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Is he still looking out for me on Facebook?

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Question - (18 December 2014) 4 Answers - (Newest, 19 December 2014)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I was close to a guy on Facebook and having quite flirty chats with him - until he suddenly decided to move onto another girl who was obviously more appealing to him.

I feel sad that we don't talk now like before, but I have noticed I am still one of his FB friends and that he still has a green light on when he is on chat.

My question is - can he still see when I am on chat and does he still care? The fact that I haven't been deleted and he still has the green light on confuses me. Or would that green light be on for everyone he talks too?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2014):

Thanks for your replies & especially the female lady - it is very uplifting!

Deep down I feel he resents the fact that I turned him down - but I still like him a lot & but feel he has had his ego dented.

I would like to get in touch with him again just to say hope he's ok - but am unsure how long to leave it before he forgets me altogether.

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A male reader, lifesgreat United Kingdom +, writes (19 December 2014):

basically the green light means that he is on line and that is it.

The fact that you have not been deleted means nothing I am afraid unless he likes to delete girls he is not talking to any more ?

who used to start the conversations before was it you or him? if it was him and now he has stopped then that is not the best sign .

But hey start a chat with him if you like

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2014):

Why would he delete you? He has no reason to. He's just distracted with someone else at the moment.

I have several guys on my Facebook who I hung out with, kissed, had some romantic tryst with at some point in the past. We still give the occasional "like" to a photo or a status. A few have reached out just to say hi. There's no reason for deleting that person. That's pretty immature. Unless, of course this person is harassing you or being a jackass. But that is not the case.

And if he looks at his newsfeed, of course he can see what you are up to if you are posting stuff. And yeah that green light is for everyone to see.

There is no reason to feel confused, the guy doesn't hate you, probably doesn't even dislike you.

Like you said, he is just distracted with someone else. Leave him alone for now as you've been doing. He'll come around at some point and say hi.

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (19 December 2014):

olderthandirt agony auntAha! There are others out there that don't know how FB works and who can see what. My advice is stay off oft and don't fret over the secret rules of FB design. Youever know who cn invadyour space so you are neve "safe" ergo avoid it. There's tis neat thing that's not too wizz-bang cool but it works called a telephone OR there's always face to face communication. Not cool though right? The FB trend will someday crash and burn...good ridance!

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