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*EH123
writes:ive been going out with this boy 4 atleast a month now and my mate has a boyfriend in a diffrent school and she just flirts with my boyfriend alot and me and my b.f talk on msn and he says he doesnt like her shes a dog and stuff but it really pisses me of that she keeps flirting with him and saying hes fit infront of me , i dunno what to do
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (11 September 2009):
 Just tell her she is pissing you off and to back off if she still wants you to be her friend.
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reader, Debking79  +, writes (11 September 2009):
 Dear LEH123,Yikes!! What a situation to be in! My sympathies.If you have not yet, tell your friend that her chaser/flirty behavior is hurting you, making you feel uncomfortable, and is not not NOT! acceptable. Focus on how it affects you (Hey, Remember when you kept on eying my guy and called him fit? That really hurt me and made me feel uncomfortable. I know you didn't mean to hurt me, but it really did. I know you would never do anything to hurt me, but that seemed too flirty to me and it would make me feel so much better if you didn't compliment his appearance or anything like that anymore.)Most stable properly socialized people will realize their mistake, apologize immediately and accept a hug from you. If she gets defensive, don't argue back at all if you value her friendship. Listen (or pretend to listen) to her "side" and realize that she is just a selfish person. If you love her you will accept that about her. But, unfortunately, it would be best to not ever invite her around when your man is there. "Two is company, three's a crowd"I wish you the best of luck :)Cheers,Deb
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reader, LoveIsRough +, writes (10 September 2009):
 Dear LEH123,Just because she is really your friend, it doesn't mean that she won't follow your heart and go for the guy of her dreams. If you were in her posistion, wouldn't you follow your heart?Still, he is your boyfriend. Why don't you sit down and have a talk with her? Tell her that your boyfriend is in to you. Then tell her that she needs to choose between going after this guy, and your frienship....Maybe she just misses her boyfriend and needs a lot of entertainment! Chances are that she's jealous of how happy you and your boyfriend are....I have a slight feeling you aren't 30-35!Hope it all works out,LoveIsRough
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (10 September 2009):
 Tell her that her behaviour is upsetting you and if she wants to remain friends with you she needs to stop. I am sure she would not like you doing this. I dont think she realises that she is hurting you.Give it a try.
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