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writes:So I'm about close to 17, but I feel so young, like on 14 or so. 17 seems like you're supposed to act all mature, but I'm still in high school!Anyways, I think I'm gay either b/c I've been looking at porn and then mostly gay porn for a long time now. I see some people in my school attractive, and some the more I see them, I start thinking that they're pretty cute or hot. Usually I have crushes on some guys and they usually wear off in couple weeks or so. Well I'm basically thinking that this one guy is pretty cool and looks good too. We aren't really close friends, just in the same classes and such. Well my question is, how can you tell if a person is gay, and how can you tell if you actually like them or if it's just a crush? I don't want to go up to them b/c that would be awkward and all...
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reader, lboy +, writes (1 April 2008):
 dear reader,
i think that if u already class yourself as gay then you most likely are, or your at least bisexual, the best way to find out if this person is gay is to try and become closer firends with him to get to know him and then afetr a while you'll knwo close firneds and family always do, find out his interest if some of them seem a little gay don't jump the gun and ask him straight out, just over time find out about him more and more maybe when u arte good friends as him if he is homophobic or something if he is gay or bi and trust you enough he will tell you thats when u can tell him, then if he feels the same wayy yayy for you lol but if not you just found yourself a new gay best friend lol and over time he may grow to liek you, all i can say about the crush is if you've liked this guy for a while and it aint worn off then its most likely more than just a crush. anyway thats all i can say so hope i helped lolz.
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lboy
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Homo/hetero sexuality is a lot more complex then just (hetero - bi-sexual - homo-sexual) There are all kinds of grey in between.
What for instance would you call a man who is attracted to women with a strong boyish feel to them? Or a woman is attracted to feminine men?
For that matter what is a gay man who likes being around women or a hetero female who prefers the company of her own sex?
I would proceed cautiously with your feelings, you are still growing up, and our society is sadly growing less tolerant of homo-sexuality especially among young people. If you were to confess to the wrong people you life might be turned upside down.
There really isn't a test to see if you are gay or not. If you look at females, do you feel anything at all? Even that might mean nothing as you might feel to insecure to consider them.
To explain. As a male you probably have male friends and find it easy to talk and be around them. So you can see them as potential partners. Women on the other hand are dificult to figure out and you can't talk with them. Possibly making you rule them out as possibly mates.
Homosexual experimentation is common enough even in men who later become hetero. For now, enjoy being young and proceed with caution and stop worrying too much. Don't become to obsessed with porn, of any sort, it seems to really screw some people up.
As for feeling immature, good. You are. Better then all those 14 year olds who think they are adults. Just let your youth happen to you. In time it will become clear what sex you prefer to be with, but it is easier to come out of the closet as an adult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): I'm in the similar situtation . I don't really consider myself bi .... because I've only liked one girl in my entire 15 years of exsitence but I'm completely BOY CRAZY!!! and I love my BF but I like this girl too . If you consider yourself gay you are and if you don't your not
thats all the advice I have
I hope it helped in some way ....
~*VG*~
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