My ex FWB called me a stalker and then blocked me. Why cant he see I was just trying to help?
Q. So a little background: a guy that I was having a friends with benefits situation with for a year and 4 months, started talking again after we had a fight a few months ago (he also knows that i did like him and had feelings for him in the past)...
A. 3 December 2014: he sounds like a total cock ! If he thinks she is such a psycho there is no need to give you grief for wanting to help him.
If I was you just leave it .. do not text hi, fb him, call or anything . If he keeps apparently meeting girls who are ... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend seems to have no plans for us moving forward!
Q. Help! I have been in a long distance relationship for 6 months now, and I am so confused about how he feels about me. He hasn't said 'I love you', he is moving into a mortgaged house with his guy mate, which means he's making no plans to move ...
A. 3 December 2014: As a bloke ... 6 months for me seems to early to say I love you.
Also take in that usually the women fall in love first and then blokes fall after...but harder.
hmm about him buying a place with his mate , I can understand why that would be a ... (read in full...)
I had an affair, he broke it off and now has sent me an email. Do I reply to it?
Q. I am married with 2 children. Last August, my relationship with my husband was not great at all and I met someone who totally swept me off my feet. I wasn't looking for the opportunity, it just happened. I wasn't proud of myself and, in hindsight, I ...
A. 3 December 2014: so basically is your question ... should I start having an affair again?
your main concern seems to be whether or not this bloke will hurt you again. what about the effect on your husband and kids.
but you basically like the excitement/spark... (read in full...)
Is it correct to send a christmas card to my ex girlfriend parents?
Q. my long distance girlfriend and me broke up a few days ago. however her parents have been always good to me, they are very nice people and i appreciate them. i will have no more contact with my ex anymore. would it be politically incorrect to send ...
A. 3 December 2014: I wouldn't say its too bad if you got on with them well.
Just keep it basic and just include the parents names in the card... (read in full...)
My needy friend wants more time than I can give
Q. Hi aunts and uncles I'm looking for some advice on how to tactfully deal with a clingy friend. I met my friend through work, she's 4 years younger than me and we have quite a lot in common. We have known eachother since September. She started ...
A. 2 December 2014: since September this year?
you are being very nice to her and it sounds as if you and her are at different stages ie you have got a husband and children while she is younger and of course has much more free time.
maybe you should tell her ... (read in full...)
We got into a new relationship too soon after a break up and really struggling with the complications of it all.
Q. We were both in relationships when we met, but he still used to message me and we'd talk a lot but I didn't think much of it. More recently I've been single for a while and we were both at the same event over a weekend where we got on incredibly ...
A. 2 December 2014: he could of had a 'grass is greener on the other side experience'
If I was you just leave him to get on with it because at the end of the day if he wants you then he will come back to you.
But at the same time you want somebody to be s... (read in full...)
We separated and I've been hearing about other men she's slept with. Do I move on? Come to terms with her actions? Or what?
Q. Hello ive been with my girl for two years and at first everything was great. Then we both started having money problems and she got fired. Then i got injured at work. Then i started hearing rumors of other men who she slept with at one time. She w...
A. 2 December 2014: does not sound worth the grief mate!
you will just cause more hassle for your self!
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got another woman pregnant while we were broken up!
Q. My boyfriend and I were together a year and a half. I am a 32 year old woman... and have had my experience in the dating world. This man I just knew was my love from the beginning. That feeling that can't be defined. But... at the end of the year ...
A. 2 December 2014: you can try ... things will be hard! but many relationships have got past things like this .
But just depends if you can deal with him having his firs child with somebody else .
If its too much wait and see who else is about .... (read in full...)
My mother has been telling me that my husband is using me.
Q. I need a second opinion. My husband and I married almost 3 yrs ago. He is from a foreign country. Because we married, he received his green card. We lived with my mother, but moved across the street because he didn't want us to have children and not ...
A. 2 December 2014: Put it blunt... he sounds an absolute wanker!
Threatening to beat you to send money back to his family is terrible.
Also he is not showing any care towards your needs , he should be supportive!
Just get rid of him and find a man who will ... (read in full...)
Why? Why is she not into me anymore?
Q. So I have been with this girl for almost a year and at first she seemed so interested then she went on a little vacation sort of speak and while there I would talk to her on the phone and write each other letters. She told me that her old behavior...
A. 2 December 2014: Well no offence mate but she doesn't sound worth getting upset about .
But yeah it does sound as if she has met somebody else and unfortunately like a lot of girls she is getting with him while still dating you .
Anything to do with this gir... (read in full...)
Why do some people "forget" to contact you back? Is my friend being selfish ?
Q. I need advice, why do some people take so long to respond to your contact efforts? surely it becomes rude at some point? obviously there is something wrong or they no longer wish to see you..or be in contact, it happens, we lose fships.. sorry t...
A. 2 December 2014: I think things can change people in life and like you said she is mostly over her depression now so maybe she is just focusing on getting on in life and enjoying.
I have got a best mate since school days , and we used to see each other most nig... (read in full...)
I yearn for true love, harmony and happiness, again. But how? Is it too much to ask for?
Q. I miss my ex so much. Me and him broke up almost 10 years ago. We both moved on and I got married, divorced and contacted him, and he got in and out of several relationships, but today he doesn´t seem to be interrested. He was my first real...
A. 27 November 2014: Not much I am afraid ! Pretty much what you are asking for is what a lot of people would want yet not all of us get it . In regards to your ex, you should count that as dead in the water , 10 years is a long time and both of you would of ch... (read in full...)
Soon we will be in a LDR. So far one month together. Is it too soon to say "I Love you" ?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a month now. We started talking online and we talked for about two weeks before we met and we went on 3 dates before we started dating. He is an amazingly sweet guy, he makes me feel amazing, and I have nev...
A. 27 November 2014: personally I would say it is too soon. But that is me.
Also some blokes may be scared by it .
If I was you give it some time and then say it also in regards to him feeling it , he may do.
But usually the blokes fall in love at a later stage... (read in full...)
Should I follow my instincts and just walk away before it's too late, or tell my G/f up front that her lack of interest/effort is becoming a cause for concern?
Q. Hello all. Just wondering what people's thoughts were on this situation: My g/f and I have been together for just over a year. We live about 25miles apart, and we usually see each other once or twice a week and every other weekend. The...
A. 25 November 2014: if you like her a lot then raise your concerns and see the reasons why and what happens .
if not then just say bye bye ..... (read in full...)
Is it inappropriate to ask a guy to take an STD and HIV test before we date?
Q. Dear Cupid, I haven't dated in a long time but I decided if I should date again would I be wrong to bring up front about taking STD and HIV test.My health is in great condition and I want the same for the new guy.Thanks ...
A. 25 November 2014: depends if I went out on one date and she started asking me to take a test .
Then there more than likely wouldn't be a 2nd date.
maybe if you go on a few dates then they may consider it .
It it not a bad thing , you are just being cautious ... (read in full...)
Why did my ex contact me all of a sudden when he's still with his girlfriend? He knows I hate him and we are in two different countries
Q. My ex and I were together for 4 years, including 1 year long distance. He dumped me 1.5 years ago. I've contacted him a few times and told him how terrible I felt. He's got a new girlfriend 3 months after we broke up. I was desperate. I've said bad ...
A. 25 November 2014: facebook status's are not always updated straight away.
he could be on the breaking point with his girlfriend and he is having a self pity moment and reminiscing with you.
also he could be happy with his girlfriend and is just feeling guilty b... (read in full...)
What's the deal with this girl I met online? Is she pissed at me? Buyer's remorse? Or is it simply a change of heart?
Q. Hey everyone, So, I met this girl on OKCupid. I made a profile with a contrejour picture (basically a picture with the shadow of a person against the sun) and was fooling around with the website. Then we struck and conversation and she suggeste...
A. 25 November 2014: it could be A,B or C mate..
maybe text her to see if she is back again , but if you do not get a response leave it and go to the next one.
Anything could of happened , she could of changed her mind , had a ex come back , had another chap she... (read in full...)
Why can't I stop thinking about my ex ever since I found out that he is engaged?
Q. I just found out that my exboyfriend just got engaged. We've been separated for about 2 years and 6 months now. We were together for 11 years and I broke up our engagement because I got fed up with his lies and cheating. He tried to get back to ...
A. 25 November 2014: OK so this is the first time you have felt like this since splitting up with him.
Simple in your head you are just thinking what if? or why?
also you forced yourself to cut ties with him and also him with you.
deep down you know what he is... (read in full...)
How important is 'the spark' in a relationship?
Q. How important is 'the spark' in a relationship? I ask because I've had a few relationships, but only had the spark with 2 guys - one was my first love and the second was another ex. He was no different really from any of my other relationships bu...
A. 25 November 2014: It is down to the individual I guess.
I don't feel many people do actually think it is important , I myself am still looking for it I have been single for 4 years now and have only met one other person ( since my ex) that gave me that spark bu... (read in full...)
The first 5 minutes of sex are enjoyable but then the experience goes downhill!
Q. Hi guys. Please can I have some advice. I recently lost my virginity, not in a relationship, and have had sex a couple of times since then. I enjoy the first 5 minutes but after that I just feel frustration that I can't orgasm and also...
A. 25 November 2014: tbf if you are having one night stands , the bloke wont give a crap about what you get out of .
wham bam thank you mam is the best phrase .
try a FWB if you do not want a relationship that way they may want to learn what you do ... (read in full...)
Present ideas for my 14 year old boyfriend
Q. So I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 months and I don't know what to get him for Christmas keeping in mind were only 14! But I do love him (yes young love) got any ideas? ...
A. 25 November 2014: dvd, Game, maybe a t-shirt, or shirt .
It is up to you , as you know he likes ..but nothing majoy .
one of my first gfs just brought me a cd for xmas and I was happy with the :)... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated -- what do I do?
Q. First, thank you so much for reading this, I really will appreciate any advice! This happened a couple of weeks ago. My boyfriend (of about 10 months) told me the morning after it happened. He and his friend, his friend's girlfriend, and ...
A. 25 November 2014: lmao one night of feeling suicidal ?
also was you actually there to see how badly he felt about this .
so after 10 months , he got drunk and kissed a girl .. what happens if after 2 years he gets drunk and sleeps with a girl .
alcohol ha... (read in full...)
I feel like I would be killing a cute lovable puppy saying "no" to him!
Q. I have been single for 4 years now but have got to a point where yes I miss companionship but I am not desperate. I recently met a guy online, we talked for about 2 weeks and met up. Ive now seen him couple of times and he is lovely, he is 3 years ...
A. 25 November 2014: lol well saying you should be physical after having sex is pointless .
you need to tell him that he is not the one for you and end it , if not he is just going to potentially start liking you more... (read in full...)
How do I get out of the rut I am in and make changes for the better? Feel like life is passing me by
Q. This year, for a number of reasons,has been quite difficult. Not one to remember. I feel like I'm in a rut and I just can't seem to get out of it. I want to make positive changes to my life and lifestyle. I know the person I want to be,...
A. 25 November 2014: Mate I really hope you get the answer you are looking for .
I am in exactly the same boat as you at the moment , I feel life is just drifting away and as I am doing nothing everybody else is doing something.
like you I know that little thin... (read in full...)
Does he want my number or not?
Q. So there's this guy I work with. He is a very shy person and I don't think his self esteem is very high. He even said to be that he doesn't think he very attractive. So we were having a conversation and I was like "oh text me if...happens." And he ...
A. 25 November 2014: lol well if he said every Friday , you shouldn't of said but that is your drinking day.
It sounds although you might of not took the chance he offered out this time lol.
Well he has got a new car and wanted to show it off too you , the fact h... (read in full...)
Am I too tight?!
Q. Hello, I'm a complete virgin, never been fingered or touched at all.. Whenever I've got Into situations (being alone with a guy etc) I've always completely freaked out and sometimes started crying.. I don't want to let the guy down. I'm scared of ...
A. 25 November 2014: enjoy being 13-15 before starting to get into this .
also dont give a crap if you will let the lad down, if that is all they give a crap about .. this is not the lad you want to have sex with.
Dont get on the band waggin and be like most kid... (read in full...)
How many people give you a spark in life?
Q. Do you meet many people in life that give you that spark feeling ? not sure what it is but you know that silly feeling when you automaticly smile at each other , and daft things make you laugh. I had it with one girl ages ago who I fell in love w...
A. 24 November 2014: Thank you for answering! I had a feeling it was like that ! And at least I know it is not just me!
But this last one was deffo a nice one.. oh well will keep looking to find another .
Thank again Nora B... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend not attracted to me anymore? Am I not good enough? Is he seeing someone that looks better than me?
Q. Ok so when me and my boyfriend met i was 15 pounds lighter, Iam still not overweight and look average for a 28 year old woman but i feel there is something missing and i can't figure out what it is. He used to be so into me and our sex life was ...
A. 22 November 2014: try to motivate yourself and go the gym you will start feeling more confident again.
I am in the same boat as you ( except I am single :( lol ) but I need to go the gym but loose motivation , yet I know if I went I would be booming with more con... (read in full...)
Is a guy reacting to a girl ignoring him a sign of interest?
Q. When a guy pays more attention to a girl when she ignores him, or doesn't give him as much attention or leaves the area, does that mean he likes her? If the guy seems to be aware of how she feels and seems to react if she's sad, mad or happy, is...
A. 22 November 2014: maybe but don't forget we are all humans ... And a lot of the time it breaks down to ' wanting what you cant have'
so if they feel what was available before is slipping then they start acting more about it .... (read in full...)
Why do women cheat?
Q. I don't mean to sound sexist or come off as judgemental I'm just really curious as to why married women cheat? I mean I can understand why men cheat, they produce sperm like every freakin day of their life so of course they're gonna wanna let ...
A. 22 November 2014: The way I see it even know it may not make much sense is that women have more opportunitys too.
But that is only because a lot of the time Men have to hit on Women. So if you have had a gf for so long and potentially the spark is going , there ar... (read in full...)
I'm shattered, horrified,torn apart because my daughter just told me she's a bisexual
Q. Hi, I'm shattered, torn apart. I can't seem to function. Just caught my daughter kissing a girl. Horrified, livid. I can't seem to accept my 16 yr old daughter telling me she is bisexual. I'm still 2 days later so angry wth her, calling her so ...
A. 22 November 2014: I hope you have patched things up with your daughter now .
Yes I bet it was a massive shock for you but its modern today for a lot of people to be like that.
And the best thing you can be is supportive for her , it would of being difficult ... (read in full...)
I found out my wife worked as a prostitute
Q. I got married 6 months ago. After marriage i found out my wife i Was a prostitute im just shell shocked. I dont know how to cope with it? Im just gone mental. I told her how treeible im feeling roght now and i told her to end this marriage...
A. 22 November 2014: I feel you may have asked this before and your wife did not tell you she was one if I am correct.
in which case you have asked this a few times.
It sounds as if you do really care/love her but you can not get over this fact . IF it was me I ... (read in full...)
Does she want a serious relationship or not?
Q. I've been dating a girl for almost a month now and I don't know if she wants us to have a serious relationship or not, she is giving me mixed signals. One minute she's dropping hints about me possibly moving in and living with her, the next minute ...
A. 19 November 2014: mate If I had a girl after one month hinting that we could end up moving in with each other I wouldn't be happy.
but yeah with dating its hit and miss really , just keep it as something casual and see what else is a bout.... (read in full...)
Does he want my number or not?
Q. So there's this guy I work with. He is a very shy person and I don't think his self esteem is very high. He even said to be that he doesn't think he very attractive. So we were having a conversation and I was like "oh text me if...happens." And he ...
A. 19 November 2014: hmmm usually in these I would say go for it! it not always down to the bloke.
But I had a girl do what you did similar anyway , she was saying how people call her a nick name in the phone book ( not a bad one lol ) And then said I should do it to... (read in full...)
My ex is ill so I haven't told him I'm in a new relationship yet!
Q. Ok, cutting a long story short, a few months ago my ex who still has feelings for me became very ill (we're still friends and have contact at his request). Around the same time I met someone else who's ex treated him terribly and left him/cheated on ...
A. 19 November 2014: its very nice of you to think that way and to be supportive of him. But hiding it away from him is just in a way going to hold him back. And also it may hold things for you and your current partner ie him get suspicious etc
you will just be ... (read in full...)
Would telling him I'm going on a date with someone get his attention?
Q. theres a guy i like and would love it if he asked me out but i need to get his attention first. we are friends he said he liked me before but didnt do anything about it we do fun friend flirting that doesnt mean anything asfar as i know ,im too ...
A. 19 November 2014: Yeah don't lie! as Celtic said it might backfire also making somebody a tad jealous ( even if it is a lie ) isn't going to be great .
Just go for it .. I knew a friend who I got on with well and liked and to this day still regret not actually... (read in full...)
What does my mother see that I don't?
Q. I met a man at summer, he was really nice and helpful to me, as am a single mum with a 3 year old, he done a few jobs round my house for free, and in that time I got to know him. He has asked if he could take me for dinner and I said yes I will ask ...
A. 2 September 2014: your mom will see you as her 'little' daughter for many years actually she might see you that way all her life simply because she is your mom.
And the idea of a 42 year old going out with her daughter might put her off as she may feel he is way t... (read in full...)
I had an affair with a younger man and I wanted to hurt his girlfriend so I told her about what we did. I thought this would break them but they're back together. What do I do now?
Q. I've been very stupid. 6 weeks ago I started to talk to a man 11 years younger than myself, he was at work when I met him and I asked for his number for a job that I needed doing in my home. I text him and it started off innocently, I ne...
A. 2 September 2014: no leave it .
All you are doing is dragging stuff up again and for what purpose?
He isn't going to come back to you and they have already got a thorn in their relationship of which he has done.
Just move on with your life ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but almost kissed another guy...and a girl!!!
Q. Ok so I am engaged to a man who I am so in love with, and just couldn't live without him. Last weekend I was at a hen weekend with some of my reckless friends, and to be honest, it was more like a bender. We just went wild. I was so out of it I ...
A. 30 August 2014: Reading the title I was ready to tell you that you don't love him and to stop dating him ..
BUT I like the fact you didn't actually kiss somebody and the fact you realised what you was doing and stopped it so good on you .
I would usually ad... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't love me -- should I stay ?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating 4 months and things are very serious he even talks about me moving in with him and moving to a different state with him one day. I'm confused because he dose everything I ask of him and is supportive and all but ...
A. 30 August 2014: Personally myself I couldn't find myself telling somebody I love them after 4 months . I would want to get to know them a lot more before I would feel comfortable saying it to them.
He is doing all of these things because he wants too and likes yo... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty about walking away from my drug addict guy. Was I wrong to take some distance?
Q. Hi everyone I have been in a relationship for a few months with a guy who is a drug addict. He uses coke, meth, heroin, etc. We recently spoke about his drug addiction and I told him that I will be there to support his recovery. He just has to ...
A. 30 August 2014: no not at all.
The only way I would say yes was if you got him into the drugs.
But no you are being kind and caring for somebody who is in a bad position and to be fair he needs to do it for himself .
Drugs are a hard thing to get off an... (read in full...)
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