New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login244965 questions, 1084317 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

Why wont he tell me why he doesn't want a relationship?

Tagged as: Dating, Online dating, Sex<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (7 December 2014) 3 Answers - (Newest, 9 December 2014)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, *ambi_x writes:

I met a guy at the start of the year, everything was good, sex was great, enjoyed his company. After the 4th time we had sex he decided to ignore me and go back online dating.

I demanded why he done this and where I stood and he apologised to me and we meet again for lunch nothing more, he would ignore me, we text on and off all year but it's always me that gets in touch first with him.

Recently he asked me to meet him for a coffee which I did

After that he ignored me kidding on he's busy, I told him I'm off work and I could meet him for lunch or dinner he said he had no money I said it's on me and ill pay he ignored me.

Yesterday by text he texted me he's horny out of the blue we haven't had sex since start of the year, I asked him why he does that but doesn't want to meet me. He relied he likes having sex with me it's good, and left it at that. I questioned why he didn't want more with me like a relationship after I know I'll close the door and never contact him again he doesn't reply he just said he doesn't know and leaves it at that.

Why doesn't he tell me why he doesn't want a relationship with me? He states online that's what he's looking for, a relationship but I feel we get on well and the attraction us there but he doesn't want more it confuses me...

It's like he doesn't want me to close the door I said I'm off for good after he tells me.

View related questions: horny, money, text

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A male reader, lifesgreat United Kingdom +, writes (9 December 2014):

I am pretty sure on some dating sites they advise blokes to put there status as looking for a relationship because it looks better.

So if a men is looking for a hook up or casual sex then they will not look like that is the only thing they are looking for .

so he got to hook up with you 4 times , get what he wanted and then went back to the dating site to get some new girl.

he is ignoring you and not bothering ... so why do you want to bother with him

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2014):

Why do you need him to tell you this, after all you posted? You obviously know he doesn't want one, so stop wasting your time (unless you actually don't mind being nothing more than a fuckbuddy) and drop all (ALL) contact with him.

He doesn't have to explain himself to you so just clear out his contact details and move on.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (7 December 2014):

Honeypie agony auntHe doesn't WANT a relationship WITH you (or anyone else), NOT because there is ANYTHING wrong with you, but because he PREFERS to be single and screw whomever he likes (including you occasionally).

Of course he put in his profile that he is looking for a relationship, because he KNOWS that most women are looking for one too. JUST because he WROTE that doesn't mean it's true.

Personally, I'd block him number and STOP wasting time on this guy. YOU want more then he is willing to give you.

HE DOES know why he doesn't want a relationship, he just don't want to share that with you, not does he HAVE to.

WHY are you so concerned with this guy? You have wasted a YEAR on him already... WHO the FRICK cares why he doesn't want to date? If you want to find someone to date, he isn't it - he has told you that and showed you as well, by ignoring you and only wanting contact when he wants sex. He isn't a keeper. And YOU can't "fix" this guy or "make" him want to date you. Giving him sex won't make him change his mind.

WANT more for yourself.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "Why wont he tell me why he doesn't want a relationship?"

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.0156206999963615!