A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:The guy I like said to us last night that he prefers women who are "trashy". When we asked him what he meant by "trashy" he said those who are more sexually forward/experienced and are liberal about things like doing drugs, as they're more "open minded" and "fun."It also came out during the convo that he'd slept around a lot at uni, and done some crazy things like do it in front of people in public places like festivals, am I prudish for finding that a turn off? Also, I doubt I have much of a chance with him any more (even though I'm so turned off anyway!) but do most guys (even in their 20s) prefer "liberal" women like that? I'm not like that tbh, I wouldn't sleep around etc. But the girls guys often seem to go for (regardless of general attractiveness) are those who "put it out there".
View related questions:
drugs Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, lifesgreat +, writes (5 January 2015):
not to sure on the drug part ..but if you by trashy girls you also mean 'easy girls'
Then I would say about 70-80% of Men are like that tbf .
But I am in the smaller proportion of that and trashy girls are not attractive to me .
I do not want a girl who either seems to be easy or goes about flirting with a lot of people .
I want a girl who has respect for her self and doesn't give it away so easy.
Makes it much better .. besides you already seem put off by this blokes past .. maybe try to meet a chap who hasnt had a bit of a history
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2015): There is a lot of truth in the fact that guys that age have raging hormones and do a lot of their thinking and base a lot of their decisions around sex.
We are 32, and thankfully we met at a more mature point in our lives, but my boyfriend too was a wild one in his 20's. Sometimes he'll tell stories about him and his buddies in college, throughout his travels and whatnot. A lot of guys at that age are total party animals and care about little else. They want to party, experiment, meet lots of girls and have sex. It's their priority. The easier the girl, the better they can further this agenda.
And my boyfriend does not like girls like these in the way that you think. At this time in a guy's life, he's not trying to get married. It's not like he had plans to bring these girls over to grandmas house for Sunday brunch.
But I too had fun and wild times in my 20's. It's a good time in life to do it. To not be tied down and just be carefree. And in doing so further your agenda, in whatever that may be. I wasn't promiscuous because girls are held to different standards. But I never missed a party, I had my fair share of trysts and would go through boys like I was trying on shoes.
The good news is that no matter how wild he has been, most guys (girls too) mature and settle down eventually. This guy is just not boyfriend material at this point in his life.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2015): The fact that he describes women who are more forward sexually as "trashy" should tell you a lot about him. Why would you want a chance with him? Just avoid him and find someone who shares your values.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2015): Ever heard of expression " easy lay"?
F course they prefer it easy than hard:)
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2015): Guys are more likely to prefer trashy women if they aren't looking for something serious. They want a nicer girl for a longer term relationship.
Young women have a bad habit of crushing on hot sexy jerks even though they know those guys would make terrible husbands. Its not much different.
...............................
A
male
reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (3 January 2015):
 Heck... this isn't limited to guys in their 20's. I'm in my mid-60's and STILL can't resist a woman who's "... a little on the trashy side..."
Chin up!!!!!.......
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2015): You should be proud that you have standards.
Unfortunately, in this day & age, sex is all around us and to some men that is all they expect women to be like!
I lost out on a guy to my friend, because I wouldn't sleep with him for the night - but my friend did!
Just look at it this way - at least you won't have to worry about catching STDs from him now!
...............................
|
