You look really sexy in that bra and panties! Where have you been hiding them!!!"
I think HER reaction and response was appropriate. She certainly should have cursed you out! I think getting pissed-off about her wearing hot underwear WAS kind of stupid!
I guess you'll be doing her a favor if you dump her. I wouldn't want to be accused of cheating for wearing sexy underwear. Since you're so paranoid that you think she's cheating based on so little evidence; I think she should dump you first.
I order sexy men's underwear online. I wear them because I work out, and I look good in them.
Did it ever occur to you that she has decided to wear sexy underwear from now on, just because she feels she looks good in them? Well, she probably isn't going to wear any for you! It's the granny-panties for you, dude!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2014): 'secretly wearing sexy lace bra and panties'
What did you want her to do? Give you and the world a news bulletin of what she'd be wearing for the rest of the day?
In her shoes I'd have sent you to the naughty corner to reflect on your reaction. Seriously? What does her choice of wardrobe have to do with anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2014): Celtic Tiger is right. Women but lingerie to treat themselves to something nice. Like mani's and pedi's. It's a way for some inexpensive me time.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (3 December 2014):
I think you should have some actual evidence before you dump her. This is purely coincidental.
Is she cheating? Who knows? This only proves that she was wearing sexy underwear and nothing else at this point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2014): What???? You are considering ending a relationship simply because your gf wore sexy underwear. Oh wow. Have you considered that sometimes us women do things to feel better about ourselves and not always for men?
The fact she did that likely means nothing, zero, nada
Before jumping to conclusions why don't you try talking to her in a non accusatory way.
Sometimes women feel a bit down on their body image and try to feel sexier by dressing nice under their clothes. Is she confident, does she love her body? Or does she have some insecurities about that, like most of us?
Talk to her gently. Tell her you have never seen her wear that and it has you worried. Listen to her response
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (3 December 2014):
 Words fail me.
You are basing a decision to end a relationship based on a set of lace bra and panties which you did not buy for your girlfriend.
Really?
Women buy nice underwear NOT for a MAN but for themselves. If you go into any shop that sells underwear, most will have lacy bits, or be a bit sexy. No woman wants to feel frumpy and unsexy.
Women also have extensive knicker collections. And lots of bras. Sometimes we have a favourite set that gets worn to death, others are kept for special occasions and some just get left at the bottom of the drawer.
I honestly think you need to get a grip over this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2014): LOL
seriously dude? You might end a relationship of 2 years because she wanted to wear something nice for HERSELF under her work outfit?
Dude, you have serious trust issues.
Maybe if you trust her more you might get to see her sexy undies more yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2014): It's more likely she wore them for you, then you went crazy on her and she got embarassed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2014): She might have been saving it for you for a later date. I doubt she'd be actually f*cking someone at work.
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