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My "virgin" girlfriend says some pretty shocking things! Is she for real?!!

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Question - (5 April 2008) 9 Answers - (Newest, 31 May 2008)
A male United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

My Brand new GF has told me that she is a virgin and says she wants to wait to see if she finds that special person to give herself to. she told me she has done genital to genital(no penetration just rubbing), and has given Blowjobs. I believe her but before we started dating she would randomly be like "im really horny!, i just want a dick inside me", or "wouldnt it be fun to be at a wedding and just go into the bathroom and screw?"

Now i dont know if she is just kidding or not but it seems like she was being serious, and it seems hard to believe that a virgin would speak like that. IS there a way to find out for sure if she is a virgin or not?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008):

HELLO!! I think your girlfriend is telling you in no uncertain terms that she wants to have sex with you!!! Like when she says she needs a dick in her or that she is horny, that is your cue to say something like "well, I can definitely help you with that problem!" and make a move on her. So next time she says something like that, respond in a way that lets her know you are more than willing to have sex with her!

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A female reader, georgiasfinest United States +, writes (5 April 2008):

Hey, I'm 15 too and I know where your coming from boy. I'm a virgin too but I've done some pretty nasty things too, and pretty much everything but. Guys I go out with have a hartd time believing I'm a virgin too, but I really am. If your girl says she's a virgin, I'd belive her, she has no reason to lie about that

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008):

This doesn't necessarily mean she's not a virgin, she has fantasies, just as a sexually experienced person would! She just chooses to wait before she fulfils them - and good for her, because, judging from your age, she's no older than 15 I'm guessing honey.

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A male reader, lboy United Kingdom +, writes (5 April 2008):

lboy agony auntdear reader,

did u talk about sex b4 you had it???? did u fantasize???? if the answer is yes then leave the girl too it lol there is no harm in having an active imagination thats all it is she has most likely imagined the perfect guy and the perfect way to loose her virginity, just give it time if she thinks your the right guy and says she wants sex then give her it but try and wait till your 16 trust me i made the mistake of not waitin and it screwed up my love life, anyway if you do end up having sex trust me when i say you'll know straight away if she's a virgin lol but thats something u'll see for yourself hehe, anyway i have said all i can about this oh and dont refer to her as your "brand new gf" she's a person not a product.

good luck

lboy

xxx

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008):

Ask yourself whether you are the type of person who would have made a non-virgin want to be a virgin for you. Maybe she's been telling you she's a virgin because she thinks it is what you want to hear.

Or maybe it's the truth. Maybe she just makes up for the lack of actual sexual escapades with a lot of talk. (Of course when you're a virgin guy, you're always in danger of being viewed as an undesirable dork. Well, when someone is a virgin girl, she's always in danger of being seen as a frigid non-sexual person.)

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (5 April 2008):

Danielepew agony auntWhen I was at school, about your age, we had a classmate who was always telling us about his wild sex escapades. He was a virgin. There was also a girl who hardly spoke, but was the one teen-ager who got pregnant in the group. So, the way a person speaks is not a reliable indicator of whether he or she is a virgin.

If your girlfriend is not a virgin, well, that happened before you were with her. Don't give it another thought. If you like her, stay with her.

By the way, both you and her are too young to be having sex. You will be a wise young man if you wait. Virgins are not thought of as cool, but at least they don't make that sort of stupid mistake with their lives.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008):

But, she uses a vibrator, so wouldnt that make her just as loose as if she had sex?

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A female reader, Jargenhunter United States +, writes (5 April 2008):

There is no real "virgin test". Some girls don't even bleed on their first time because of physical activity and tampon use.

Toasty is absolutely right on her behavior though, hormones in a young girl can do that. Plus you got to imagine that she has thought about this a lot so she probably has a certain view of what she thinks will happen and wants it.

Trust her dude.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008):

You might feel it if you fingered her, but it's hard to tell if you don't know what you're looking for. She'll be much looser than a virgin (if you've ever fingered one), and the opening of her vagina will be rather tight (two fingers will proabably really hurt for her).

Some girls have fantasies like that...I mean, if you're a virgin and your hormones are raging and you have a boyfriend, you probably are VERY horny, you know? Having a boyfriend makes it all the more hard.

Perhaps she is just entrusting you with her fantasies. What do you say back?

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