Feeling guilty about walking away from my drug addict guy. Was I wrong to take some distance?
Q. Hi everyone I have been in a relationship for a few months with a guy who is a drug addict. He uses coke, meth, heroin, etc. We recently spoke about his drug addiction and I told him that I will be there to support his recovery. He just has to ...
A. 30 August 2014: no not at all.
The only way I would say yes was if you got him into the drugs.
But no you are being kind and caring for somebody who is in a bad position and to be fair he needs to do it for himself .
Drugs are a hard thing to get off an... (read in full...)
I told her how her behaviour had affected me so she left with another guy
Q. My ex's solution to everything while we were together was to always storm out in the middle of a discussion. Or snap and break up with me about just about anything, and then leave me standing there wondering what the hell had just happened. So many ...
A. 30 August 2014: Mate no offence here but she sounds like a crazy skank.
The fact she runs away and any conflict towards her and the fact she let you see her get into a car with a man you hate just after you confessed your concerns.
you deserve much bet... (read in full...)
I found out my wife was/is a call girl. How do I end this marriage with the least amount of pain?
Q. hi lovely people out there..... im really in mess. i do need your help so desperately .... please. Here is my story. i married a girl just 3 months ago. i knew her about a year. I happen to know her by a friend i used know. She was her relative...
A. 30 August 2014: you have plenty of reason to end the marriage.
And do not need to worry about how it effects other people you married this girl thinking she was something else so it her own doing .
Just get divorced and move on .
Good luck ... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend sends me a friend request on Facebook after four years of not talking?
Q. Ok I have not spoken to my ex boyfriend in almost four years mainly because we had an ugly break up and he was kind of an asshole towards me after we broke up (rubbing his new gf in my face, calling me names) . It was to the point I couldn't take it ...
A. 23 August 2014: I would say testing the waters .
Maybe he has had guilt come over him and just wants to feel that he wasn't a total ass to you.
But I wouldn't count is anything special , if you want to add him then add him but don't think too in depth about i... (read in full...)
Can I still pull it off with my childish underwear?
Q. I've never been sexually active with someone else before and never saw a need to impress. I'm having sex soon and don't know if my cotton polka dotted panties and plain bras will pull off the seductive look. I'm low on cash so can't go buying ...
A. 21 August 2014: no he wont care about it . That's all that can be said .
even better you feel confident in your body ... (read in full...)
They say your first kiss is your best, how do I get over the fact that I'm not my boyfriend's first?
Q. This is driving me insane....can anyone help please? So me and my bf are in love but recently I've been getting really insecure about his past especially the fact that I wasn't his first kiss but he was mine. It never bothered me before but I accide...
A. 18 August 2014: You know what I cant even remember my first kiss and to be fair I don't actually think it is important to lads.
I have never heard of the butterflies when having the first kiss , so maybe what you are hearing is similar when people say the firs... (read in full...)
Why did he only call me "cute," and how do I stay safe on my next date if we're alone at his place?
Q. [Mod note: two questions from the same asker and concerning the same date have been combined] Went on a lovely, but brief date with a 23 yr old guy at the mall. It was my first date ever, and according to me (and my lack of experience), it went mos...
A. 18 August 2014: On a first date being called cute isn't a bad thing at all.
Regards to another date don't go to he's place, he is attracted to you and you are him so it will be easy to get caught up and just have sex. so go out in public and make him wait a w... (read in full...)
A guy I work with doesn't get nervous when he talks to me. Does that mean he isn't as attracted to me?
Q. Ok there's this guy I work with a few years older to myself, who is also single, who I get the impression may be attracted to me. He is only at my work place twice a month - he works at another store. He always tries to talk to me and I feel he ...
A. 18 August 2014: not being nervous or being nervous around you doesn't mean much.
If I like a girl I can be a cluts around them and some girls I don't fancy I am not a cluts around.
But some people are different and act the same when they fancy somebody .
Ju... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend wont pay back money I lent him!
Q. I recently asked my ex to payback some money he owes me. It's not much (150 dollars) but still, I think it is only fair he pays me back. I know he is strapped on cash and I am doing much better financially, but I don't understand how someone could ...
A. 18 August 2014: Its either spite or just being awkward for the fun of it .
But none the less sounds like you are better off with out him so well done on that .
As for your money I don't really think you can do anything about it unless you both signed some pape... (read in full...)
He gives me stability, but there is a 30 year age gap!
Q. Dear cupid, I need help , I was talking to a much older man without any real touchy it could be more then friends but i think in catching feelings and I'm afraid to be judged since he is so much older i am 26 he is 55 I might also mention i have a ...
A. 18 August 2014: well are you going out with him because you like him or are you just going out with him for the stability ?
If it is just for the 2nd then don't go out with him as it will be a dead end relationship and you would be using him.
if you like h... (read in full...)
My recovering drug addicted boyfriend has gone AWOL .... again!
Q. Hi everyone I come here in despair, hoping to gain some insight from objective people. I have been dating a guy who is a recovering drug addict. We have been together for just over three months. At the beginning of our relationship, h...
A. 18 August 2014: If at the early stage of the relationship he is already disappearing relapsing and going back with his ex.
I would say don't take on the agro and grief!
yes you want to help him and it is kind to do so , but he hasn't noticed that and is just... (read in full...)
I'm shy, my crush is shy, were going nowhere fast. Should I give up?
Q. he works at a local pizza hut. he is very quiet and standoffish towards his fellow employees (female and male) he ignores them, they ignore him. he wont speak without being spoken to (includes employees) when i flirt with him, he smiles, blushes, ...
A. 16 August 2014: On the flip side of him maybe being gay or not being interested. He might be crap at picking up 'hints' or 'signs' I am absolutely crap at them and I need a about 5 hints before I would even consider asking her out. Also take into account he... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated and got another girl pregnant but I still love him
Q. my boyfriend made another facebook account hidden from me and the cover photo was a picture with this girl whom i do not know. i accidentally saw their pictures on july 2 2014 and i confronted him but he said that its not what i think thats why i ...
A. 16 August 2014: Sorry to be blunt but just leave him.
Staying with him is going to be a headache 1) if the baby ends up being he's you will be in a horrible position and recent him for things . 2) He has cheated this will take you a long time to trust him.
... (read in full...)
Why do I feel alone amidst my group of friends?
Q. Hi guys I got a group of friends in my college that i spend a significant amount of time for. These guys i am hanging out with refers to each other as "bros", but somehow, i... feel quite distant from them. I don't know why i feel this way. I am g...
A. 16 August 2014: some people are quite selective with friends .
I know I am , I have a decent amount of friends ( people I could hang out with ) But I only have a handful of mates ( people I can be myself with and have a laugh with)
So maybe these types or l... (read in full...)
Why would he google my exes?
Q. I just recently found out that three months into my relationship my boyfriend went online and Googled two of my ex's. My boyfriend is not a controlling person and he is self confident - not needy our insecure. I'm not really sure what to thi...
A. 16 August 2014: From another guys point of view , I would say curious !
He might not be as self confident as you think and just feels that way when with you.
I wouldn't worry about it unless he does it again ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a pushover and at the same time I don't want to pressure her during a rough patch!
Q. i've been dating my gf for over 3 years. early on of course things were great, no problems as expected in the start of a new r/s, but lately there have been some minor problems and i'm not sure whether it's a really bad sign or just a sign of a ...
A. 15 August 2014: I would be cautious ! Simply because I had a similar situation where a long term girlfriend and we kind of went through a rough patch where she wasn't on my case as much, or wasn't coming back to me as quickly as before. And it was simply be... (read in full...)
How can I stop hating myself because I forgive her?
Q. Short and sweet. My best friend of 5 years and girlfriend of a year just up and left me. I found out she messed around with 5 other guys while she was with me. The only way I found out was one of the guys that she was messing with told me cuz he ...
A. 15 August 2014: Love can do random things to us and make us feel very mixed emotions that we shouldn't usually feel. You will more than likely just get people telling you , you can do much better off not being with her and that she is bad news. And you know wha... (read in full...)
How do I get over such a disapointing proposal? Why don't I feel so happy inside when he is the love of my life?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are together 1 year and 6 months. He proposed to me 3 days ago and it was very unexpected. He just texted me did I wanna go for a drive and I said ok. We went to the beach and I didnt want to get out as i looked like a mess ...
A. 14 August 2014: I was with a girl for 5 years and we spoke of marriage and the whole shabam.
I never wanted to be one of them couples who go engaged and took years to get married I wanted to save money to get her a big ring, I was also concerned as I was young. I... (read in full...)
Can all of these negative feelings and anxiety I have be due to the fact he cheated?
Q. Hey everyone so lately I haven't been feeling like myself lately at all!. I can't sleep what's so ever at night. I'm up all hours of the thinking, worried, and stressed out over every little thing! My ex and I broke up in June due to our ...
A. 14 August 2014: It doesn't sound like it is helping the situation . It sounds as if one minute you are thinking about working it out with him and the next minute you are thinking about working it out. To be fair the fact he has cheated a few times and that you... (read in full...)
I found naked pics of my boyfriends ex girlfriend on his laptop!
Q. Ok I'm so embarrassed about this situation. Here's the story. Not too long ago I accidentally came across my boyfriend's pornography on his laptop. I swear it was an accident although some people may not believe me. Anyway, I don't care about that ...
A. 14 August 2014: I would be shocked if he actually kept them to masturbate too , for one he can easily get porn and he is with you.
I sometimes keep pictures like that from relationships but I don't go back to them every so often to remind myself of anything... (read in full...)
I did not just expect him to pay for his share only! Is this a sign of cheapness?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a month and a half. This past weekend we went on a mini weekend trip with another couple. The other couple had bought all the food for the trip and paid for the accommodations and at the end they were going to let us ...
A. 14 August 2014: Maybe he is scoping you up to see if you are a women that just wants a bloke to buy all the time for her ?
Maybe he has had women in the past that have only used him for he's money.
As long as he doesn't start asking for Money see how it goes ... (read in full...)
Why the weekly contact from my ex?
Q. My ex and I were together for several years. We broke up around 2 months ago. Since our BU, which I initiated but he seemed to want it too, he has text me EVERY week. Every single week he sends at least one text message. They never say anything ...
A. 11 August 2014: Ok maybe I have missed a previous post here ! so I am not sure why everybody seems to think he is just after sex.
But my assumption is he is simply wanting to hold on or struggling to let go of the relationship or just wanting to double check ho... (read in full...)
I don't know if its lust or I am in love with her?
Q. So I feel as I am in a dilemma , I recently ended a relationship about a month ago because I wasn't feeling it . I told myself that it didn't want to date anyone just because I didn't feel ready for any commitment nor to lead any girl on because I ...
A. 10 August 2014: I wouldn't say love it sounds although you have had old emotions brought back and also the other relationship didn't end too long ago.
But just go with the flow if you like her... (read in full...)
What's going on? Is he just shy or am I just being led on?
Q. I've not long got out of a rubbish relationship, no feelings for a long time so I'm not worried about the moving on bit tbh. I have met someone new though. We met on a singles site and have been out about 8 times in the last 3 months. I re...
A. 10 August 2014: sounds a bit shy to me. Yeah you have been dating for 3 months but only met 8 times.
Some blokes don't like to push women as they don't want to seem they are only after one thing.
Maybe take it as a good thing he wants to get to know you?
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He's a super nice guy but I'm worried that he's gay
Q. I just started seeing this guy I met online. He is so incredibly nice, sweet and wants the same things I do. However, I worry that he may be gay and just in the closet. He's the first guy I've ever met who hasn't had his hands all over me or t...
A. 9 August 2014: did you give him hints to have he's hands all over you ? did you go for the first kiss?
Yes its down to us men I know this but some of us actually don't want to offend the women and feel if I go for that she will just think I am a sleaze b... (read in full...)
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