I did everything he wanted and he still broke up with me
Q. Okay I started dating this guys five years ago, in the beggining he didnt want a relationship but after we became intimate,and i threatened to walk away if i dint get a title, he said lets be official. In the beggining my weight bothered him. I was ...
A. 30 May 2010: You really need to try to focus on your self and not think about him. I know how hard that is because I am going through it myself right now. You need to be around close supportive people such as your family. Take some time off for yourself and get ... (read in full...)
Our affair was discovered and now he won't talk to me
Q. I have had an affair for nearly four years and his wife found out when i called him at his place she answered the phone. He told me never to call him again and it was over i ruined his marriage. I am also married. This man and i were caught ...
A. 25 May 2010: Well, as you can see this man cares for his wife and he is not going to leave her for you or let his marriage down because of you. At any day he will choose his wife over you and the only time he will call you is when he has an argument with his ... (read in full...)
Wrongfully confessed?
Q. I have this friend who i have known for 10 years,he wanted to date me when we were younger but I kindly declined because he was involved with someone and did not break it off before pursuing me.We remained friends.Now so many years later I feel as ...
A. 25 May 2010: I fully agree with TimmD. You were wrong. Way to go and you will soon ruin two marriages! What were you thinking when you signed the papers? You confessing feelings to another man, is called an "emotional cheating" and that is a form of cheating. ... (read in full...)
How long should you wait if you want to keep a man?
Q. How long should you wait to have sex with a man you are seeing if you want to keep him?...
A. 25 May 2010: Wait until he is fully committed to you and only you and has shown that he really cares to also keep you. Some general indicators might be:
1) You've been labeled as his official gf in front of everyone and he has introduced you to his friends ... (read in full...)
I did everything for her, now we don't get on. Has she used me?
Q. Hey, I have been with a girl for coming up two years now. She started to work in the office where I work- I am 34 and she is now 23. I tried to give this relationship my all. We moved in together after a short while of dating. I paid the depo...
A. 25 May 2010: The other day, I found out that she was talking to other guys on a dating site. I am not sure what to do?
I agree with everyone below. You need to sit down with her and clarify all the issues that are piling up in your head. If you're financia... (read in full...)
I'm so lost! My own father and wife have been having a secret relationship!
Q. I just learnt that my Father age @65 and my Wife age @31 Years have been having a sexual relationship for the last one year. Both are doing regularly and chatting with us.We are live in joint Gujarati hindu family with my mother and two chil...
A. 25 May 2010: I am not convinced from your line of evidence that this is actually true. You might be overreacting. You have to make sure that you have solid evidence before you start throwing accusations from this magnitude, because if you do, your family will ... (read in full...)
He got cold feet and broke up with me!
Q. Dear cupid, I am 24 and my ex-bf is 22. We dated for about 3 months and everything was going great, until one day he broke up with me. We didn't speak for about a month after we broke up and recently we talked as friends. He opened up and told me ...
A. 24 May 2010: Thank you Chigirl and Xearo.
I also deep down refuse to believe that sleeping with him was the real reason, but I just don't understand how he could lose interest so quickly! He seemed so into me at the beginning of the relationship and now he s... (read in full...)
Is it always black and white that he doesn't want to be with you?
Q. if you finally start talking with an ex again but he isn't ready to be in a relationship again---is it ALWAYS black and white that they just don't want to be with you? We were with each other for almost 4 years and a year of no contact after the ...
A. 24 May 2010: I really hate to be in your situation! In your situation, you shouldn't be the one always calling to catch up.
Next time you call him to talk, tell him politely "hey, I really feel like I am the one usually calling and trying to initiate contact ... (read in full...)
What are the side effects of a relationship?
Q. What are the problems in a relationship if the guy is 19 and the girl is 22? What is the defects or side effects of such a relationship?...
A. 24 May 2010: Age is just a number and 2 years is not even a big difference. I dated a guy 2 years younger than me and we had no problems at all.
Some guys prefer dating older girls because they think that the older girls are more experienced and more confiden... (read in full...)
I have no idea how to get over him
Q. Hi All. I split up with my long-distance boyfriend at the start of February, so almost 4 months ago. We've maintained contact as we'd really like to stay friends and have spoken every day since. More about that later. It was my 21st birthday o...
A. 24 May 2010: Oh dear! I am in the same situation! You miss talking to him, but the reality is that ex-bfs do not make good friends. You can't have him as a friend because you have feelings for him. You hope he will come back, but you hate seeing him having fun ... (read in full...)
Help I think my boyfriend is losing interest
Q. [Two questions merged] what would you make of a relationship like this? i think my bf is no longer interested. 1. i see him once a week only 2. he never calls me 3. there could be days with out hearing from him 4. haven't had sex in a few we...
A. 24 May 2010: Been in the same positions as you with two bfs in a roll. The signs are he is losing interest. I've always had a hard time figuring out why, but I think it is because I was always too nice, too available, and too into them. I distanced myself, but ... (read in full...)
I don't think I'll ever be in life again without him
Q. i just broke up nearly 2 wks ago with my partner of 3yrs and 8 months.we had finally moved in togteher but we had finacial probs cause i couldn't find work and i hated where we lived due to noisy neighbours above us.he broke up with me saying he ...
A. 24 May 2010: He sounds like a jerk. I'd hate to be in your position. You don't need to be with him because you don't have a job and you're dependent on him. Look at how he is treating you?? Go out and get a career and a job yourself. You're not even married to ... (read in full...)
Is lending him money a good enough reason to get married
Q. Hi All, Here's the situation. My SO and I have been in a relationship for nearly a year and a half. We've lived together for a year now and are preparing to go off to grad school this fall. The thing is, he's asked me to cover his living expenses...
A. 24 May 2010: A guy who likes you and want to impress you WILL ask his guy friends for money to borrow first and not his gf. He can also go to the bank or ask his parents.
Tell him that you have no money to lend him. ... (read in full...)
How to tell her its time to take a break?
Q. Ugh. I hate that its coming to this. Im going to keep this as short as possible. My girlfriend and i have been together for 7 months now. I undoubtably LOVE her. She is the most amazing girl ive ever met. She's the type of girl i would want to...
A. 24 May 2010: I can't understand if you want to break up with her or not? Why is she crying so much? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's practically dating this girl
Q. I'm naturally a brunette but I keep dying my hair and eyebrows red for my boyfriend of over two years. He's pretty much obsessed with red heads and it never bothered me until now. The last five months, he's been hanging out with a natural red-head...
A. 24 May 2010: Tell him to stop hanging out with her or you're gone. Tell him that you don't like her and that you think that she is trying to make a move on him even though she knows he is in a relationship. Tell him that by being friends with her, he is ... (read in full...)
I love him, I don't think he feels the same, what do I do?
Q. Hello Here is the thing, I think I'm in love with my best friend, which is not good, one because I feel guilty for liking him when he trusts me and sees me as his bff. And because I'm pretty sure he doesn't feel the same, so I don't wanna get hurt...
A. 24 May 2010: You have to observe his body language and that should tell you if it is safe to make a move on him. You may try to hug him sometimes, rub his back, make him feel special. Make sure you look stunning when you go out with him! I am a bit of a coward ... (read in full...)
I can't control my feelings for my cousin!
Q. hey guys, i want some suggestions from you all, i don't know why? but i can't control my feelings for my cousin, I've tried allot to make her realize that how much i care for her but she never considered me, shes of 27 n em just of 20, another ...
A. 24 May 2010: What do you mean by "one exotic moment"? Do you mean you want to make out, have sex? That could creep her out. ... (read in full...)
Are men attracted to overweight women?
Q. hey aunties and uncles. I'm going to be direct with this question because I've always wanted to know. is being overweight a real turn off for boys and do they get attracted to overweight girls? I myself am not overweight or anything but I am curious ...
A. 24 May 2010: Hi, as everyone else below said, different people like different things. Personally, I would chose a guy who is slightly overweight than a guy who is skin and bones. ... (read in full...)
Found a condom in my car, boyfriend cheated, do I need to know who?
Q. My bf cheated on me in my car! I was at work and later found the condom wrapper. We split for a couple of days and I really want to know who it was. Is it better to know or not know?...
A. 24 May 2010: Well, you're assuming something you have not seen. You maybe right but you have no proof of it.
I would find out it is true or not and with whom he did it.
Don't go back to him though. Once a cheater always a cheater.... (read in full...)
I can't control my feelings for my cousin!
Q. hey guys, i want some suggestions from you all, i don't know why? but i can't control my feelings for my cousin, I've tried allot to make her realize that how much i care for her but she never considered me, shes of 27 n em just of 20, another ...
A. 23 May 2010: Sounds like an unhealthy obsession with the wrong person. I think you need to get out and explore the girls at your school and community outside of your family.
You need to realize that what you're doing is wrong and stop it. ... (read in full...)
How do I communicate with my work mates when we have absolutely nothing in common?
Q. I am really struggling at work. I work with 15 women, all of whom are in relationships/marriages and all but one of them has children as well. My relationship ended late last year making me the only single woman in the office. I've never really ...
A. 23 May 2010: Hi, I've been in your situation - surrounded by people in relationships, when you're single and feeling lonely.
The women in your work will not be able to understand you or to offer you any support. You can't expect that from them anyway. ... (read in full...)
Feel nothing during sex
Q. Im aged 21, i have had sex on several occasions but it actualy turns me off it feels uncomfortable at e tip,i love women and i crave 4 sex but wen i pernetrate...nothin! I relief myself by masterbatin,i hav bn masterbatin since i was 12,could this ...
A. 23 May 2010: There is a lot that you can do. Stop masturbating for a while. Maybe you're desensitizing yourself. Try using a non-latex condom. Try different positions. Use some lube. ... (read in full...)
How can I encourage my wife to have more sex?
Q. i have been married for over 30 yrs. and our sex life was from everything having sex at public places to swinger life style but now she does not want sex. we have sex once a week I want more and tell her all the time. i do the things she asks for, ...
A. 23 May 2010: Well, clearly begging and fighting doesn't help, but probably makes the situation even worse.
Why don't you stop asking for sex for a while and pretend like you've given up and lost your appetite. Then when she asks, reject her. Tell her you're n... (read in full...)
Do I want contact with him for closure or to get back with him?
Q. I was with my ex-boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We broke up 5 months ago (I didn't realise at the time we were breaking up). We had both mentioned at the time that we felt things hadn't been working out, but I thought we would work on things like we ...
A. 23 May 2010: Hi, I am going through something similar right now with my ex-bf who broke up with me for a similar reason. His friends and his family will be loyal to him even if he did wrong and if they feel sorry for you. That's how it goes. Therefore, there is ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend cheated now I'm wanting her back
Q. "OPs own title" So i have been with my girlfriend for 1 yr 6 months. I honestly thought she was the one, she took me for who i was and put up with my weirdness most the time. We could tell each other anything without judgment. We where very ...
A. 23 May 2010: I agree with the Universe Man. You have to tell her if she wants your trust, she has to earn it all over again. Make it hard for her. Make her chase you.
If you do give her another chance and she cheats again, then you have to seriously MOVE on ... (read in full...)
How can I stop finding fault in other people?
Q. Hi everyone. I have a unique problem and I want to do something about it, but it's not easy. I manage to find fault in people all the time. Not a day goes by where I don't think about something someone did that has upset me. Just a few minutes ago, ...
A. 22 May 2010: You need to realize and accept that nobody is perfect. You are not perfect either. Everyone has their faults and yes you will see other ppl's faults, but do you think they don't see yours? They probably do, but are tolerant towards you.
When ... (read in full...)
I did everything he wanted and he still broke up with me
Q. Okay I started dating this guys five years ago, in the beggining he didnt want a relationship but after we became intimate,and i threatened to walk away if i dint get a title, he said lets be official. In the beggining my weight bothered him. I was ...
A. 22 May 2010: You need to be strong and give him an ultimatum. Tell him that if calls you again, you'd file a restraining order. lol! Honestly, TELL him to leave you alone or TO CHANGE. And when he asks how he should change, you must lay the rules out and clea... (read in full...)
He got cold feet and broke up with me!
Q. Dear cupid, I am 24 and my ex-bf is 22. We dated for about 3 months and everything was going great, until one day he broke up with me. We didn't speak for about a month after we broke up and recently we talked as friends. He opened up and told me ...
A. 22 May 2010: Hi there, just wanted to give an update on the situation. So I tried to move on. I even signed up on this dating website, thinking that the attention from other guys will distract me from thinking about him.
My ex still remains deleted of my FB... (read in full...)
Is he pretending to be busy or is he honest with me?
Q. Hello! I need your help. I have been chatting with him for 5 months.We live in different countries. We understand each other very well. We are like real friends. Recently he has become a manager of very big company and he rarely writes to me. We ...
A. 22 May 2010: First of all, if you're in different countries do you honestly think it's realistic that something will come out this relationship?
I know someone who dated someone from a different country online for 3 years, spoke everyday and visited each oth... (read in full...)
Pregnancy paranoia
Q. I have paranoia. I had a pregnancy scare this year in January but it was jsut a scare. I blame that for this paranoia. I had sex 4 wks ago. He didnt cum in me at all. Wasnt even close. I am on BC as well. I dont expect my period for 4 days. ...
A. 22 May 2010: You do not need to be scared. If you are on BC, you shouldn't really expect your period. The pill is pretty effective when taken according to instructions. You can always buy one of those pregnancy tests such as clearblue in order to check. ... (read in full...)
We both want to keep our sexual relationship a secret but his sister saw us!
Q. I am 25 years old male. My friend, Danny, and I are Bi-curious and we both want to keep our sexual relationship a secret. When we were at his house, we both undress each other and started making love. Next thing we notice, his door opens up an...
A. 22 May 2010: That is indeed a very very awkward situation to be in. I think that Danny should to talk to Lisette. She is not that young. At 14, I had already had at least 1 bf, so she probably has the capacity to understand. ... (read in full...)
He ended a four-year engangement because of paranoia
Q. MY boyfriend and i have been together for 4 years and have always had the perfect relationship, we even got engaged last october.it was so hard getting engaged because our families didnt want us to be together at first so we did everything to get ...
A. 22 May 2010: Dear heartbroken211, Your ex-bf has serious issues of jealousy and mistrust. This kind of man will never be happy. He will always act offended, unhappy and will blame you for it. There are reasonable boundaries of a bf being caring and prote... (read in full...)
She makes it seem like I'm the bad guy and says stuff like "you're my bestfriend, my only real friend" which is true.
Q. Long story short, I've been with my girlfriend for 2.5 years. I have found out one year into the relationship she got bored of me and thought I didn't care anymore and started flirting with guys and eventually a year later she leaves me for a guy ...
A. 22 May 2010: Dump her. You deserve better. She is a cheater and immature.... (read in full...)
Do I choose the father of my child or ...
Q. Who do I choose, between father of my child who I had helped become rich and turned around and started an affair with other woman he just comes from another town or a man that I met on line and had similar problems and just hit it off but he also ...
A. 22 May 2010: I agree with QuirkLady. Do not choose either. In this situation, you are probably better off by yourself. Focus on you and on your child. Avoid them both.... (read in full...)
He's moving slower than I might expect -- could he be seeing someone else too?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about a month now, we've known each other for about a year and he has a bit of a reputation for being a bit of a ladies man. Anyway he hasn't tried to have sex with me yet...he's never even mentioned it. On group ...
A. 20 May 2010: Well, in this case if you want to keep him, wait a bit for sex ( 3-4 months at least!). Time (but not intimacy) is an important factor when it comes to men and love.... (read in full...)
Broke up and she wants no contact with me
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for the last two years and last month in march was our 2 years a month on she tells me it's over. before the split she told me how much she loved me and how our 2 year anniversary was so special. We're both at ...
A. 20 May 2010: Hi there! I have some ideas that my help you: 1.Do not initiate any contact with her. If you start begging, crying, sending flowers, gifts, you will only jeopardize your chances even more. Best thing to do is to agree with her and to NO contact wi... (read in full...)
Dreading the upcoming conversation about anal sex!
Q. Hi there, I just read a question where the guy was worried his girlfriend was lying when she said she had never had anal sex before....I'm about to be that girlfriend. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I really really love him. We ...
A. 19 May 2010: I would NOT TELL him, if I were you. Past is past and it should stay there. If he asks you directly "have you ever done that before?", you will have to lie to him. I know lying is not good, but for the sake of your relationship it is the best. Men... (read in full...)
We've had five dates, there's serious chemistry, but he's still dating others
Q. Dating, met online dating and he still has an active profile.... hi, needs some unbiased opinions not from gf's but others. I'm no stranger to online dating just recently went back on again, after a short break. I've met great people, and horrible...
A. 19 May 2010: Hi there! From recent experience, I want to give you my honest advise - DO not sleep with him if you want to keep him around longer. You must have him fall in love with you first, then sleep with him. You know how you make him fall in love wit... (read in full...)
He's moving slower than I might expect -- could he be seeing someone else too?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about a month now, we've known each other for about a year and he has a bit of a reputation for being a bit of a ladies man. Anyway he hasn't tried to have sex with me yet...he's never even mentioned it. On group ...
A. 19 May 2010: 1 month is a very short time. Maybe you've landed a good guy who's not with you only for sex or if he is, then he is not being pushy. If I am you, I will wait as long as possible before sleeping with him and trust me: eventually he will start ... (read in full...)
If I'm pregnant do I have to tell my abusive ex boyfriend?
Q. Ok, so I had the issue of sleeping with my ex although I'd already broken up with him. Mainly I just wanted to see him but he wouldn't keep his hands too himself so I'd give into him. Well now, I've officially called it off. I'm done with him I do...
A. 19 May 2010: He may be abusive or controlling, but you probably aren't perfect either. It takes two people to make a baby after all. I know that you are angry and frustrated with this guy, but the reality is that he is just another human being who has his ... (read in full...)
I did everything he wanted and he still broke up with me
Q. Okay I started dating this guys five years ago, in the beggining he didnt want a relationship but after we became intimate,and i threatened to walk away if i dint get a title, he said lets be official. In the beggining my weight bothered him. I was ...
A. 18 May 2010: Hi, why don't you try the online dating? Create a profile and start talking to other guys. It will definitely distract you from thinking about ur ex and who knows - maybe you will meet someone interesting! I am currently doing that and it helps a ... (read in full...)
If I'm pregnant do I have to tell my abusive ex boyfriend?
Q. Ok, so I had the issue of sleeping with my ex although I'd already broken up with him. Mainly I just wanted to see him but he wouldn't keep his hands too himself so I'd give into him. Well now, I've officially called it off. I'm done with him I do...
A. 17 May 2010: You will have to look up the laws of your state. In my opinion he has the right to know. ... (read in full...)
I did everything he wanted and he still broke up with me
Q. Okay I started dating this guys five years ago, in the beggining he didnt want a relationship but after we became intimate,and i threatened to walk away if i dint get a title, he said lets be official. In the beggining my weight bothered him. I was ...
A. 14 May 2010: When a girl does everything for a guy, the guy unfortunately doesn't have any obligations to return it to her. That is because he is not perfect, nor is anyone else.
Next time don't do "everything for a guy". You have to protect yourself... (read in full...)
I did everything he wanted and he still broke up with me
Q. Okay I started dating this guys five years ago, in the beggining he didnt want a relationship but after we became intimate,and i threatened to walk away if i dint get a title, he said lets be official. In the beggining my weight bothered him. I was ...
A. 13 May 2010: Dear Alexia846,
I am going thought something similar right now - my bf broke up with me and only wants me as friends. He wants to be able to talk to me once and a while as friends. I am trying to gain courage and stop talking to him. I feel so lone... (read in full...)
I did everything he wanted and he still broke up with me
Q. Okay I started dating this guys five years ago, in the beggining he didnt want a relationship but after we became intimate,and i threatened to walk away if i dint get a title, he said lets be official. In the beggining my weight bothered him. I was ...
A. 11 May 2010: I am really sorry for you. I can imagine how much pain this man has caused you. This man manipulated you and used you. He was not happy with you - he was not happy about your physical appearance and he acted as if he was embarrassed of you, but yet ... (read in full...)
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