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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:HiI met a.man last year and couldn't believe it when he showed interest. Only thing is he loves to drink and always be out, it's not always possible having children and working full time and when he asked he would give.me a ten second window and if didn't say yes he went else where we did go out but mostly he'd go with mates turning up drink. Then he would go silent for weeks then he'd pop up and invite me for dinner and I fell in love with him. He even said he thought he loved me too. He started to pick fault at me eventually every time we had a drink and he was so angry unless had smoked weed. He has had issues yet said i needed to be fixed which I thought was wrong then he dissappeared again. Just the other day he was seen with a girl in local and I am devastated. Can't see how she will put up with his behaviour but he knew I accepted him for who he was I just don't understand why he picked fault with me? Did he ever love me, will he come back?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (15 December 2014):
 Thank your lucky stars he moved on, he sounds like a loser. He could only be nice to you, if he smoked weed? Seriously?
Him nitpicking you was him telling you that he felt he could DO better then you, that he was ENTITLED to someone "better". And it was a way of manipulating YOU into thinking you couldn't DO better then him.
If you wonder WHY another woman with put up with him, the answer lies within yourself. WHY on EARTH did you put up with this man? If she is ANY kind of smart, she will see him for who he is. A selfish, immature, entitled man-child.
And if YOU are any kind of smart too, YOU will want MORE from a partner than he is CAPABLE of giving.
He loves only himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2014): He found fault in you for a couple of reasons. First, because he didn't love you. Secondly, because even though he wasn't in love with you he wanted to keep you around. When a person in a relationship who is not invested knows he has the upper hand he will say things to confuse you, to throw you off so that you will stick around at their leisure.
Yeah he'll come back. But it'll be at his leisure. No he does not love you.
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reader, lifesgreat  +, writes (15 December 2014):
He sounds a dick .
you should aim your hopes with somebody better .
It does not seem as if he loved you if he kept disappearing also if you have seen him with another girl , you are not the main thought in his mind .
so try to focus on something different than him
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